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44 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Graduated from two-year college
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I like to think that we all reach an age when we take true possession of our minds, our bodies, our secret wishes and wants, live them and wear them on our sleeves - even the ones that may shock the better of our angels. Life is too short to ignore what drives you in your guts. I am expressive, self-possessed, passionate, comfortable in my own skin, and rather well-adjusted after living a rather knock-about life. We all have a past, for better or worse, but I have to ask: what are you doing with yours? Are you defined by it, playing mistakes like a tape loop or a skipping record? I make art from mine. I'm not afraid that it may not always seem pretty. It's not. It's fucking beautiful.
I have been there, and done that, but haven't lost my sense of goodness, mystery, and wonder in the world. Mostly. I like the mystery part. I want a partner in crime. Got any clues?
Native NYC man.
I used to make my living in the electronic music scene in SF as a multi-media artist.
I used to buy and sell vintage clothes.
I'm a bit of a ghost hunter. You don't believe in ghosts? Okay...I have a few stories for you then.
I'm trying to forget about living in LA.
I have hitched my way around most of America, back in the 80s, looking for the scattered remnants of Jack Kerouac, but all I found were simple stories, a lovely overpass to sleep under somewhere in Iowa on a hot night in July, and a sad girl surrounded by farmers in a strange diner in Lodi, Ohio. I couldn't take her with me.
I night-job in a bar.
I'm a writer, and most of my work is gritty, and I use a lot of dirty words...on and off the page. If the writing thing never pans out, I'm thinking of opening an abandoned gas station in the desert, or raising show ferrets. Yes. I have a plan.
My eyes change color, depending on my mood and the weather.
John Dillinger was killed on my birthday.
My grandfather was a grifter in NYC in the 50s.
He was married to Leona Helmsley. Twice.
I can tell you an great story about him and Rita Hayworth.
I am often cynical and irreverent.
I'm funny as hell 50% of the time. Maybe 75%. We can be together 25% of the time if you like.
I only have a few vices left. Some of them you'll like.
I've never owned a car. I do know how to drive.
Most of my bad-boys days are behind me. Just the best of bad remains, which is quite good, actually.
I just bought a new pair of Doc Martins. Wanna break 'em in with me?
For all my glitter and doom, I'm quite adoreable. You'll see...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Putting together a number of books for a few different presses, local and non. Fiction/memoir/ and yes, poetry. (What a dirty word).

Rinse, cycle, repeat.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Documenting urban decay and little stories about outcasts and the lovelorn, lost inside their worlds of kiss and kill.
Tracing a finger along your eyebrow or cheekbone when we kiss.
Dancing. Singing. Shooting pool.
Making you laugh out loud. (In person, no acronyms).
Being direct, loving, and generally swell.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My razor-sharp wit, or my nose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Cymandie, Muddy Waters, Thievery Corp., The Velvet Underground, Yo La Tango, My Bloody Valentine, Coldcut, Sleater Kinney, King Crimson, David Bowie, Iggy and the Stooges, Jim Carroll, Patti Smith, Public Enemy, Fugazi, White Denim, Sam and Dave, Wilson Pickett, Belle and Sabastian, The Beta Band, Miles Davis, JSBE, The Sea and Cake, Billy Holiday, Beck, Tom Waits, The Minutmen, Medicine, Thee Oh Sees, etc... LoFi/Garage/Blues/Jazz/R+B/Soul/Electronica/Trip-Hop.

I've been listening to a lot of Garage Rock, Rockabilly, and Psychobilly on Pandora lately, and keep discovering amazing stuff. Fuck NPR - it's my new soundtrack.

Movies: Mondo-Trash, inc. John Waters, Russ Meyers and Paul Morrissey. Big fan of 50s-70s cinema. Noir! Foreign, esp. French, from Jacque Tati to The New Wave to Gasper Noe. Most directors inc. David Lynch, Martin Scorsese, Billy Wilder, Robert Altman, John Cassavetes, Woody Allen, David Cronenberg, Alfred Hitchcock, Federico Fillini, Jim Jarmusch, and Wes Anderson.
Guilty pleasures: Lucio Fulci and John Hughes.
Faves: Who's Afraid of Virgina Woolf?, Sunset Boulevard, To Kill a Mockingbird, Heavy Traffic, Barfly, Down by Law, Zelig, Rear Window, and Pink Flamingos, just to name a few.

Cartoons: The films of Ralph Bakshi and Josie and the Pussycats. (The original, not when they are in outer space. We can discuss this). Underdog! (My go-to halloween costume between the ages of 4-6 yrs old).

Authors: Henry Valentine Miller, Raymond Carver, William Kennedy, James Ellroy, Charles Bukowski, William S. Burroughs, Hubert Selby Jr, Leroi Jones, and JG Ballard. Currently I'm reading 'Dog Eat Dog' by Edward Bunker. He is brutal, but completely true to his experience. I value that.

Playwrights: David Mamet and Arthur Miller.

Photography: Weegee and Margaret Bourke-White. A friend recently turned me onto the work of Diane Arbus. So good.

I'm working on a writing/photography project, so I've been looking at a lot of mug shots from the 1920s. The images are amazing, and were probably taken by cops from the local precinct, but show real artistry in their stark yet beautiful composition.

Art: Roy Lichtenstein, Robert Crumb and Ralph Steadman.

Shows: Lately: True Detective, Hannibal, Ghost Adventures, and Fargo. (It's actually quite good). Inside Amy Schumer. The Spoils of Babylon. The last season of American Horror Story was not my favorite, but next season takes place at a carnival in the 50s, so that sounds good...

Food: YES. I'm happy with a turkey sandwich and a cup of Mate.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Writing. Sex. Quality sleep. Brutal honesty. Women in knee-highs, with bangs. More writing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
New/old work and edit edit edit.

Thinking about something devilishly clever to say...Hmmm. Nope. Didn't do it this time. *sigh*
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working at a local bar, then going home late-late to wash the stink of Axe body spray and Fireball whiskey from my body. Transfer is a bitch. Ivory soap works. I am the 99.9%.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a hopeless romantic and rather sentimental. Please don't tell anyone.
You should message me if
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If you agreed when Tom Waits sang 'It's a sad and beautiful world'.
If you make any kind of art.
If you want to make art with me.
If you want to teach me how to swing dance.
Bonus points if you know the sources of my username - you have all the clues. Sorry ladies, but it has nothing to do with Ryan Gosling, and PLEASE be over your x's. I am.
ALSO, I do not have an A-list subscription. Sometimes I see that someone likes me. I see a number. I have no idea who you are, but I'd like to. Maybe follow it up with a little message. I'm here to connect with someone, and if you are too, then give it a whirl. It's kind of risky, I know, but worth it.