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Updated: December 16th, 2007

Please read the last section of my profile before even considering sending me a message. Thank you.

I am off the market and very happy with my boyfriend, but will always be open to meeting new friends! So please don't message hoping to get lucky, and if you say, "Well, maybe it won't last with him," I'll see that as a sign of disrespect and you DEFINITELY will never have a chance. Not that you will anyway.

If you are interested in being friends, send me a message. Do NOT IM me. Stupid OkC makes you turn it off every time, and I sometimes forget, and it annoys me to get IMs from guys trying to hook up with me. So send a message and wait for a reply. Thanks!

Let's see how much we match! Sometimes I am too easily amused. :)

And a quick note - to those of you who want to message me telling me that I'm conceited for writing so much about MYSELF, well, D'UH! It's MY profile. It's SUPPOSED to be about ME. Not you. ME. You have your own. If you want to see stuff about yourself online, go write it yourself. I prefer to see long profiles that say something than boring profiles with only a few dozen words. If you don't like that I can thing and focus on one thing for so long, well, keep in mind that if I can think and focus on one thing this length of time, there are other ways that that applies. But you're not going to experience it now, are you??

It's difficult to sum myself up in words. My mannerisms, voice inflections, and general body language all play roles that can not be portrayed in simple black-and-white print. I am a tall, attractive, intelligent, self-supporting, non-smoking, non-drug using, healthy, geeky, disease-free, child-free, mature-yet-silly woman who still likes cartoons and daydreaming. But how do I really convey this in the space of this profile?

I over-think a lot of things, and when this happens, I become serious. Suddenly trying to find the right blend of orange juice, coffee, and Dr. Pepper become a matter of life and death, and I've got to figure it out or else Metallica will start to suck! Oh, wait. That already happened. Never mind.

Pardon that last paragraph. I can have an odd sense of humor, though if you found it entertaining, you'd probably enjoy spending time with me.

When I believe in something, I am heated about it, but in no way closed-minded, and on only a few topics is there no chance of my opinion changing. Only on the topics of abortion (I'm pro-life) and basic human rights can I not be swayed.

I am passionate in ways I can not, and will not, even attempt to describe. Perhaps because of this, I prefer my relationships to be one with actual contact. I kind of feel antsy if I only see someone I'm dating every couple of weeks if we're an hour or less apart. At the same time, I don't want to be smothered and be seeing each other every single day until a relationship is at an advanced stage. I'm tactile, and find nothing wrong with platonic cuddling with platonic friends. In America, we seem to connect almost all physical contact with being sexual in nature, and I believe that this is why we are so disconnected from each other. Humans need touch-contact, but we are in a society where what we need by nature is seen as wrong. So I cuddle with friends, and I especially love to cuddle a guy I'm dating.

Energetic and enthusiastic can barely begin to describe me. Sometimes people are off-put by my child-like enthusiasm. If something sounds fun, I want to do it. If something is interesting, I want to learn more. While some nights are wonderful for watching movies, sometimes I don't want to stay still and instead want to bounce around and be playful.

At the same time, I can also be more mature than I should be fore my age. Many people thing they've been through a lot in life, but a few of us really have been. I was forced to grow up too soon, so, due to having been more like a 40-year-old, I am better able to appreciate my youth while still having it. As such, I am what you might call "dating around." I've had tendency toward relationships that get serious too quickly, and so am experiencing new things now. Do not take this to mean that I am a "loose girl" or anything. I'm actually difficult to get into bed. I just like to meet people, and, again with the a-word, appreciate being able to do so.

I'm not exactly gullible, but tend to take people for what they say. While my own sense of humor can be dry sarcasm, often if someone makes a sarcastic joke toward me I think it's literal. I like to have some trust people, and so err on the side of someone being literal rather than jokeing. This is what I like least about myself as it hinders the confidence I've gained.

You never know what you're going to get with me. A friend I lost this past July mentioned "the WTF-ness of [me]." Yeah, you never know when you'll walk out into the living room to find me with my legs over my head on the ground behind me or for me to suddenly start dancing in the park. I do the unexpected and an completely unpredictable, even to myself. This, combined with my compassion, are why I like myself.

While modest and shy, I can confidently tell you that I am a great woman, and really, those who know me are lucky. Unfortunately, as I am so shy upon first meeting, few stick around to see me a second time. Those who do don't regret it. Coming out of my shell is like watching a flower bloom.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

Who would guess that a woman is on the board of directors of an international men's rights organization specializing in fathers' rights? Well, I am. As such, I've seen the inner workings of the juvenile and family law systems a bit more than most people every will. Law's tricky, and one thing I've learned is that a good attorney can prove opposing sides of a case to both be lawfully correct if trying hard enough. But a good one also remembers that the clients are real people. I nearly went into law after a few social workers and an attorney for CPS told me I could practically be an attorney. For my dedication to technology, I don't think I'd have the same dedication for law school. I'd probably forgo having a life. When I really get into something like this, it becomes an obsession.

