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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18-65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 24
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Doesn’t want kids
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Somewhat), LISP (Somewhat), German (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Kinky-minded Englishman who loves the dominant role and has a streak of the sexual sadist for those who appreciate that side of me. I treat sex and sexuality as a mental, intellectual pursuit just as much as a physical one.

When being myself, I'm fast-talking, enthusiastic about my interests, reasonably polite yet dirty-mouthed, with an off-kilter (or bad) sense of humor, and a goodly helping of arrogance.

I'm the nerdly type, and when I'm not playing in matters sexual you might not guess — why would I be obvious?
What I’m doing with my life
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Being a computer professional by day and a pervert by night. Or during the day, for that matter. Keeping up multiple relationships. Being a sucker for cats.

Working on my writing; having written a few somewhat successful short stories I'm working on two unrelated novels, one a present-day BDSM romance between two widows, and the other a non-traditional fantasy story.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Wicked ideas.
Getting inside someone's mind and kinks.
Reading someone's responses and knowing when to push harder and when to ease up.
Random nerdish pursuits.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Here? Probably the British accent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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* C.J. Cherryh's science fiction and fantasy, for helping me understand humanity and write women in particular.
* P.C. Hodgell's fantasy, for the best wish-fulfilment fantasy-superheroine ever put to the page (at least, for my personal wishes). Also, for the imagination popping from every page, the imagining of worlds where nature is fundamentally magical, and carnivorous killer unicorns, because why not.
* Ian Banks, with or without the central initial M. That the Scots can be twisted, morbid bastards is amply proved by Banks. Both his mainstream fiction and his science fiction show the same macabre, bloody love of nasty and gore, but at the same time such amazing flights of imagination.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Intelligent conversation
Creative outlet
A variety of tasty food
Books to read
New things to understand
Problems to solve
A deserving ass to spank
Submissives who crave my wicked ideas
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Kinky ideas. Humiliating situations to place someone in. What perversions people I meet may be hiding underneath their normal-seeming façades. How that person has the kind of ass that I just want to get my hands on. The kink potential of sentient robots. The plot of my next short story or erotic tale.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There's a typical Friday night?
Lately, I've been doing wicked things to hot people on Friday nights, though, when I haven't had to work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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It's not impossible that I could explore the submissive side of things with the right person -- but one has not thus far come along, and it's unlikely to ever be a major interest. Still, if you're creative and up for the challenge ...

That parts of me are much nicer than the image I like to project isn't really a secret to anyone perceptive.
You should message me if
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If you're a woman or man who knows they are submissive or are curious about it, and willing to explore and discover their likes and limits.

If you can write in complete sentences with proper grammar and punctuation. You do not get extra points for making me want to beat good English style into you.

If you have an active and curious mind.

If you need to be shown the error of your ways and put soundly in your place.

I'm open to the genderqueer, androgynous, sexually ambiguous, intersexed, crossdressing, transgendered and transsexual, in both directions. I try and educate myself on these topics so I minimize any possibility of clueless stumbling across ways to offend someone.

I appreciate feminists of all genders, so long as they do not think my liking of sexual dominance with consenting partners is sick and wrong and sexist. I consider my partners actually my equals; the game is that they are not, but this is not the underlying reality.