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BoyGrownUp

36 M Belmont, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 21
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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WARNING: I tend to write messages in a very precise, organized, and thought-out manner. This might give you the impression that I have a stick firmly lodged up my ass, but I'm pretty sure I don't (most of the time)! I mean, I think I don't.

Damn... I really hope I don't!

Look, it's just the way I was trained to write in school! ;D

My 88-year-old grandma just told me that I keep getting more handsome the older I get. My grandma is extremely blunt and honest and did -not- say this to my brother. So that was nice.

I'm tallish, average build, though I'm working on achieving "fit" again. I like good food, travel, my family, going out some nights and staying in others, fine Scotch, good beer, and a good book, movie, TV show marathon or video game for those nights I stay in. I really like stories, characters, things that make for a compelling or thought-provoking "narrative".

I'm right on the border between introvert and extrovert. It takes a lot of energy to get to the party/gathering/social event, but once I'm there, I almost always enjoy myself.

I have a wild imagination, which is -usually- a good thing, but not always. I can be too serious and self-critical, but otherwise I'm pretty laid back. I don't appreciate people who think everything in the world is a joke. Most things should be joked about to keep them in perspective, but there are things that ought to be addressed with a serious and concerned attitude as well. Sarcasm has its place, and it's not everywhere.

I'm not a very jealous person, and believe that trust, respect, and loyalty are crucial to a relationship. I guess I don't get jealous because either someone is going to be faithful or they aren't. Jealousy is synonymous with mind games to me, and I don't stick with people who manipulate my emotions for selfish purposes.

I'm pretty geeky with a sense of humor that ranges from sardonic to goofy and/or esoteric to dirty.

I'm not very outdoorsy by inclination, but I enjoy "the great outdoors" when I remember to go enjoy them! Day hiking trips are good. Also, I don't really follow sports, but I do enjoy going to sports games, especially ice hockey (I'm a lifelong L.A. Kings fan, but the Sharks are my local team).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I work in I.T. and spend about 10% of my time wondering if I'd have been better off in a different career. That's a rough estimate.

In my downtime, I like to sleep, eat, watch movies, watch anime, occasionally go drinking and/or dancing (mostly at trance/house shows), go to art museums, read, and play video games. Probably too many video games. I guess you could call me a gamer. Honestly, though, I mostly do that in place of watching TV. I just think it's more fun...

I'm studying Japanese (super sporadically) as I hope to eventually take an extended trip there or multiple shorter trips (or both!). I've been to Greece and would love to go back. I also need to see most of the rest of Europe. I was an Art History major (with an emphasis in Japanese art), so it would be a damn shame if I didn't tour the ruins and museums of Europe and Japan.

I try to work out at least three times a week. When the weather is good, that means 5 mile hikes with an approximately 1000 ft. gross elevation change. It's great cardio, and I add pushups at the top to get some definition in. I'm planning to either add swimming or weights back into my routine soon as there's a pretty sweet gym where I work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
swimming, writing (especially analytical and descriptive papers), being a big dork and a bigger geek, drinking like a fish when I go out and holding my liquor, dancing like I don't care if anyone's watching (see: holding my liquor), being too serious sometimes, and being silly and goofy other times.

I'm also really good at listening when someone close to me has a problem, but I am a guy, and I sometimes get impatient if I can't "fix" the problem. Only sometimes, though.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
What do you get when you cross an elephant and a rhino? HellifIknow. (say it out loud if you don't get it) Same answer.

Also, I guess: It's often been said of me that I'm a atypical combination of things. I'm kind of "preppy" and conservative, and I can hold my own in most conversational circles okay, but I'm definitely a pretty big geek. I'm somewhat conservative and highly opinionated about it, and a practicing Roman Catholic, but most of my friends are none of these things, which suggests that, however opinionated I am, I don't make people feel judged and I'm pretty open-minded. At least I hope that's what it means.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a proper geek: Lord of the Rings, both the books and the movies

Books: Lord of the Rings, Wheel of Time, Dune, The Sun Also Rises, I have yet to read a Shakespearean play I didn't love

Movies: original Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Avengers, Matrix, Bourne Trilogy, (500) days of Summer, anything by Pixar, 40 Year Old Virgin, TRON and TRON: Legacy (more of that geek stuff), Saving Mr. Banks

Food: Japanese (not just sushi, though I do love good sushi), Greek, American, a great steak, Thai, Indian, Persian, Mexican and most South American cuisines. Oh, and French. I still think La Note, in Berkeley, serves the best breakfasts in the Bay Area.

