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30 M Rochester, NY

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  • Ages 22–35
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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hello! I'm a bit guilty of information overload. I've tried to shorten this, but.. alas.. I fear it's an impossible task.

So, some things you should know. I'm sarcastic. Probably not my nicest quality, but it can be funny most of the time. I'm irreverent. This is important to know because nothing is sacred. In high school one of my teachers used me as the definition of Iconoclastic. I was very(still am, apparently) amused.

I love reading. Netflix is my friend. Zombiepocalypses are awesome and I have a plan!

I'm an unrepentant nerd who possesses a large vocabulary and a questionable grasp on grammar and I'm not afraid to use it!

The nerd bit ties into the fact that video games, board games, and Dungeons and/or Dragons is a fun past-time.

But don't let that turn you off too much. Until I started collecting surgical scars, I was very athletic. Now that I'm healthy I'm in the process of getting back into the gym rat mentality. I may be a geek but I recognize the importance of Rule #1. I plan to survive come Zombies or Commies!

Something else you should know is that I am kinky. I tend towards dominance in the bedroom and enjoy.... giving pleasure and trying new things. Don't let that scare you off, it just means that if we click we have more to talk about. And more communication is never a bad thing.
What I’m doing with my life
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Indulging myself by being a hedonists cuddle post. To explain... that means my cats like me. In the meantime, I'm convalescing from various surgeries and looking to move back into the workforce.

I'm also growing my hair out, aiming for at least shoulder length. I've never been able to get it as long as I want because I either get bored or need to "look professional" and cut it short.

In my more creative moments I try to get my guitar do make noise that *isn't* discordant.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I feel as if I'm really good at making people laugh. Sometimes at me and sometimes with me. While the latter is preferable I do have to admit a little self-deprecation can be fun.

I'm also good at being an ass. I've gotten better over the years, but no amount of aging is going to completely cure me of the severe case of FIMS(Foot in Mouth Syndrome) that I suffer from.

Pushing cars out of the snow and ripping my last pair of decent jeans. If there were an award for that I'd totally win it. I do a fair job of getting cars unstuck, but it's the ripping of cloth stretching from knee to groin that makes it truly special.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Until I'm told otherwise, I'm just going to assume it's my cleavage...

Seriously though, I can't rightly say. my hair fluctuates in length and puffiness. I have a multi-colored goatee that blurs into a nice golden brown. That's kind of cool.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Ooh, now here's a question that can allow someone a peek into one's soul. Books have been my best friends since I was in elementary school and I like to credit much of my academic ability to Piers Anthony. I realize that books or no, I'd still possess most of the same physical/intellectual aptitudes. However, that first book you read that really draws you into a genre and opens your mind... it's just.. wow.

Anyways, books!

The Prince of Tides by Pat Conroy. I'm not much for "true" novels, but I do feel that this book is one of the best American novels. It attacks a multitude of societal issues that, despite being written decades ago, are still very pertinent. First and foremost being it's take on the iron curtain involving sexual assault. A facet of our society that has just started to come out from behind the, "Don't hang your dirty laundry" idiom that defines the last forever of human existence.

There's more, perhaps because I can draw so many corollaries between the Wingo's and my own family. Between the protagonist's love/hate relationship with his home in The South(Yes, that's right. I'm a southern boy and I even have an accent. When I'm drunk or exhausted :/) Perhaps the draw this book has on me is a tad bit complicated to be summed up on a dating profile. Let's just put it this way, I just about squealed when I found a first edition hardback.

Piers Anthony's Xanth series. I haven't read it in years but it was an omnibus of his first 3 Xanth novels that captured me where Stephen King, Dean Koontz, and a host of other writers for youth, or adult, fiction failed.

Robert A. Heinlein's Stranger in a Strange Land may have had one of most profound affects on me. This was the book that helped me learn that most pain can be laughed away. No matter how bad things are. For that Heinlein will always belong on my bookshelf.

John Myer Myer's Silverlock is one of personal enjoyment. I guarantee the vast majority of readers, even those that are fans of the Fantasy genre, will never have heard of it. But as one of the authors that wrote the forwards for it; Poul Anderson, Karen Anderson, Larry Niven(I think).. the magic of the book is not the story(which is fantastic) or even the fact that it's an allegory for the literary journey. It's the hunt. It's looking at characters from across the breadth of Literature and trying to place them.

