For the first time I my adult life, I feel "grown up"...or, rather, that I'm making a concerted effort to be. I've gone through some major life changes the past year and am better for it. I've learned that the best way to live is without suffering from constant expectations. If you really care about something, put your full weight behind it. But oftentimes we put too much stock in affairs that aren't worthy of our attention, or that deserve very little of it, or that are not within our control. And if that's the case, let it go. (Google the article, "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck." It's wonderful, practical, and illuminative).
I've been a spontaneous person most of my life, and in key spots. Thus, in order to fulfill my innate desire to find balance, I now find myself eagerly becoming a slave to structure and routines. For example, I hit up the gym nearly every day. I try and play music every day, too.
I'm a father to a beautiful 11 year old son that I'm blessed to have every other weekend. I had him when I was 17, and although it's always been a struggle, it's been a gift as well. I'm hoping all the good in me shines through in him and that he can learn the lessons that I learned in life without having to experience them the way I did.
I love discussing philosophy and politics. I like finding common ground. I'm a feminist, a radical, a conservative, and a libertarian sinulataneously. I love reading utopian/dystopian novels, watching videos on quantum theory, and keeping current on the news in the U.S and abroad.
While I don't have a roadmap in life -I believe that kind of dreaming is an attachment that can cause suffering down the road- I do have a sense of where I want to be. I love Vermont. I think it's the most beautiful place on earth. I think I want to settle in and have a family here.
I'm a very passionate person. I've been accused of being an "intellectual," but that's only when I slow down -which rarely occurs. I like good beer, good music, and good ideas.
I'm looking for someone that's not necessarily similar to me, and doesn't necessarily have the same interests, but someone who has the same trajectory, who's on the same wavelength. Everyone always asks for the same traits in their partners-which makes sense, because we're all programmed similarly, and we all want to be loved. But not everyone knows what they're really looking for, and if they do, they don't always ask for it.
I know what I need. I need someone that is smart, compassionate, and above all else, kind. I hope you're out there. Are you?