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My self-summary
I was camping near a river with friends. Ahh, I love the fresh smells of the forest. There were five of us and a little dust-mop with legs, Bill and Nancy’s terrier-something called Zippy. Early one morning after I hadn’t slept too well on the hard ground (my air mattress went flat--as they all did in those days), the others decided to head downstream perhaps to find a cool place for a swim. I wanted to sleep some more, so Zippy and I stayed behind. I woke up a couple of hours later—time doesn’t seem so important when you’re in the wilderness. Zippy and I started along the bank, downstream to find the others. Well, at one point Zip-dog decided to take a flying leap onto a giant rock that slanted down toward the river. I watched in disbelief as the little guy slid, backwards, his little paws getting no purchase as he fell helplessly into the river below butt-first. His tiny head bobbed a few times, and then he was pulled downstream by the current—out of sight. What to do? Well, time didn’t slow down and I just jumped into the river after him. I’m a pretty good swimmer and confident in the water, but after the shock of cold and just two strong strokes I realized my arms were doing nothing; the current was carrying me along. I had jumped in to save Zippy, but now I was trying to stay alive myself. There was this period of a kind of river-rafting-without-the-raft that followed, with me trying everything I could to swim, walk, jump, push or grab my way to safety as the river whipped me around curves and into rocks and pools, dunking me at intervals. I came around a bend and there was Zippy, no lie, his little soaked head circling in a whirlpool. I pulled and kicked as hard and fast as I could, and as I reached for him—miracle— my foot touched the bottom and I was able to pull myself to safety, grab Zippy and drag both of us out of the water. I sat on rock for a long time after that, quietly holding Zippy, dripping, drying, breathing his wet-dog smell. Then I just screamed a few times, really loudly. I didn’t choose to do it, it just happened, with the sound bursting out me because I was so glad to be alive and to have saved Zip-dog’s little canine life. I heard later that lots of people had drowned in the river that weekend.

So that’s me. I love the outdoors, animals, friends. I enjoy good food, live theater, good cinema including foreign and indie films, politics (left), FaceBook and other computer nonsense, reading history, biography and good fiction. I have a couple of graduate degrees and am dedicated to helping people, doing my small part to make the world a better place. Family is important to me, I’m very involved with my grown daughters who live out-of-state, and spent most of my life in a long-term relationship, but now have moved on.
What I’m doing with my life
I recently left a job as the manager of a large agency that helped people with disabilities become more productive and independent in their lives. I'm trained and licensed as a psychotherapist and am working at a mental health clinic right now.
I’m really good at
When asked to describe me, people have said I am bright, creative, a good problem-solver, and a good listener. I can tell a good story, and owning a house over the years, have gotten pretty good at do-it-yourself kinds of repairs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think it's my warm, welcoming presence. I am the kind of person who is open to many different kinds of people, and generally am warm and friendly with everyone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I’m not into TV, watch very little, but love movies at home or out, walks, hiking, exploring new places, the mountains, and laughter. I’m also not into sports or spending every spare minute at the gym. I enjoy many different types of music, but mostly listen to classic rock. I also enjoy good food, live theater, good cinema including foreign and indie films, politics (left), FaceBook and other computer nonsense, reading history, biography and good fiction.
The six things I could never do without
A computer and other gadgets
Hikes and other outdoor exercise
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How the world could be better. The fact that life is a mystery and presents us with things that can't be fully understood or figured out. How to do my best, in all the things that might mean, to have the life I want to have, and be able to say in the end, I did, I mean really DID the things that were the most important and meaningful.
On a typical Friday night I am
I might be home alone, perhaps watching a movie or on the computer, or I might be out with friends at a restaurant and/or off to a movie with them, or out for dinner and a walk with a guy friend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There's the part of me that loves adventure, and in just a few days I once went on 9 zip-lines down a mountain, went river-rafting twice, rode a horse through the rain forest, visited a volcano, went for dip in some large natural hot springs, was swimming and snorkeling among tropical fish and other sea creatures and drove a jet ski to a distant destination. Now that was fun!
You should message me if
I’m looking for a slender, attractive, intelligent, down-to-earth woman who finds pleasure in wearing a dress or skirt at least occasionally, but also doesn’t mind getting dirty. I’m enjoying meeting people, am open to new friends, but long-term is an option if the right special lady comes along. I’m hoping to meet someone who doesn’t take herself too seriously, understands that life is a mystery, and sometimes just laughs at how absurd it can be. If you find me interesting, and we seem to have some things in common, then message me and we’ll start to get to know each other. Based on the kind of account I have, I can't see "likes", so if you are interested, please send me a message.