Three step program for life:
1. Believe in something, anything: God/love/truth/music/art/social justice/democracy/whatever.
2. Quit complaining and appreciate what you have with every action, word and thought.
3. Be of service to others.
Best Test for a Relationship Ever:
How well do you do nothing, absolutely nothing, together?
If you like just being together, doing nothing, absolutely nothing, your relationship is likely a good one.
If not, maybe not.
Esther Perel on "desire".
Watch this and let me know what you think.
(I love to know what you think because you're beautiful AND smart. )
Do you agree or disagree with the following:
If we're honest, we can always follow our heart because whatever difficult place our hearts may lead us to, honesty can always lead us back out.
"Love with your heart. Use your head for everything else."
The truth is that, great as sex and romantic love are, neither is a cure for loneliness.
Getting wrapped up in looking for "the one" or looking for "the one night stand" can both be selfish and destructive.
Believing that either sex or romantic love (or both) is a cure for loneliness and the demand to make this current sexual encounter, this current romantic relationship the cure for loneliness is likely the cause of all the strife in our relationships.
There is no such thing as holding onto a relationship. It is like trying to grab a fist full of stars...a fantasy forever out of reach no matter how much we demand it, want it, reach for it.
The only thing we can actually do is to fully experience the relationship as it is, right now.
Bringing the demand that this new sexual encounter, this new romantic relationship cure our loneliness only dooms the sex, dooms the romance because we can never be present for the experience of what that relationship truly is if we are looking for something in it which does not exist.
I hope you are fully present today for whatever you are doing.