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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 9:56am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm witty, not silly. I have a dry sardonic wit that keeps my dance partners laughing. I aspire to creativity, and art and found a way to make a life with it. I love long serious conversations over dinner, wine and coffee where we find the answers to life the universe and everything together.

I'm looking for a magic connection. Physical, emotional, intellectual. I'd love to meet you if you're interested. Sometimes it takes me a while to respond .... I try.

I am married and poly; my wife and girlfriend know I'm here. Not saturated entirely, but busy. Don't worry I'll introduce you if you like.

I love to travel, and I've done it a lot. Kayaking is critical to my sanity and there are few places I feel more at home than in my boat along the shore of a random island. Most oddly I suppose, I love caving: with the connection to the earth, the physical effort and the risk, it's the most visceral thing you'll ever do. I really miss the snow!

I enjoy tactile experiences, interactions and connections.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm happily committed, I have many great friends, and I balance a rewarding and challenging career in software design with all the fun stuff. Usually the balance is off a little.

I've lived in the city now for a year, after 15 years in Snohomish, it felt like home on the first day and I think to myself what took so long...

The most important thing that I learn every day is who I am. I'm a rebel without a cause and I'm looking to trade my day job for something exciting and meaningful. I probably have a different idea of what that means than most.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I design things, I create random objects, often with a steampunk theme. Ask me and I will send you pictures of these collages and sculptures. They pay me to direct the design of software. It's been quite an effective way to make a living. So there are the visual things.

Talking to a large (300+) room full of people is something I'm good at and enjoy.

With caving I learned to be good with knots and rope. Turns out it's a transferable skill.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes they notice the gauged earings, lately it's the beard. At my age its two tone, cool without dye.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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It's very likely I read more than you, but I tend to read fiction. My wife is a novelist , but for reasons of confidence I'm not talking about those books. My favorite published novel is "Crime and Punishment" or perhaps it's "Breakfast of Champions" or "Kindred", "Time Enough for Love", "Left Hand of Darkness", "To Say Nothing of the Dog", "American Gods", "IQ84, "Peoples History of the United States" ... Ahh shit, I give up (and I cuss (and have an addiction to parentheticals)). I have a roomful of favorite books. I've read your profile, and if there is a book there I haven't read that intrigued me, I've added it to my Kindle (or if it looked really incredible I've ordered the book).

When it comes to live performances, I love theater of all kinds, but I'm particularly fond of musical theater, and my personal favorite is Pippin.

Music: Eclectic in the extreme. I'm really partial to these song right now
I love jogging to this one, so sexy

As for the Star Wars, Star Trek question: Dr. Who, but then Star Wars (I've been offered money for a shirt in my Star Wars wardrobe). I prefer to be outside, but sometimes curling up with a movie or a show is just what the doctor, ahem, ordered.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Computers, it's the thing I do
Coffee/Wine, I refuse to pick my vice ...
Books, is literature a thing?
My Kayak, it takes me where I want to go
My Camera, it shows me what I need to see
My Imagination, it opens doors that should be closed.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social justice, how to manage equality, and racial/gender/orientation inequalities, I think about it a lot. Since I'm white hetero presenting I keep my mouth shut generally.

When I'm not working, art. It's an exploratory process as I try to find an expression of Art that is meaningful to me.

Thinking about my work, creating art, and how people interpret the world through their tools. The various possible meanings of NSPP (yes I know the real one).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
This week we saw the Senate with our extended Cule. Sometimes watching a show (Pushing Daisies again this week). Sometimes I'm dancing.

We've played board games with friends, and hung out at a dive bar. Going to a concert ... Throwing a barn burner of a party: they tell me I was defying gravity and asked everyone to dance at the last one. Then they showed me pictures. That was a while ago the last one I asked people to burn the pictures from.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I laughed when I turned 42 because I knew I would have the answer for one year, unfortunate the answer was recently taken from me. (I don't lie about my age).

It's not really private but I get more visitors from my wife's and my girlfriend's page here than because of me. Send me a note if you got here on your own, I'm curious.
You should message me if
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I'm really busy. I'm sorry, but it's true, and I'm tired of pretending even with the few messages I get with here. But I'm currently super interested in branching out.

1. You are a really hot guy with a super attitude. Yup, I'm interested. If you can figure out the literary puzzle it will go quick, love them smarts.
2. You are a dominant woman. I'm honestly switch with a strong dom/sadist angle, but I switch as hard as I give. I see no reason to hedge. Not necessary, but fun...
3. You are awesome. No other reason necessary.

Friends need apply...
You're looking for someone to get out and have a good time with traipsing around Seattle, or hiking in the mountains. Perhaps you think winter Kayak camping in the San Juan Islands sounds awesome, curled up in a double sleeping bag hiding from the rain.

You want to know more about knots, or not.