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30 Pomona, CA Man


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  • Ages 37–58
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My Details

Last Online
Jan 3
Asian, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Chinese (Poorly), Tagalog (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm here to check things out. I'm a really nice guy, very low-maintenance, and quite averse to BS, drama, and mind games. I can be a little sarcastic and blunt sometimes, but it's all coming from a good and real place, and it's a reflection of my off-beat sense of humor and rather endearing crustiness (think Sophia or Dorothy from the Golden Girls).

Be it indoors at a museum or outdoors at the beach, I'm happy as a clam as long as the company is good, the weather is agreeable, and we cap it all off by having a really flavorful and satisfying meal at some non-pretentious eatery. (My recommendations of the moment: Mama Lu's Dumpling House in Monterey Park, Viva Madrid in Claremont, Young Dong Tofu in Diamond Bar, Elijah's in La Jolla, and Bangkok Spice in San Diego.)

But this is not set in stone. I have no particular agenda, and I'm open to any and all possibilities and experiences.

I am easy-going, levelheaded, and charmingly weird.
What I’m doing with my life
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At present, I'm working for a nearby university helping them develop a digital archive for their budgetary records. I'm also helping care for my 11-year old nephew in my spare time while his mom (my sister) is deployed overseas. I'm in a transitionary period right now, and I'm in the midst of solidifying major plans for the long-term. Applying to grad school with the goal of pursuing an MPP or MPA is definitely in the horizon, and I'm also intent on relocating to my adoptive, yet much beloved San Diego.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
talking about politics and current events, elections, geography (my first true love), and art history (my second true love); baking; being sarcastic; being crazy; finding the sublime in awkward situations; procrastinating; contorting and stretching to tuck my feet behind my head; having a good time; recalling random trivia; preparing spreadsheets about the most random topics; preparing hypothetical Olympic bids; and of course, the carnal arts and the blissful agony of coitus.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My facial hair. Depending on the growth of my majestic beard or the prominence of my 5 o'clock shadow, the most common comment I hear is "You're Asian. You're not supposed to have facial hair." If that's the case, then those unbelievably addictive salt caramel macarons from Bottega Louie are not supposed to have calories or fat either...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm not much a reader of fiction, but I have to say that I love Jules Verne. "20,000 Leagues Under the Sea" really captured my imagination as a child and I must have done at least two book reports on it growing up. I usually gravitate towards books about history, political science, liberalism and progressivism, and current events. I just finished reading Rachel Maddow's "Drift" (it was AMAZING) and I'm in the thick of Al Gore's "The Assault on Reason". My favorite books are Nakae Chomin's "A Discourse by Three Drunkards on Government", Hillary Rodham Clinton's "Living History", and Paul Krugman's "The Conscience of a Liberal". I also love reading poetry. TS Eliot is my favorite. Although I try to avoid getting caught up in the zeitgeist, I am considering plunging into "The Hunger Games" series.

I love historical epics and period movies, comedies, sci-fi movies, and foreign LGBT movies. I especially love scary movies. I don't like watching gratuitously violent and/or unnecessarily macabre movies - hence my aversion towards action flicks and slasher movies. I also decry most romantic comedies (since they're somewhat predictably godawful), inspirational sports movies, works by Jerry Bruckheimer and Michael Bay, and also anything that includes "The Twilight Saga" in its title.

I have pretty simple and quirky TV tastes. When not binging on Love It or List It (both Toronto and Vancouver versions), Flip or Flop, or Property Brothers on HGTV, my repertoire right now is comprised of Downton Abbey, Parks & Recreation, Veep, The Goldbergs, The Mindy Project, Mad Men, Hell on Wheels, Black-ish, Madam Secretary, Call the Midwife, Mr. Selfridge, Top Chef, King of the Hill, The Vikings, and Big Bang Theory. I'm also a big political junkie, and I enjoy the progressive/populist lineup of MSNBC (Alex Wagner, The Cycle, Al Sharpton, Chris Matthews, Rachel Maddow, Ed Schultz, Lawrence O'Donnell, Chris Hayes, Steve Kornacki, and Melissa Harris-Perry) in any order I can catch it. Depending on my mood, I also love haplessly wandering into NatGeo, History, Discovery, Animal Planet, or Science to watch documentaries on the most random subjects (I'm a bit infatuated with Danny Forster from Build It Bigger, and I'm always down for an impromptu Firefly marathon, although I own the DVDs), or PBS for a multi-part Ken Burns documentary or Frontline special. If I'm babysitting my nephew, then we usually watch Phineas and Ferb or iCarly reruns while munching on some Haribo candies.

