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BluemanSteele

40 M Austin, TX

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Dislikes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm in a period of reflection and change. While I am on this period of self-discovery, I would like to meet some like-minded people to share time and experiences with. Just know that I'll often need time to myself to think and observe how life has gone so far, but I'd like to meet someone with whom I can interrupt my self reflection (which sometimes can be meditation, or sometimes can be 420.)

I am an Atheist pro-choice Liberal, looking for the same.
I value politeness, friendship, and warmth a great deal.
Meeting someone for the first time, for me, is usually just a cup of coffee or hot chocolate somewhere.

Often I can be quite shy around people I like. If I am attracted to you, admire you, or even just really dig your company, I have the weird tendency to get awkward and not smooth at all. That can be cured if I find out the feeling is mutual though. I strive on trying to be graceful in many ways. Thus if I'm being a total donk around you, I absolutely like you.

(High fives to everyone who just got the "donk" reference.)

Even online I can get shy. So sometimes I'll rate someone high if I like them, and then only write to those who the feeling is mutual (they've rated me highly back).

I'm not looking for THE relationship of my life. I'm looking for my next one. Whether it be sexual, emotional or a combination of the two. I hope to meet someone who I can get to know and then find out what works best between us.

Getting to know someone really well is the first step for me. For me, no matter how "compatible" we are, nothing serious starts until I look you in the eyes and can say to myself "I trust you".

I'd like to meet someone who knows that promises are all empty until you actually accomplish said promise.

What I hope you are reading for is "should I go have coffee with this guy?"

I'm looking for something romantic and physical, but I must start with meeting new friends. I just ask that you make it clear which one you are desiring.

If you want to know anything about me, I'm usually one to answer very candidly.

I would like to meet someone who enjoys spending time dancing, singing, gaming and watching movies. Someone who can both go out and stay in.

How we get along and communicate is the biggest factor in where we things can go.

I try start out neither trusting nor distrusting people. As I get to know them, trust can grow with each experience we have. Trust for me is made or broken by the difference between your actions and your words. To be honest to me, you need to be honest with yourself first.

I like finding someone to enjoy spending time with and sharing my ideas and feelings. Someone to show kindness to and have kindness in return. I usually prefer doing things with good company. I measure good company by whether or not I'd rather just be alone :-)

I'm not concerned with the typical things. It's not what you do for living that will interest me as much as how you do it. I like the integrity of those willing to tell the truth rather than make little white lies.

The "Great Outdoors" is something I tend to avoid, but I can occasionally be convinced to get out when it's not too hot or humid (or if it's not too cold). I think the weather here is enough for me want to move back to San Francisco, but I came here to escape the rent. The rivers running through a city strike a great balance for me.

I prefer to meet people in person with little or no expectations, just a meet-and-greet, then see where things go. If you'd like to meet new people and understand that serious relationships only happen after knowing each other a long time, drop me line.
What I’m doing with my life
Currently I'm focusing on a new job. I need to learn ASL quickly while progressing on a technical level.

This summer, my life turned to politics. If you find politics boring, then you have a good idea about how I feel about sporting events. However, if orange shirts, and Wendy Davis, and "sb5" or "hb2" mean anything to you, I was front row center screaming louder than any fan at any sport.

I'm trying to find "quality of life balance" which tends to mean having a job that pays enough, but gives you enough free time to enjoy it. However I don't want "so what do you do for living?" to define me, so I am looking for other ways to expand.

Outside of working, I was an avid dancer, lately that crowd is not where I want to be. However, I love Blues, Swing less-so and am learning a bit of west coast and salsa. I used to host Fusion dances but have moved on from that. I also love video games (they have been a long part of my career) and would love to meet others who can mix such different hobbies.

For a time, I plan to be much more of a homebody, watching movies, playing games. I would love someone to join me.

In the long term, my goals revolve more on how I live day to day and treat others. I don't equate goals with "I'm willing to do whatever it takes" which, in today's world, I've seen turn into "I will compromise all of my personal integrity to be financially secure".

Also while I try to be nice to the environment and society in general, I live more in a form of simple survival rather than a "world saving" view.
I’m really good at
I feel. That is what I do best. Not the best skill in the world but I figure with so many people going numb it's best that I keep up practice in case compassion is ever in vogue again. I can spot the emperor's new clothes. I'm self described as a skeptic and often called a pessimist (wrongly so). I simply don't take things as given nor for granted.

I also try my best at communications. Clarity over content, while being tactful and honest.

I'm also a non-believer in many things. Gods, astrology, karma, and other quackery. As Mark Twain says "Faith is believing what you know ain't so."
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing people notice about me is that they have trouble figuring me out. I'm complex and the first thing people notice about me can be very very different depending on when you meet me. I may seem, funny, moody, or pensive.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I tend to read more fiction than true stories, perhaps that's because I read as an escape? However, I do read a lot of technical and educational books. More and more I find myself reading on the net instead of books. Very recently I've gotten back into reading novels for fun and relaxation.

I tend to live to eat, but lately I eat "as needed". I try to eat foods that make me happy as long as they are not horrible for me (with occasional indulgences), but I do adjust what I eat now and then to get what I need. I'm not vegetarian but occasionally find myself eating vegetarian or vegan meals depending on my body's mood.

Music is something I rarely agree with enough to listen much to the radio (Though I love BOB FM). Nearly everything I have to be in a "mood" for. I can dislike Trance Techno one moment, then want to hear it if I'm in a different mood. Other times I want to listen to Big Band music.

I like good "Music" that is well made and performed. I could say listen to Blues, Swing, Rock, and Pop but that hardly covers that, while in Texas, I go two stepping where they play Country... (which I will profess, even under duress, to hate)... followed by going home listening to Tori Amos.

I also like Lauri Anderson, The Beatles, They Might Be Giants, Lorena Mckennitt, Cake. When no one is looking I take out my old tapes of Hewey Lewis and the News. NPR and especially This American Life are a big part of what I listen to.

I don't watch broadcast TV. It's not that I don't like TV shows, I just hate the idea of watching something at a particular time. On DVD (or at someone else's house with cable) I'll watch Family Guy, Flight of the Conchords, American Dad, Myth Busters, Heros,CSI Las Vegas and House. I'm very much into animation especially Aardman animation. I have gotten in hulu.com because I can watch at my pace and not be tied to the "box". I freaking love "Adventure Time".

Movies I'll cover another time, but I can't bear horror and love animation.
The six things I could never do without
Good conversation
Delicious food
Respecting and being respected
The time and ability to play
Involvement with Art
A sense of purpose
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How people treat each other.

How things work.

How to start doing more creative work in my life.
On a typical Friday night I am
It used to say "Blues dancing and occasionally Swing dancing". Now I don't have a typical Friday.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My moniker here is the same as in a Second Life I have. If you track me down there and say hi, you'll impress me. Some people think it's perverted. Well if perverted thoughts scare you, please move on to someone else.

I used to have a junker car that I drove til the wheels fell off. I learned that I only cared for those still respected me when my car was shit.

I value a level of politeness that most people can't understand, emulate, or give the energy too. If you're a person whose politeness seems "wasted" on others, I may be someone who can appreciate it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–100
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you are polite and thoughtful.
If you are smart and nerdy.
If you want to get to know me.
Bonus if you are creative and funny.
If you know me personally and just want to say hi.
If you'd both enjoy an evening at the ballet or opera just as much as binge watching anime and playing video games.