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62 Salt Lake City, UT Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 52–66
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Last online
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White, Other
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Not at all
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Since writing this profile I've had some very serious medical problem and am on the mend. What is below is true for when I wrote it. I will have to, as time allows, rewrite most of it.
*******************************************************I am a born & bred N00 Yawku; raised&educated in Brooklyn in a Public School 4 Intellectually Gifted Children when neighborhoods were extended families & the school system demanded competency. I have a remarkable 3.5yr old 109lb gentle, teasing giant German, German - Kojak. He is well mannered and well trained by me through love and limit setting. I love to dance (especially slow & to the blues) ~ Most importantly I love to love in all its many aspects. I am a man; many would say a man's man, some might say something lesser; expert in a few areas, knowledgeable in many. I see, & have seen 4 quite a while, life as a journey to enjoy & issues/problems & adversities as opportunities to learn & grow. ‘There is no way out but through’.

My photos are current& representative. I will need to place some more recent ones as I am now my ideal weight. I would not recommend my weight loss program to the Republicans.

I was a wayward youth, perhaps an understatement, who got into the drug scene heavily, been to hell& back [Several lifetimes ago]&am a lot more tempered & wise 4 having made that journey. I entered Odyssey House of NYC & was treated&trained by the founder Judianne Densen-Gerber JD, MD.

I held Executive Positions for ten years in 4 different state & it is what brought me here in 1979 to Direct the Youth Division of OH of UT. Teenagers are tough generally, the one's I worked with were the toughest. Still I loved the challenge and had the patience, tolerance, compassion and training to do my best. Then I gained employment with the Division of Corrections under Social Services in '83 which became the Department of Corrections under Public Safety.

I retired in July of '04 with medals & citations from a Public Safety/Peace Officer career & in October of the same year I was dead & revived; hospital for two weeks & on an IV drip at home another 3 weeks with the drip and oxygen; Empyema. That humbling experience also enabled me to value LIFE even more.

Most of my career/s, including Specialized Law Enforcement specializing in Social Work, Staff training & programing, & specialized unit design and development were both unique & remarkable.
My Professions and training put me at the top of the field in matters that address sexual and child abuse, both victim/survivor and perpetrators, addictions, the Criminal Justice System, the failed Correctional Systems and Residential TX, specifically the Therapeutic Community, program and treatment design for difficult populations and more.

What is above is for the purpose of weeding out those who, for whatever reasons would see what is stated as fearful, negative or dissuading. Everything is as it should be & I have no regrets. I have a large heart balanced by a wise & experienced mind/spirit & am happily retired from amazing & remarkable careers in SERVICE to the community. I continue to serve daily and am involved in current politics - 'Revulsion for the Hell of It' & I need Momma Nature. I will consult but am not seeking work.

Life is a two edged sword consisting of paradoxes. Keep the blade sharp, use it wisely; recognize the gray areas, as they are the ones that primarily constitute life & beware of fundamentalists of any persuasion or discipline.

Golden Rule &, As told by Rabbi Hillel in the Babylonian era; He was asked by a 'Wiseguy' can you explain the Torah in one sentence. - "Do not unto others that which you do not want done upon yourself, the rest is commentary'. He was a sage to Jesus. Hippocrates “First do no harm”; that in essence along with respect for Momma nature & all her inhabitants forms the basis of my spiritual beliefs & practices. I also believe in principles before personalities and with certainty I leave my world a better place daily. By nature, nurture and training I serve and protect and I disdain bullying of any kind and will intervene sometimes with both humans and animals.

I am saddened by the poisoning and destruction of the one Earth given us by the most dangerous of all animals, that is the only animal that kills for reasons other than sustenance.

Live - love - laugh & be happy & do the same for others. My goals are simple; to continue: to give & to be student & mentor, to love creatively in all its forms & manners, to protect & to serve; by nature, nurture & training ~ & to leave each day better for having participated & for having been a good man, brother, friend, neighbor, citizen & keeper of Momma earth. Some facsimile of the above is what I would in a partner. Someone who walks the talk. Mutual "CHEMISTRY" is essential as is an active sex life.

I have many & varied interests indoors & out in Momma Nature.
Newer photos will be placed soon but they are all representative. If you are < 48 I will most likely not be interested, but can make exceptions.

IMPORTANT - I am averse to organized religion. If you follow the dogma, I'm not 4U. If you do so called good because you are afraid of hell and or looking for life eternal in heaven, I am not 4U. However if you do good, for mankind without any expectation of reward, I may be 4U. Also, if you are intellectually curious, seeing life as a continuing learning process and can teach me and learn from me - I just may be for you.

This essay will be a work in progress.

Peacefully, lovingly and encouragingly yours,

Bernie AKA by some as Buddy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Enjoying, improving, sharing, loving, educating and being educated by two amazing canine pals among others, remodeling, gardening, camping, reading and writing, being both student and mentor and maintaining my network of family and friends. Did I mention seeking a friend and lover who 'Gets me' and is congruent with much of what I say here.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Loving, friendship, creative thinking and writing, social justice and doing what I can to at least make my world better, being both a wiseguy and a wise man, being a wonderful lover, asserting myself and standing up for my rights as well as others.

A great dog person, riding a motorcycle and appreciating the wilderness. OOOOOoooooo there's really more.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Although not concerned it is probably, my ease and assured, comfortable manner of interacting, my smile or laugh, my salt and pepper beard, maybe some off the wall, but functional garment or accessory, and my long ponytail.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I guess I have too long a history for favorites. Most of my reading is non fiction about the world and its inhabitants focusing but not limiting myself to human. I get the New Yorker and the New Republic. Much of my reading is on the WWWW. 4th W is Wonderful.

I like classic rock and roll from the 50's -70's.

I love Dem blues and jazz but not discordant stuff.

I grew up going to Broadway musicals and saw Leonard Bernstein conducting for West Side Story.

I like some country and almost contrary to most, like the newest American Art form - Rap and Hip-Hop; like all of the above including Classical -- I like some, love some and don't to others.

Food ethnic - not a chain.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Food, H20 and shelter. OK it's a given, however even in Maslow's hierarchy of needs, but nothing can be obtained/built/created without.
A loving partner who is intelligent, has a fairly accurate knowledge of the world and its history, creative and adores me.
Books or the WWWW - 4th W is wonderful
a loving partner whom I adore
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The best ways to make the above happen, while educating myself, the canines, gardening, smiling and leaving my world a better place daily.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In my best Brooklynese - Ain't no tipuhcul Fryeday - but I'll take scallops with a hot sauce from Umbertos.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have been very open and honest in my answers. I comment on many of the Q&As and adjust when I am better informed or enlightened.

Anything more private would be up close and quite personal.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You understand and like my profile and believe we would, enjoy, fulfill, enhance, teach and learn, laugh with and at each others foibles, and that a loving, creative sex life is important to you.

The questions overall were the best I've seen on any site. On the test there were many answers that gave no dialogue for explanation. I put defensive driving because I was so trained and I ride a motorcycle. But I am an assertive driver in probably one of the wost states for driving n the country. We'll really know when we meet.--------------------