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25 Bristol, UK Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 19–28
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Apr 24
5′ 10″ (1.79m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly), Sign Language (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hi there, I'm Ross.

I'm looking for friends and people to chat about anything with.
Say hi.

I'm rossoh on pretty much every social network/messaging service you could name. Add me!
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a maths and physics graduate from Bristol University, maths and English teacher, and now I volunteer a lot of my time improving education for LGBT people in Bristol.

I view life as essentially pointless, so it follows that the best thing for me to do is to make the most of now. Try new things, meet new people, see many things, learn many things, help make other people's lives better, and ignore anyone that would rather I think or do otherwise. I won't carry on doing something I do not enjoy or value for too long.

I am realistic and rational about relationships. I am open to giving any kind of relationship a try, including non-monogamous and polyamorous ones. I do not think that it follows that by finding one person I love that I should shut the rest of humanity off: I can still fancy them, get to know them, become of one mind with them, have a relationship with them, and love them.

I also do not see sex, the body, relationships, beliefs, feelings, or any of those supposedly sensitive areas as anything to hide or be shy about. Celebrate what you have, what you love, what you think, what you do, what you want to know, and what makes you you. I do not care for anyone who doesn't want people to do that. But also, don't take things too seriously; absurdity is a humbling and grounding thing that helps remind us that we're just a collection of particles which have become extremely adept at lowering their collective entropy.

Some things I like:

"What is this life if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare.
No time to stand beneath the boughs
And stare as long as sheep or cows.

No time to see, when woods we pass,
Where squirrels hids their nuts in grass,
No time to see, in broad day light,
Streams full of stars, like skies at night.

No time to turn at beauty's glance
And watch her feet, how they can dance.
No time to wait till her mouth can
Enrich that smile her eyes began.
A poor life this if, full of care,
We have no time to stand and stare." - W. H. Davies

"From this distant vantage point, the Earth might not seem of particular interest. But for us, it's different. Look again at that dot. That's here, that's home, that's us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every "superstar," every "supreme leader," every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there – on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.

The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.

Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.

The Earth is the only world known so far to harbour life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.

It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we've ever known." - Carl Sagan

"Don't fear God, don't worry about death, what is good is easy to get, and what is terrible is easy to endure." - Epicurus

"The whole of science, and one is tempted to think the whole of the life of any thinking man, is trying to come to terms with the relationship between yourself and the natural world. Why are you here, and how do you fit in, and what's it all about." - David Attenborough

"Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said it, not even if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense." - Buddha

"If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place." - Nora Roberts

"Finish each day and be done with it. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
I’m really good at
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collecting seemingly unconnected and arbitrary pieces of information and somehow not being able to forget them.

I'm 'good' at lots of other things too, or at least try to be. Like cooking Italian food. Whacking out a report the day before the deadline. Not trying all year and then picking up the important info/skills in time for the exam. Swimming in the rough sea near home and not drowning. I have a passable drunken dance, only if I'm in a group of similarly shocking people. I can pretend to know about a subject if I have read the Wikipedia page. I'm pretty good at picking up a new skill, finding out how something works or being set a new task with no experience.

I'm really no good at all at singing. Or lying convincingly. Or figuring out the meaning behind a text/song/artwork without help.
The first things people usually notice about me
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that they've seen me somewhere before.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Stephen Fry/QI, pop science and philosophy, and for some reason atlases are really interesting. Also Narnia/Potter for light escapism.

Movies: Amelie, The History Boys, most Robin Williams, British comedies, Godfathers, Ghibli films and Disney/Pixar.

TV: Doctor Who, QI, NMTB, HIGNFY, Star Trek, Horizon, WDYTYA, cooking shows, gardening shows, Grand Designs, history shows, any science shows. If it's on BBC Four, I probably like it.

Music: alt/indie/pop, chilled alt, Bristol, 80s Scandinavian. Alphabeat, Bon Iver, Fever Ray, Feist, James Blake, Florence + the Machine, Marina and the Diamonds, Massive Attack, Spandau Ballet, Yann Tiersen, Sigur Ròs, The Knife, Lykke Li, Blondie, MGMT, Muse, Groove Armada, Vampire Weekend, Lady Gaga, Björk, and Penguin Cafe. My is at

Food: Italian - tiramisù is just incredible; making fresh pizza and pasta is a far too common occurrence in my house. I seem to use tomatoes, onions, garlic and herbs every day; stir fries, curries, and proper home-made roast dinner (when I'm at mum's house I give in to the chickeny goodness). I love making bread. I love Pieminister. I eat quite healthily, and make almost all of my own food, and only eat animals occasionally when I'm out or if it's already been served (i.e. at mum's house) – even then it's chicken. When eating out, dessert is a must – often more than one. Drinks-wise, I love fresh juice, lots of teas, Amaretto, Côtes du Rhone wine, Pimms, and local cider.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my close friends, something to keep me busy, knowledge, modern technology, and my freedom to do what I want in life and be who I want to be.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
everything. My day, my work, my life, the world, science, the future, what I'm going to do in life – I tend to spend an hour or so thinking before I can go to bed. Unless something else is happening at the time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
with friends. Usually doing something interesting at a local venue. Music, alcohol, food, a bit of culture, and laughter spring to mind.
You should message me if
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you'd like to, for any reason:

If you'd like to talk.
If OkCupid told you to.
If you really like sending messages.
If you're curious or bored.
If you wonder why you have 94 % match even though we've never met, whether people's tastes and opinions can be that coincidental through choice, or because we're hostage to memes and our surroundings' influences?
If you happen to like 24/M/Gay/Bristol with a purple top.
If you've forgotten my contact details and OkCupid is the only place to find me.
If you're a spambot and you spotted that there was a form to automatically fill in – everybody loves natural viagra and helping Nigerian businessmen.