DISCLAIMER: This represents what being on this site often feels like to me:
And PLEASE: No more messages from women living in the U.S., or Iceland, or Europe looking for a "relationship." Toronto only, please.
My opinions are as strong as they are fallible. Keep that in mind while I get long-winded-y. Profile potentially under construction.
First, my apprehension with all these "statistics" about ourselves:
Let me first say that I have nothing to hide. (In fact, I've been scolded before for being TOO forthcoming, but I still don't fully understand that.) Now, I am a big believer in chemistry, that "je ne sais quoi" about love and/or relationships. I've been - and see others be - friends and/or lovers with people that they would have never spent time with if it had been in this online social networking age within which we can state and over-analyse everything about each other. To me 'compatibility' is just as much about a shared ability to live with and compromise on each other's differences. Obviously there are many exceptions. I won't date racists, homophobes, or people without a good and thick-skinned sense of humour, for instance. I know this sounds corny (and I can be corny!), but love has a mind of its own sometimes, and isn't about thinking "oh, she likes this-and-that, so forget it." Again - I have my limits, but I just feel that the more we say here, the more we risk having that pickiness take over. Besides - a lot of the stuff we could say here is more fun when we say it in person.
That being said, I understand that there are a LOT of douchebags and spooks out there, so I get it. So here we go.
I am (like most of us, I suspect) a walking contradiction: I am a bookworm and a sports guy. (But would never expect a partner to like sports.) I have a degree in Philosophy and a Masters in Film, and am a writer - including poetry - but I don't like being around pretentious people. I can be very loud, but also have many moments of quiet introspection in a day. I am very fit and quite health-conscious about my diet, yet I drink a lot and like to smoke pot from time to time. I am very principled, yet often too forgiving with people I don't know very well. (Well, I don't know them, so how can I say for sure?) I am fiercely loyal and supportive to those close to me, but not afraid to put those same people in their place. (A true friend tells one what they should hear, not what they want to hear.) I welcome new technology in many areas, but am also very old-school. (I still prefer film photography to digital, I didn't have a cell phone until last summer, and I don't drive.) I was a jock when I grew up, but am also a staunch feminist, and generally understand why you find us men so silly. I am a writer, but don't often like to talk about it. I'm going to stop now; this is too long and, like I said, the fun should be in telling it to each other together, not filling out a resume.