If you get nothing else from my profile, I hope you do everything in your power to pick up Silverlock if you like fantasy, mythology, or literature ranging from Faust to Beowulf to Moby Dick. If that sounds like fun then trust me and get it. And never loan it out, loaned copies for Silverlock are notorious for never being returned.. I'm on my 3rd and it's currently loaned out :/

Other books/authors-
Most anything by Mercedes Lackey
Game of Thrones Series by George R.R. Martin
Wheel of Time by Robert Jordan/Brandon Sanderson
Stephen Lawhead's Celtic/Welsh inspire novels(Silver Hand and the Hood series notably)
And I could go on for just this end of forever so I'll cut myself off now.

Love music and I'm almost always listening to it. I have somewhat eclectic tastes when it comes to music, but Rock is a good generalized description for most of it.
Three days Grace, Breaking Benjamin, Chevelle, Goo Goo Dolls, Matchbox Twenty, Red Hot Chili Peppers, The Offspring, Sum 41. Anything merging Bagpipes, Cello's, and/or violins with a rock base.

Like music I enjoy movies across the breadth of industry. However, anything involving Kevin Smith is a must for me. One movie that really struck me was Atonement. It was a beautiful film and I loved the ending, even if it made me cry(I cry.. deal with it, I may be a man but I do have emotions and will even admit it sometimes). More movies should go the route they did.
Some other favorites- The Princess Bride, Labyrinth, Crash, Zombieland, Wedding Crashers. Guess that ought to be enough for now.

Food- I like food. I'm willing to try just about anything, anywhere. But there's a special spot in my heart(or is that indigestion?) for honkified Chinese. And the white queso dip at Mexican restaurants.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music. It makes life palatable. There's just something cathartic about singing(I use the term generously) at the top of your lungs to a song that manages to *just* capture that emotion I'm feeling. Also, helps make monotonous tasks bearable.

I always have a book on hand or at least nearby. I used to hide 1000 page monstrosities in the pocket of my lettermans jacket. Now that I'm older, I just hide libraries in my car.. *cough*

I love my kitties. They purr. They're warm. They love cuddles. They're slightly sadistic and refuse to let me move when I'm sweating to death under my covers because they cover every available wiggle point.. errmm.. moving on...

Computers/Electronics. I've always been in love with computers and gaming consoles. It's that 4 year old in me that never grew up, I reckon.

Taco Bell. It's the refuge of the lazy. I'm a phenomenal cook.. but I can't stand cooking for myself. :/

My last thing has to be a car. Because I always have that option to just.. keep going. Somedays the wanderlust is stronger than others(supposedly I have Gypsy in me. Good of an explanation as any)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What the fingerings are for whatever song I'm listening to.
Also, a never-ending parade of story ideas and beginnings. Never an ending, however. Reckon I oughta actually put it to paper(so to speak) one of these days, but I have ooh shiny moments.

Also.. why do people spend minutes circling or fighting for parking spots close to the entrance of their gym? Seriously, think about it... How are those 3 or 4 extra parking spots you walk going to hurt your endeavors?

Lately my thoughts have been turning more and more to the fact that I have just 2 more car payments. Just 2 more before I'm freeeeeeeeeee.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working or hanging out with friends in all likelihood.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have had serious and in-depth conversations with my brother about what to do in case of a zombie outbreak. Including ideal weapon load-out. I even have a tattoo showcasing zombie repellant. :D

Course that's not very embarrassing. Just awesome. So... last year when I was in Alaska, I bought a "Beater with a Heater" as they're called up there in the Great Frozen North. I was doing some work on it and was tightening down a nut in the wheel well, when the socket wrench slipped, bounced off the fender and something else and laid open my temple. Yes, I managed to brain myself with a socket wrench. Yet another weapon for my anecdotal arsenal.

Other things I'm willing to admit? Just about anything. If you have the courage/curiosity enough to ask I'll answer and truthfully.
You should message me if
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If I intrigue you.

If you are nerdy. Totally need more geeky ramblings in my life :D

If you take the time to actually fill out the comment section on the questions you answer. I love having more information!

If you're looking for a man who is willing to try. If my time on this Earth has taught me anything, it's that anything worthwhile requires effort. And the only thing that matters a damn are the relationships we have with others. Be it family, friend, or lover.