I'm a maths and physics graduate from Bristol University, maths and
English teacher, and now I volunteer a lot of my time improving
education for LGBT people in Bristol.
I view life as essentially pointless, so it follows that the best
thing for me to do is to make the most of now. Try new things, meet
new people, see many things, learn many things, help make other
people's lives better, and ignore anyone that would rather I think
or do otherwise. I won't carry on doing something I do not enjoy or
value for too long.
I am realistic and rational about relationships. I am open to
giving any kind of relationship a try, including non-monogamous and
polyamorous ones. I do not think that it follows that by finding
one person I love that I should shut the rest of humanity off: I
can still fancy them, get to know them, become of one mind with
them, have a relationship with them, and love them.
I also do not see sex, the body, relationships, beliefs, feelings,
or any of those supposedly sensitive areas as anything to hide or
be shy about. Celebrate what you have, what you love, what you
think, what you do, what you want to know, and what makes you you.
I do not care for anyone who doesn't want people to do that. But
also, don't take things too seriously; absurdity is a humbling and
grounding thing that helps remind us that we're just a collection
of particles which have become extremely adept at lowering their
Some things I like:
"What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.
No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hids their nuts in grass,
No time to see, in broad day light,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.
No time to turn at beauty's glance
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare." - W. H. Davies
"From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of
particular interest. But for us, it's different. Look again at that
dot. That's here, that's home, that's us. On it everyone you love,
everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being
who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and
suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and
economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and
coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and
peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father,
hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals,
every corrupt politician, every "superstar," every "supreme
leader," every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived
there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.
The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of
the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so
that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters
of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by
the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely
distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent
their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another,
how fervent their hatreds.
Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we
have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by
this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great
enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness,
there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from
The Earth is the only world known so far to harbour life. There is
nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species
could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the
moment the Earth is where we make our stand.
It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and
character-building experience. There is perhaps no better
demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant
image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility
to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish
the pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known." - Carl
"Don't fear God, don't worry about death, what is good is easy to
get, and what is terrible is easy to endure." - Epicurus
"The whole of science, and one is tempted to think the whole of the
life of any thinking man, is trying to come to terms with the
relationship between yourself and the natural world. Why are you
here, and how do you fit in, and what's it all about." - David
"Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said it,
not even if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason
and your own common sense." - Buddha
"If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you
don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward,
you're always in the same place." - Nora Roberts
"Finish each day and be done with it. Some blunders and absurdities
no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a
new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to
be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Ralph Waldo Emerson