Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


46 Alexandria, VA Man


Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 22
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an upbeat, curious, optimistic person who tries to pack 30 hours of living into every day. If I can make other people happier along the way, all the better.

I am fortunate to have a delightful girlfriend; she is in graduate school in England. She's met some of her most interesting friends through OKC, which inspires me to keep my profile active. Being in a very long distance relationship, I've got some availability, but I'm not totally available and would not want to mislead anyone I am. I'm in a good position to be a no-pressure date, or guy friend to talk with, someone who can show you how to change a dead headlight in your car, or in other ways be useful.

Concerts are my favorite entertainment, and I jump at the chance to see a great live act. If you enjoy vintage rock-n-roll or cutting edge and world bands, I've got some favorites to share and compare. I also enjoy conspiring in the kitchen and exploring destinations.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
By day, I run a nonprofit organization, and at home I run an intentional community of artists. In my spare time I write songs.

I enjoy meeting other non-traditional types, especially adventurous, thoughtful people interested in exploring alternative realities.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, empathizing, and brainstorming. I like helping solve problems and cutting challenges down to size, especially by thinking outside the box. I've appreciated having the opportunity to coach friends through their searches for jobs, cars and romance.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm enthusiastic, passionate, and driven. Sometimes I have ironic facial hair or wear eccentric clothes. You can attribute that on my having stumbled into the Burning Man arts community six years ago. (I have four treks to the Black Rock Desert under my belt).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The Great Gatsby, most anything by John Irving (bears!); Alice's Restaurant, The Graduate; Fawlty Towers, Californication; Cat Empire, Ani DiFranco; chicken parmagiana, cherry Starbursts.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Art, music, butterscotch pudding, friends, beaches, optimism.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Relationships -- mine and other peoples'. I get really inspired by great romantic connections, and like hearing about how other people think outside the box of traditional relationships.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Debating between a couple of great options -- could be a live music jam, a friend's play, or some extra time to cook dinner for a friend. I like to make the most of a night. Whether talking about interesting events and philosophies with old or new friends in the hot tub, or jumping on a trampoline, or hiking by moonlight in the urban garden park at the end of my street.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I was a late bloomer -- didn't get to third base or taste a beer til I was 20. I don't regret that. I avoided some mistakes I probably would have made, or rather perhaps, I postponed making them.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are intrigued -- and you are intriguing! I enjoy connecting with others who are interested in community building, music and art, and outside-the-box relationships, including polyamory. Oh, and if you want to learn stick shifting, I'm a patient instructor. (I believe this is a critical life skill. What if you're the only sober person at a party and someone has to go the the hospital and the only car with gas has a manual transmission?)

If you are looking for a committed, exclusive relationship I'm not the right guy right now; but, if you're looking for someone to fill a less-demanding role in your life, or bounce things off of, I hope I wouldn't be a waste of your time. Let's chat and see.