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5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
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Christianity but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kids
English, French
My self-summary
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ENFP, apparently.
What I’m doing with my life
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I got my master's in American lit from the University of Chicago a few years back, and was working in publishing in midtown Manhattan until December. Then I quit my job to move home to the the windswept plains of West Texas. I moved to be near my son and write crime novels.

Things are going well. I've been doing freelance editing, working a little for NPR on the side, and I don't have a boss or a day job. I spend all day at the coffee shop working. I just finished my third novel, hoping to submit it to agents in the next month.
If you want to know about my journey from NYC to TX, you can read this essay I wrote about it:

I haven't updated my location because I live in a small town, and I feel like it might invite headaches. I'm hoping to travel a lot.

I also go to the boxing gym sometimes, or go running. And I eat a lot of peanut m&ms.
I’m really good at
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Alphabetizing stuff. Creating awkward moments. Making dorky references. Drinking root beer. Recognizing obscure old celebrities. Not recognizing people I have met before. Eating tacos. Doing crossword puzzles. Napping. Mentally copyediting subway advertisements.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have devoted most of my life to books, so that's a hard one. My favorite book is Moby-Dick, I think about that book a lot. And Winesburg, Ohio, which is like a heartbreaking little dollhouse. I also love The Magus, Martin Dressler, The Adventures of Augie March, The Stories of John Cheever, lots of old crime novels like Double Indemnity and The Dain Curse, Hawthorne, Emerson, Dostoevsky, Gogol, Victor Hugo, Patricia Highsmith, Hemingway... Jeez, I dunno... there's a lot. Wait, did I say Willa Cather? I fucking love her.

I like old movies. Especially old musicals, comedies, and noir films from the 30s and 40s. I am desperately in love with Ginger Rogers. I promise, I'm straight.

Here is the best scene from any movie ever:

As far as music goes, I listen to a lot of Coltrane and Mingus and Charlie Parker. I also like Uncle Tupelo. And Bob Wills. And Solomon Burke. Sometimes when I go running I listen to "Wolf Like Me" by TV on the Radio and pretend I'm a werewolf on the loose.

I don't watch much TV. Not being pretentious. I'm just busy. I would watch TV with you if you want.

Food: waffles.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books made of paper
Things made of wood and metal and glass

Also my son, who is my best friend. He's 11.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
reading. I know, I'm a square. I got partying out of my system a few years back.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I lost my virginity to a bald girl.
You should message me if
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you like stuff, and are not opposed to discussing it.