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45 F Nashua, NH

My Details

Last Online
Apr 10
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Full figured
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Hello! I'm looking to add more people to my life, either as friends or romantic interests. I am relatively new to polyamory but finding it very interesting; it seems to fit my fundamental personality, and also my beliefs about the world and human nature.

I am currently involved with two people. I met jeff___ on here-- good work, OKC algorithm! Also, a special mention goes to plasmidsbyryan, with whom I have found a genuine connection despite the distance and age difference.

In the long run I would love to find a man as a primary partner.
Though I don't foresee becoming monogamous, I would be willing to give it a try for the right person (especially if our goal was to open up after we were established). For now, I'm enjoying life where I am and hoping to add more connections to people of many varieties.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm born but not dead... there's no telling what I'm liable to do. (lightly paraphrased from Zora Neale Hurston)
I’m really good at
Balancing pragmatism and idealism. Being a mom. Finding new ways to be paradoxical. My job. Telling stories. Remembering your stories for an improbably long time. Puzzles and resource-management games. Helping people sort out their thoughts and feelings. Helping people sort out their closets and basements. (Seriously, you have never had a cleangasm like you will have with me.)
The first things people usually notice about me
Big smile, big rack, big brain. I like those things about myself, so I'm okay with having them noticed.

It's also true that I have big honesty (with myself first and foremost), a big ass, and big emotions. I am not always completely comfortable with those parts of me, but being human is a package deal.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
When I was little, I wanted to be a librarian. I never went that route, but I have spent 3+ years (at various points in my adult life) working in bookstores. I love talking about books, analyzing books, comparing books. I'm not a snob, but I do have opinions. I won't be pushy, though, and I'm interested in your thoughts as well.

In recent years I have gone to very few movies. I still love 80s-style action movies, though-- ask me about my favorite movie explosions of all time. I do enjoy occasional romantic comedies, though I don't expect anyone to watch them with me if they aren't interested.

Overall I think that genre fiction/film deserves more appreciation. Like a sonnet, the constraints are significant and the artistry is in how one works within those constraints to create something fresh and new.
The six things I could never do without
Assuming basic needs (food, water, shelter) are met...
-my son
-my medications (silly immune system thinks pollen = doom, etc)
-connections with other people
-being able to contribute to the world in ways big and small
-the internet.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything... and then wondering why I can't stop thinking about EVERYTHING. It's a featurebug.
On a typical Friday night I am
Since I have half-time custody, half my Friday nights are spent at home-- usually chatting online or playing video games. (My son's bedtime is 8, so I have time to kill after he's asleep.)

The other Friday nights... well, let's just say I try to make the most of my weekends off!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not an especially private person... what would you like to know? Ask me and I'll almost certainly answer.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 34–49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
OkCupid thinks we'd be good together, or if you like what you see. Be sure to check the questions section-- I have an assortment of chatty replies over there. :-)