My ears are open to anything that sounds good and has great lyrics. I love Rilo Kiley, Of Monsters and Men, Florence + the Machine, Kylie Minogue, Temper Trap, Tim Myers, Mayer Hawthorne, Scissor Sisters, The Like, and Nelly Furtado. I worship the ground that Lady Gaga walks on, and I'm quite enamored with HAIM right now. I also like great musical scores (James Horner, Steve Jablonsky, and Hans Zimmer are my favorite composers) and classical music.

I'm a big foodie, and it is my mission in life to sample as many cuisines as possible. I love going on food tours (Gold or Expo Line culinary tour, anyone?), and Japanese, Korean, Indian, vegetarian/vegan, and soul food are my flavors of the moment. I also adore tea houses and love tea house fare. And there is a special place in my heart and appetite for SPICY food - the hotter, the better. :) I'm not too big a fan of garlic, although I do cook with it and I'm in the midst of teaching myself to like it. And speaking of cooking - I like to cook and bake. My best dishes so far: Cayenne-crusted pork tenderloin with a lemon pepper jus, and my Snickerdoodles to finish. To get on my good side, just get me a bag (or four) of those lovable Gummy Tummy Penguins from Trader Joe's.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1 - The company and counsel of my friends.
2 - My MacBook. (Even without internet access, I can make myself busy with my laptop and Microsoft Excel).
3 - Tomatoes. (I once went an entire month eating nothing but tomatoes and almonds, but I don't love almonds nearly as much as tomatoes.)
4 - Public transportation. (Long live Metro Rail.)
5 - Sunshine. (Cloudy and overcast days, rainy days, and the end of Daylight Saving Time make me really sad.)
6 - Condiments. Especially original Tabasco, Tapatio, and/or HP Sauce.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the future. Be it upcoming elections, upcoming Olympic Games, the extent to which glaciers and ice caps will be retreating, the new and amazing sets Lego will come up with next, when I will finally get to go skydiving, or which machines and weights I'll be using at the gym the next day, I find myself thinking about the future at least once or twice everyday. However, I'm quite the neurotic optimist, and I'm fully aware of the pitfalls of constantly making projections and thinking in hypotheticals. There is no time like the present, after all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
1) Watching my eleven year old nephew.
1.5) Playing with my nephew's Legos. Yes. I'm an unabashed and unapologetic AFOL. And bonus points if you know what that is.
2) At the gym working out, swimming, and/or having a steam.
3) Hanging out with one of my sisters or friends.
4) Experimenting with a new recipe in the kitchen.
5) Doing laundry. I find the sorting, the folding, the warmth, the static cling, the scent to be sublimely cathartic.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My friends occasionally refer to me as "Mama". Long story.
You should message me if
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you want the scoop on the upcoming election, or if you're interested in getting to know me a bit more. :) If you're MY AGE or OLDER, then by all means - let's hang out and have fun. I really have no hang ups with race, but with regards to age - I do prefer guys who are older (37+), as I find the conversations and company to be more substantial and the sex to be a lot better with them. However, this is not set in stone - as long as you're my age or older, then it should be fine. I tend not to date guys younger than me. Apart from that proviso, I don't care if you're a Washington insider or outsider, or if you prefer Coke to Pepsi or vice versa. I'm really nice, so just sit back, unwind, and be yourself. All's I ask is that you exhibit some awareness, intelligence, open-mindedness, and maturity. To this moment, and the moments yet to come. :)

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