Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
When we were 6, my best friend and I made a pact to be deep-sea
While that's not entirely come together, living in Toronto I'm sure
is the next best thing...
An ex-boyfriend described me as an "organic Class A feminist cunt"
(oddly we don't speak to each other any more); it's about the least
insulting thing you could tell me. While I try to be more mellow,
*please* bear this in mind before you write something thoughtless,
demeaning or misogynistic. Guys I'm mostly looking at you ;)
But I'm very open to anything from flattery to a message saying
that feminism has been ruining the world since before women had the
vote, as long as it's well written :)
In other things, I'm pansexual (thanks OKC for not allowing that as
an option). I'm in a polyamorous relationship, have been about 18
months; My girlfriend is airhead_smiles
; and the three of us
are open to exploring with each other, other people.This doesn't
mean we're only looking for short flings with people into group
sex, but it is definitely fun to know people anyway. Also, we're
open to adding a 4th to our committed triad, if things progress
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Doing my best to persuade the good folk of downtown Toronto that a
solid book is much better than a Kindle. Sometimes I succeed. Other
than that, I cook a lot, and I am trying to work out precisely what
it is I want in my life right now beyond a heap less stigma in the
world about people who can't change who they might fall in love or
spend a night with.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...using ten words where one would do,
...remembering insane details, and, if it was from a book, the part
of the page on which I read it.
...putting words together, creating coherent thoughts, if not
always expressed in technically correct syntax or grammar. What can
I say? I work in a bookstore...
...cooking. I can be inventive, and excellent but odd combinations
(like meringue with Marmite shipped over from Britain) are my
forte. Chocolate cake and ketchup doesn't work, though. Trust
...building anything with Lego.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told my smile is my most engaging feature. And that I
love a good story, even if I've heard it before, and my sense of
humor; and that, once you let me start, it can be hard to get to me
to stop talking ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The first book I ever became thoroughly engrossed in was
Dolphin Island by Arthur C. Clarke, which when I was 7 was
completely magical, and I still revisit at least once a year. Other
favorites, The Poisonwood Bible, the actual Bible,
anything by Bill Bryson, Goethe or Nabokov, Anne Lamott's Blue
Shoe, and Thoreau's Walden, Carl Sagan, Richard
Dawkins... So, all in all I feel like I have eclectic
Music: Old(er) favorites such as Springsteen, U2,
Vanessa Williams, J.S. Bach, and Haydn over Mozart. More recently
perhaps Adele, Imogen Heap, Florence and the Machine, and anything
with a particularly tortured-sounding lead vocalist. And Lady Gaga,
but that goes without saying ;)
Food: I'm mostly vegetarian but would be sad if I
could never have a steak again; I will eat and enjoy almost
anything, as long as it doesn't chiefly consist of bananas; but I
especially love anything well presented on good quality china.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Basic stuff like organs, air, food, and sex, we can take as
1. Family photos;
2. My Waterman 'Lady Charlotte' fountain pen, and thick, good
5. My phone;
6. Fresh gingerbread.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...that infinitesimal point in space at which point the
refrigerator light comes on or goes off;
...what an intolerant world we live in.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drinking room temperature chardonnay playing Risk or Twister or
somesuch with friends, or alternating pages of a good book and
scoops of ice cream.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was a lot older than I should have been to know better, I
had to go to hospital to have half a dozen M&Ms removed from my
I want to marry Ron Swanson.
You should message me if
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You're someone genuinely curious about the world, and other people.
'Laid back' is a nice thing to be, but I'd rather be with people
who are naturally (or artificially) caffeinated, and are endlessly
You think we're intellectual equals. I'm not the sharpest knife in
the drawer, but my mind is fast and smooth and I like talking,
discussing, debating with people who can hold their end of the
You understand my/our understanding of what it means to be poly. It
is much more than being in an 'open' relationship, and certainly
not at all like swinging. We are in a closed 3-way relationship of
equals, but maybe looking to try for fun - and maybe something more
- with a fourth with anyone who's serious about it.
You think there's still too much patriarchy, heteronormativism,
couples privileging, and general intolerance in the world, except
for bad grammar and spelling which should carry jail
All that said, we can just be friends on here by all means.
Chatting is fun too :)
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