Most of the rest of the time I'm up to various things. With little exception, I like to keep my schedule open so that I am available to go to whatever comes up without stressing that my agenda is thrown off because this event of that came up that I'd like to attend.

I'm really good at Propose an edit

I can calm people down and understand people. It's as if I can put myself in someone else's head and see out their eyes, thinking as they do, to realize what they need to be calmed, and to understand how they think to accept. I am very good at not getting angry and, when I do, on the rare occasion that it happens, I control it very well.

Let us not forget that I cook exceptionally well and can design and sew things most people can't imagine being done by hand. I've been told I should do both professionally. In fact, I've had a custom formals/movie gown reproduction company since I was 18, though little has been done in the last year. My quality standards are so stringent that I trust no one else to sew under my name, and so do it all myself. But I've been putting energy into other things.

I'm also a very quick learner and love to take challenges.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

Since people don't exactly stop to talk to me about my views on current events or what I think of the latest song by some pop artist I don't listen to, this must mean that it's something physical.

I am very frequently stopped and commented on my hair. So I would assume that even people who don't stop me probably notice it first as well. Red hair isn't that common. And it's a nice, vivid red! A close second would be my eyes. They're very, very blue and doe-like. Both contribute to my classical appearance.

Now, once past physical attribute, I'd think that this would be my aura. This is frequently mentioned. I have a calming effect on most people as long as I'm not being shy.

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

Love, human contact, knowledge, the beauty I find in the small things in life, the ability to express myself, and good friends.

Okay, serious stuff aside, I'd have to say:

Sex, my video iPod, BSG (I bought the 60BG video iPod specifically so I could put the whole series of BSG onto it, only now there's the 80GB with a brighter display I must get sometime), a computer with high-speed internet access, my cat, and some cash.

Whoa, wait, in re-reading that, I just realized how bad it sounds. Sex, but no person, just an animal? Okay, let's combine BSG with my iPod and add a wonderful human-man named Nickolay to that. That works!!

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

Everything? Anything and everything!

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

Lately, not much.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

Whispers *I see dead people!* LOL, j/k!

I practically have a silk fetish. And I don't believe that there is such a thing as too much kissing. Some of the best mights in recent memory (as in the last year) involved a night of nothing past kissing. I have been fortunate to encounter some absolutely amazing kissers since my now-ex-roommate's boyfriend lifted the kissing bar (before they met, when he and I were both still single). Let's see. His brother blew him away (I can hear the brains out there screaming, "WHAT THE FUCK?!"), this guy I spent one night with and am now friends with was amazing, and the guy I'm dating now is just so sweet and I love his kisses so much more that all others suck in comparison. My boyfriend's kisses can leave me breathless and dizzy.

So yeah. Kisses and silk. Or kissing while between my silk sheets.

You should message me if Propose an edit

If you have an actual profile with substance to it, then I'd welcome a message from you. If you have written nothing in your profile, you can bet I will not reply. If you won't take a few minutes to write even a basic profile, why should I take time from my busy schedule to formulate a response to your one-lined message telling me I should write you?

I also am not much of a fan of indefinite online-only communication. As I work in front of a computer all the time, often the last thing I feel like doing is typing some more. So if you write to me, please have a willingness to get some coffee or lunch sometime soon rather than with the intention to just write back and forth or IM. I've got enough friends online I have never met offine. Time to sway the count.

NOTES:

(Friends of mine are exempt from this section.)

Just because I appear signed on does not always mean I am around. I often leave a window up with a few websites I tend to frequent. Please do not repeatedly message me as if I am ignoring you. I may not be here and, if I am ignoring you, continuing to write will only annoy me, not make me want to write.

Just because I have not written back right away does not mean that I won't. I sometimes become extremely busy and don't have time to write out a proper reply to those who do interest me. But if you did interest me and you decide to keep messaging be before receiving a reply, you've just found yourself deleted.

If I am interested, I will send you a message back. To repeatedly write to me comes across as clingy and possibly a bit controlling and/or possessive, which is creepy since I'm not single. Unless I actually know you well, I do not appreciate my space being crowded, and my inbox containing several messages from any one person to whom I have not replied is crowding.

If you do not understand these rules or think me a conceited bitch, then you are not going to be a good friend to me. All I ask is respect.

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