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Bear_kitteh

38 F Hayward, CA

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 29–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:26pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Construction
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
⊙⊙⊙ Up date September '14 ⊙⊙⊙
As of now we are slowing down on dating and focusing on the busy months ahead. However it doesn't mean we're done meeting people and making friends! We have made quite a few great friends from the OKC monster! Please feel free to contact us if you want to make some positive, nurturing and loving friendships! Good luck in your searches!

We're a positive extroverted poly couple. She's 37, bi, happy, curvy, sassy and can cheer up just about anyone. He's 41, straight but not narrow, snarky, handy, but can switch to goofy easily. We're here for socializing, shameless flirting, late night adventures and building meaningful friendships and relationships.

We surround ourselves with snarky intelligent and sassy people who like to drink whiskey, dance and talk about social (in)justice.

We're both burners and last year marked both of our 12th year! We love meeting fellow burners but being a burner doesn't shape our lives. Just enhances it a tad.

We're both curious and find pleasure in finding the hidden gems of life- be it in art, music, food, or the random events that pop up in life! I've taught her how to weld in the shop (she's a natural and loves it!) and I'm an understudy for a metal sculpturing artist in Oakland! We love to learn and curiosity is always a driving force with us.

We're both rated as ENFJ.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Him: Building, making, learning, being inspired and inspiring,

Her: Learning and growing by forever looking to meet new people and gain new experiences.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Him:
Building stuff, motivating, instigating and assimilating. Cheering people up, turning a situation around, asking the questions people don't want to answer.

I can be a total goofball or a serious diplomat. I take things as they're given to me. I have a long fuse for most things, a short fuse for a few things.

Her:
Giving awesome hugs and making people smile. I love being out and about meeting people and doing things but I'm also really good at staying in and relaxing...kicking my feet up or baking something yummy (our newest creation is a coconut cream pie!!!)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Him: Multi colored mohawk feminist manly man with a wicked smile.

**Warning**
I am very much like a big kid in being so I enjoy life how I want too. Picture a teenage bear mixed with some tigger with a dash of hobbs. Im serious when I need to be, but if fun and deviance can be involved. It will happen.

Her: super curly hair, contagious smile, and bubbly personality :)

***Warning**
I'm a hugger! ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Reading I don't get a lot of time to do lately. However. I have read Hunter S. Vonnegut, King, cook books, How to's and many many manuals. I actually enjoy a good technical manual with a snifter of whiskey.

Movies: Fight club, aliens, art house flicks, horror, sci fy, comedy and indy films. Can't stand brainless action flicks or romantic comedies. They make me itchy....

Music and me have a very loving relationship. Anything from the clash to Mozart. Guns and roses to The Xx. Electronic to old country. Getting it yet?

Currently playing hot chip.

Food. I love food and can take it very seriously. I like most food but have a strong hatred towards runny egg yolks and hard boiled eggs. Long story.

Him: Thai, Cuban, Caribbean, small plates, Spanish, American New and old, molecular gastronomy, French pastries.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Our family and chosen family!
Our passions (zest)
Witty banter and flirting (fun)
Fresh veggies and a good butcher (food)
Great beer and whiskey (yum)
My hands to build and touch my beautiful sweetie (touch)
Love (life)

We get some extra since there are two of us! ;)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Him: Art, metal, glass, wood, food, beer and whiskey. I think of how I can affect the world to make it a better place. Challenging old out dated schools of thought! Projects I want to build, make, conjure. How to make things better and more effective! Social justice is always on my mind in all realms. My friend put it perfectly. I'm a good guy more then a nice or bad guy. I do what's right and has the most profound impact. I also think how blessed I am to have such a very strong support group of my chosen family!

Also wondering why people consider weed to be a drug and would "Never" but consider alcohol to be ok cause it's legal...

And why do people on OKC complaining about people not taking the time to write a well rounded message but when someone does, they still don't write back. Make me think they're full of shit.

Her: The weekend and how I'm going to spend it with my friends and loved ones. How to put together the next social gathering or event (previous parties included a mac n cheese cook off, a meow vs rawr party, a black light forest theme, and a super hero and super villain peace conference!). What project I want to take on (usually something that includes crafts or sewing cool costumes). Annnd during my commute I think about why people don't seem to know how to merge, change lanes, or go at a "regular" speed. ;)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Typical by definition is nowhere close to our lives. Every weekend is unique and different hands down!

We could be driving our trailer to Mendocino, the Sierra's, a burner event or campout party. We could be running long on a happy hour in Oakland (that's happend more the once.), a art showing is sf or Oakland, having a big party or intimate gathering at our house, trying out some new restaurant, going to a themed costume party or simply taking it easy at home and doing cuddle movies on our giant bean bag chair.

Who does typical??
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
We run an event group on facecrack that is a social party group that we either create outtings and events or piggyback on other events. oh and some of us dress up in any variation of a bear or other woodland creatures. No we arent furries!

Our group has no patience for bigotry, racism, homophobia or any bullshit to that tone. We have a blast!
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
*You're excited about life, laugh at apathy and always want to do the good thing.

* You're light hearted and know how to roll with life's punches.

*You aren't shady, have hidden agendas and respect our one rule of full disclosure.

*You find both of us attractive and are interested in dating us together :)

*You're emotionally and physically healthy. You strive for healthy communication and personal growth.

*You don't put people in a "box" and judge people for their beliefs and/or passions.

*You can deal with a multitude of lifes challenges. You own your shit.

***Please spare us the one line response. It makes you seem boring and shallow. Which possibly means you might NOT be a good fit. We enjoy people that have a depth and the ability to carry their end of the conversation. 😊

***We aren't looking to fulfill unicorn fantasies. Sex is easy.. We want to find a partner in crime. Someone to grow a lasting long friendship/relationship with!

***We're also here to establish friendships with well rounded, well adjusted, poly-sex positive, genuine and sincere people. No matter your orientation, gender choice or relationship status.