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Boredomfiend609

30 / M / Bisexual / Available

Los Angeles, California

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:26am
Ethnicity
Asian, Middle Eastern, Black, Native American, Indian, Pacific Islander, Hispanic / Latin, White, Other
Height
6′ 4″ (1.93m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism but not too serious about it
Sign
Leo and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Here's the deal. I eat awesome-sauce for breakfast, and you probably can't handle it. If you can, I'll love you forever and take you on a wild ride, at least until we reach equilibrium or part ways for a while.
If not, I don't blame you. I am uninhibited, and normal people are usually either very impressed or very scared of/for me. Some people call me enlightened. I don't.

I've been called both a freak of nature and freak of nurture ... both are pretty accurate.

If you're looking for normal, move along. I don't play by the rules you're used to. My brain works differently. My body bends differently. My life runs differently. I'm not interested in typical relationships. I'm not laying groundwork for children. I have vastly different views on love, sex, relationships, society and humanity than you.

I don't just think outside the box, I live a dodecahedron.

I am a phenomenal companion-person, and I'm looking for partners. Business partners, performance partners, partners in making art, and um.. etc.

I am...

creative, intelligent and insightful;
warm, friendly and empathic;
dangerous, exciting and fun;
Looking for partner(s) in life, love and trouble.
What I’m doing with my life
Everything, and then some. I'm a jack of all trades, a modern renaissance man, a doer, a mover, an entrepreneur. I love small business and DIY that makes money, and performing with professionals. Always looking for work and people to work with. Need a website? Hire me, or lets trade skills.
I’m really good at
- Being flexible in every way. I'm a yogi contortionist who believes in constant change and an intense form of relativity. There is no "right" way to live, think, believe or perceive but I'm curious how you do it anyway.

- Bringing change. I am a chaos element. Free of charge.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have kindness in my eyes, and warmth in my touch.

very Pitta by ayurvedic descriptors.
Contortionist with a nearly 360 turnout.
a Talent in many ways.
Clearly INTP, except in public.
fire-breathing Dragon..
Empath with magic hands.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
The door to a man's heart is through his stomach.
Feed me and I'll come back like a stray cat.
I like it spicier than you do, but that isn't a challenge. Unless a challenge is what you need to get up the nerve to meet someone off this site. In that case, bring it. When my brow is sweating and my mouth is burning, I probably have a big happy smile.

The best movies and shows come from even better books. For example, read Fight Club and the Game of Thrones series. Epic.

I don't own a TV. If you want to watch something, it'll be on a laptop or at your place. If you want to do yoga or aerial, that can be at mine.

--Fantasy requisites for an Inspired mind: Atlas Shrugged. Ender's Game. The Truth Machine. Dune. A World Out Of Time.
The six things I could never do without
Friends - The ones who love you for who you truly are.
Understanding - We are different, and that's okay.
Love - In all its thousand forms.
Sensuality - There's so much more to life and relationships than marriage, missionary and monogamy. Your moral fortress is actually a prison. Escape!
New Experiences - Evolve, human. You have more in you than this. Try something you're afraid of, with an open mind. Fear is the enemy. Conquer it. Try it twice.
Touch - Whether it involves a tangle of limbs or just a therapeutic massage, touch is intoxicating. My favorite drug, because we both get high for free, for minutes or hours, anytime we want.
My Passport - I need to go somewhere. Take me home with you! (and feed me. I like couches) Especially if home is in another country (and the food is spicy). I need a month somewhere else.
Multiple Relationships - I'm not looking for someone to 'complete' my life, but a few people who can make it (more) awesome.

... and probably cats. More and more I'm noticing and being told I've got a lot of natural feline characteristics, including but not limited to anatomical articulation, behavior and movement style. I'm not a furry, but I have started using the character concept a bit in my contortion work. I also blame cats for the way I touch and like to be touched.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Bartering. Take two products or services of relative value, and exchange them without the use of currency. I like bartering. Its much friendlier than buying and selling and charging for stuff all the time. I happen to have a multitude of skills and services available, and even a few products.

I offer: Yoga instruction; Pro massage; Welding; Art modeling; Photo modeling; Furniture building; Sculpting; Performance; etc.

At this time, I am looking for: Haircuts; Headshots; Voice reel; Film reel; Art collaborations; Art modeling; Aerial lessons; Contortion/cirque lessons; Pro massage; Costumes; Accessories; Anything awesome; etc.
Now we can meet, exchange useful services and both come out happy without spending a dime.

Notice: sex is not on either list. Please do NOT ask to barter for anything sexual... unless of course, you're so awesome that I can't refuse. In that case, I'd suggest disarming me with food before making any moves.

Human interaction, and how limited it is these days. Life is a choose-your-own-adventure book, and you can write-in new options. Try to realize what choices have been made FOR you, so you can consider what choices you might have made instead.