Music: lately, I mostly listen to EDM (Ferry Corsten, Armin van Buuren, Zedd, some Skrillex, Flux Pavillion, Christopher Lawrence), trip hop (Massive Attack) some Royksopp and Telepopmusik, some house music. I also love U2, The Dave Matthews Band, Snow Patrol, Mumford and Sons, Of Monsters and Men, Silverstein, Strung Out, and very occasionally one of the Bay Area's classical music stations; I have no idea what I'm listening to, most of the time, but I like it (I'm not making this up!). I don't listen to it much, but I have no problem with country!

TV: I don't watch much, and always watch shows via Netflix or other streaming services, but I'm a huge fan of Chuck, forever and ever. It's my all-time favorite TV show. I love the goofy humor, romantic comedy and drama, and I just think it's a ton of fun that totally panders to my geeky side. I also am a big fan of: Scrubs, Grimm, Psych, Burn Notice, Firefly, Supernatural and Castle. Oh, and I recently discovered that I enjoy the oddness and surreality of Twin Peaks, coupled with Kyle MacLachlan's superlative performance as quirky, idiosyncratic FBI agent Dale Cooper. Such wonderful strangeness in Twin Peaks, though the second season was a bit of a disappointment.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my family
a good job
my imagination
my faith
good food
good stories
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Nerd stuff, mostly. I'm a very imaginative person, and like to ponder "what ifs" as well as "never could be's". I'm also a huge fan of good stories and characters, whether I encounter them through books, movies, TV, or video games.

Also: ethics and theology.

And how to advance my career.

And politics.

And how to make myself a better person.

And the ramifications of type II, Ib, and Ic supernovas occasionally collapsing back into neutron stars, and how neutrons stars are basically "failed" black holes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm either having a few friends over, going out to movies, going out to the city, museums, aquariums (I love aquariums), or, just as often, I may just be locking myself in my apartment and vegging out in front of a video game, a movie, marathoning a TV series or reading a book. I also occasionally go to game parties (mostly board games) hosted by friends. Always a good time.

About one weekend every two or three months, I head home to SoCal to visit my family including my beautiful toddler nephew and baby neice. I'm an uncle!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm a pretty clean person (except for dirty dishes), but I'm horrible about clutter. My clothes all eventually end up on my floor at some point. There's usually a pile.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 23–33
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
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You should know that I don't respond to most messages, for a variety of reasons, but if I do, I first took the time to look at your profile in addition to your photos page and actually thought about how to reply to you. I never send canned anything.

If you actually took the time to read it and like what you see in my profile.

If you like intelligent, geeky guys who are pretty well-rounded, if a tad on the introverted/stay at home side. You should be warned that I've been accused, recently, of being too rational. It never even occurred to me that that could be a bad thing!

If you like board games, card games and/or video games.

If you like going dancing, especially to electronic music. I don't make it to clubs more then 2-3 times a year, but I make a big event of it when I do.

If you like hitting up bars on Saturday nights.

If you like travel, especially if you want to see Western Europe or Japan.

If you're interested in a potential relationship, then you should either be Catholic or be happy with the idea of dating a Catholic.

You're willing to drag me outside every now and then to help remind me of the beauty of the natural world we live in. I spend a little too much time in my head and in our shared digital universe. I love the beauty of nature, but I seem to forget to appreciate it.

However, since I think of online dating as a way to navigate past all the getting-to-know you dates that won't go anywhere in the long run, I think I ought to mention here: I have chronic health problems. For the most part, I manage them well and they have minimal impact on my life, but one of the unavoidable side effects is that I'm somewhat of a low energy person. It's frustrating because I used to be an intensely high-energy person (I mean, I was a 4-year Varsity swimmer in high school and swam in the State Championships my senior year), but it is what it is, and medicine isn't quite there to fix it just yet. You probably either ought to be low-key like me or ought to be okay with being the energetic one and doing all the "pulling" and be okay with me sometimes skipping out on certain things. I'm okay with not having to do absolutely everything together, if you're more social or energetic than I am.

Also, as long as I'm covering all the bases, I might as well cover all the bases: If my profile gave you the impression that I'm sexually prudish, repressed, or conservative... You would be wrong. If you aren't comfortable with that, then please move along.