I'm hoping to meet good-hearted, well-mannered, politically progressive people--male, female, or in between--in the Boston area. I'm currently in a delightful newish and increasingly serious relationship, and dating another lovely person as well. So my emotional plate is pretty full right now. But with that in mind, I'm still open to meeting potential dates, play partners, and friends.
I can't find a way to say this that doesn't sound rude, but I want to be really clear: You need to be a feminist to date me, even casually. You also need to be somewhat aware of issues around race, class, and sexuality. I don't mean that you have to be an activist; just try not to be a jerk around systems of power.
The older I get, the more I believe in emphasizing the "friends" in "friends with benefits." I don't think sex has to be romantic (though it can be), but I try only to sleep with people I genuinely like. Also, if you're attached, honesty and the cheerful consent of all parties are essential: I'm not interested in sneaking around.