Love, truth, respect. I don't understand why people go so far out of their way to avoid these ideas in their lives sometimes. Why they allow themselves to act in an opposing manner... especially when they are self-aware enough to see it, and smart enough to understand it. These things are on the path to inner peace, and straying from them just creates strife in your life and others.
On a typical Friday night I am
Most likely at Work, or Bartering. Scroll up and read the list.

What is work, you ask? That is another list. No telling what it will be tomorrow or next month.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am not exclusive with my mind, heart or body, and I hope to connect with others who are as free to Live and Love.

I'd like to date an artist. I've been a professional muse for about eight years, but never had that artistic connection in my personal life. I'm also now starting to draw, and I'd appreciate someone who understands more reasons to be naked than sex and bathing; the beauty of the human form.
Note: I'm starting to acknowledge that I Am an artist, so dating a model might also be a good idea so I have someone to work from.

I'd like to date a web designer/developer. Sounds like great nights and productive days. I have a ton of website ideas and would love someone I can work with on starting some businesses. If they get along well with the artist I might be dating, all the better. Sounds like another crazy adventure.

I'd like to date a performer. Someone who has a passion for fire, or flexibility that is comparable to mine (good luck), or a love of flying (aerial). Someone who will push my limits, who I can entice the crowd with, then take home and ravage.

Every relationship is different, unique. I value the people I keep in my life. When I discover a connection with someone, its there forever. Family isn't just who you're born with, but who you connect with. Sometimes that bond is innate, sometimes it is developed.

Want something that is /actually/ private? I may or may not be bi. Haven't experimented with guys yet. I just support diversity and use that label as one of several filters against narrow-minded people. Heteroflexible would probably be the best way to label me, if you feel the need to try.
Notice: I'm not looking to date single men. No. If you want to talk, try something more than "Hi" or "How's it goin," those are not conversation starters. Once again.. not dating gay men. Not here just to 'hook up' with anyone.

Something else? I'm realizing that I want to connect with a couple. A m/f or f/f pair that is solid together and both find some interest in me. Doesn't have to be sexual, but it might be a whole lot of fun. Triad? I'd make an excellent third wheel. I'm compersive, not competitive or jealous.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
If you are interested in designing a custom relationship - borrowing from tradition and convention, but basing it on what actually works for the unique individual(s) involved.

If your living space offers privacy enough to lounge around nude, or you don't feel the need for such privacy. I sometimes get the artistic urge myself to draw or sculpt, but am pretty awkward at initiating it. Group motivation! Get nekkid!
please note.. nudity is Not a precursor to sex. I've been nude in front of thousands of people I have not had sex with. I can do it, so can you. Its only scary until you try it.. For about five minutes.
.. especially looking for an artist who would like to trade off posing nude. I need many hours of drawing practice.

If you are ready for change in your life.
I am a chaos element. I brazenly ignore social norms if I even notice them in the first place. The status quo is a joke without a punchline. That thing you're hiding from, or hiding from others, is clear to me. I'll help you deal with it and grow past it, or into it as the case may be. I see your true self, and I can help you see it too. If you need to keep your skeletons hidden, keep your distance.

If you want to buy me sushi.
Will gladly trade with therapeutic touch and/or massage, private yoga instruction, fire-dance lesson, relationship/life counseling, or whatever else I can help you with. Just buy me sushi, and we'll take it from there.
EDIT: sushi makes me an instant fawning fan, but any food type will still make me extra friendly. Especially Pizza.

I'm especially looking for people who can impact my life. TEACH ME something, be it social, emotional, sexual, productive or enlightening. Help me grow, and I'll love you for it. Add something to my life, and I'll keep you in it forever.

I'd appreciate someone who is Dominant. I'm a switch by nature, but most hetero relationships assume a dominant male, and I'm tall so it reinforces the stereotypical expectation. I rarely if ever encounter people who are naturally dominant enough to bring out my submissive side.

=============MORE NOTES==================
If you're looking for a husband, look elsewhere.
If you're looking for a one-night-stand, look elsewhere.
If you're looking for friends-with-benefits, see disclaimer*.
*must actually be friends, and still.. no promises. I'm body-positive and sex-positive, but I'm not especially promiscuous. I don't look for sex, I look for friends, and occasionally things go further. Chemistry is only One of the requirements.

SO.. you want the candid post-script?
Cuddle buddies and modeling-partners need enough restraint to keep extensive physical contact in a non-sexual context. Control your kundalini! Bedroom applicants should be sexually open, very intelligent, emotionally aware and generous with your affections. If you are biologically capable of purring, you'll get frequent reasons to do so. For serious involvement potential, please include financial responsibility, moral/ethical flexibility, personal drive/motivation, belligerent creativity and an eagerness to go on crazy adventures. All of the above should be aware of my proclivities and non-judgmental. Once again.. if you have a problem with my lifestyle, it is just that. Your problem. Deal with it on your end, or stay out of my life.
Just curious? Send me a note with a question.
Thank you.


Periods of bliss not optional. When do you expect to ever be this young again? Don't just build your Future, live right Now. You might die in fifty years, or in five. Don't waste it.