Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You ever think maybe there's no point to this whole online dating
thing? I wonder why we all keep doing it.
I suppose I keep bothering at this because I don't feel that I have
a lot of other options for meeting people. How do you meet people
when you have at most four hours a week to leave the house alone,
let alone to 'date'? Experience tells me that online dating leads,
at best, to long exchanges of emails with occasional first dates.
Second dates are few and far between (I always have to set them up,
which is disheartening), and I honestly can't remember the last
time there was a third. I could profess an interest in casual sex,
but who really wants that in the long term? I could let go of my
ideals, my preferences, and settle, but I already know that leads
to dark places. I could fill this profile with erudite, eloquent,
enigmatic phrases, but I suppose I would have to have some hope of
things changing. Should I give up here and now? But then we come
back to the beginning: Where else do you meet people, if not the
internet? Perhaps I should shell out for a profile on a pay site,
but one must wonder if that is really worthwhile: Do people
actually encounter long-term lovers and develop meaningful
relationships on such websites? Oh me of little faith!
My life is not all fear and longing; I read good books, I make
amazing conversation, and I'll never admit to it but I'm not a
half-bad cook. I can fall madly in love in a matter of minutes, and
can summon that feeling at will long after the object of my ardor
has vacated the premises. I see art everywhere, beauty in things
most others barely notice, and the holiest of divinity in the most
profane of spaces. I can take a beautiful photograph of anyone I
find beautiful, and I can show you how much I love you with almost
no effort at all. Empathy requires so little effort for me that I
am occasionally baffled as to how many people manage to fail to
grok the emotional states of others to the extent they do. I love
to sing, and my voice doesn't send people fleeing from the room
with their fingers in their ears and wishing they'd never met
I don't dress up for first dates. Sometimes I think that is a
mistake, but most of the time I think it is important. If you
wonder about it, ask: it makes perfect sense to me, but I could be
persuaded to change my ways by a decent case.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Learning Mandarin, German, and French; Raising my son;
Surreptitiously drinking on the job; Fantasizing about a perfect
life which I have no idea how to achieve.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Many, many things, and really awful at many, many others. I mean
let's be honest, who isn't? Most recently I've been complimented on
my singing, conversational skills and tenacity; I've also sucked
ass at video games, navigating, and being patient with stupid
people. I love video games, and given enough opportunities to play
a game I will improve. Most of the time I'm very patient with
stupid people, but lately I just haven't had the energy or
inclination to deal with them. I'm *always* going to suck at
navigation, and most days I'm okay with that.
The first things people usually notice about me
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You know, I'm really not sure? I'm told that I come across as
taller online, people are surprised to find that I'm short in real
life (about 153 cm), but aside from that I have no idea. I suppose
I should ask friends what they notice about me.
**Most common answers: 1) "You're short!" (see above); 2) "You're
much prettier in real life than in your pictures." (I hear this a
lot, actually. I think it means I need to get someone to take
better pictures of me. :p)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
, Neal Stephenson
, Neal Stephenson;
Guns, Germs & Steel, Jared Diamond; The Genius in All of Us
David Shenk. I don't watch much television these days, but as long
as it's not LCD TV I'm willing to give most of it a shot. This week
I watched Leaves of Grass
and Growing Op
Netflix suggested them to me, and I loved them both. In fact,
Leaves of Grass may well have made my top ten, that movie is
hilarious and beautiful to me. <3 I'm not particularly fond of
horror and have to be in just the right mood to deal with romantic
comedies or tearjerkers, but I'm willing to watch most movies once.
My musical tastes are very eclectic
, and unlike most people who
say that they include rap & country. My favorite foods are
generally the sort I don't have to cook, but I do have particular
weaknesses for Indian & Ethiopian. Oh, and sushi
-- you don't need to like it,
but I love the stuff. :) I'm very open-minded when it comes to
trying new foods as long as they're not cantaloupe-based. Blech.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Truth, beauty, freedom, love, hope, music. I have done without all
of these things, and find it's not really worth the trouble. I
won't be settling for less than all of them in the future.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A Unified Theory of
, my next research
project, finishing my book,
making love, healing myself and others (indeed, the world), the
tendency of many people (myself included) to fear change despite
the potential for improvement, topographagnosia
and the inadequacies of human language.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home alone with two babies. Woohoo, I'm a wild one, right?
This is such a strange question. I wonder what it actually means?
Is it asking about what I do when I anticipate "time off"? I'm a
single mother: I never have time off. The closest I get to "time
off" usually involves me hiding in a bathtub for a few hours
surfing the internet. Is it asking if I'd like to go hang out in a
bar, or cuddle up with good friends, or go to a wild party? I
suppose I could do any of those things, but it doesn't come up
terribly often. Is it asking what I would do on a "typical" Friday
night if I had a significant other of my very own? Well, to be
honest I'd like to be smoking a lot of weed and having amazing sex,
at least in the short term. In the long term, I'd like to have a
family dinner, put the baby to bed, and then smoke a lot of weed
and have amazing sex.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I tend to discriminate against men based on their age, especially
when they're interested in casual sex (and let's be honest, most of
you are). Here's the deal: I find casual sex to be depressing, and
kind of lackluster on average. If I'm going to deliberately engage
in such an activity, I want to have a good reason to believe that
it will be at least decent, if not *good*, and I have had
remarkably little *good* sex with men over 45. I guess what I'm
saying is, if you expect to have that kind of party with me you'd
best bring your viagra and whatever you need to keep yourself
awake; If you're not in shape for a marathon, you're probably going
to have a hard time keeping up, and then we'll both be
You should message me if
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If you feel like it, I suppose, and if you have something
interesting to say. Please use proper grammar
; I will delete your message
promptly if you don't.
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