I’m polyamorous, so I look for relationships where I can be sexual and romantic with more than one person. But, I also like the idea of having one primary relationship, where the two of us are first in each others’ hearts. The important thing is to communicate openly about these things and check in with each other about our feelings. My belief is that polyamory is hard work, but very worth it.
The other important thing to note is that I can be very sensual, even sexual, with my friends, especially female friends. When I love a friend deeply, I tend to want touch and intimacy with them even if we’re not in a romantic relationship. So, my view is that all these categories are fluid: if we meet and hit it off, we might become friends, we might become lovers, we might even become each other’s primary relationship, but I try not to let any of those categories limit what we can do together. (And, it might take us some time to figure out which category works best for us, which is fine.)
I once read a sex advice website that said something about how you should separate your personal and sexual selves, and like most advice I’ve chosen to ignore it cheerfully, ’cause it’s wrong and makes no sense.
I am artistic, introverted, and compassionate