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59 San Jose, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 40-65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
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Straight, Sapiosexual
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Other but it’s not important
Dropped out of University
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I finally realized what the self-summary is supposed to be used for - the early filter! So here goes:

I am adventurous, free-spirited and open-minded.
If it sounds fun I am likely to try it as long as it does not hurt anyone. Probably twice. I don't have any unusual appetites but I have tried some things that might shock others.

I am a man with a past. Yes, we all have pasts, but some folks seem to have a hard time getting past mine. If you are at all judgmental or disapprove of others who make life choices different than yours, I'm not a good fit for you.

(No, I haven't been to prison. Not that kind of a past.)

I am conservative financially because my income is highly variable. Therefore, I'm not likely to whisk you off to Paris for lunch on a whim. But I'm a mean cook and can treat you to a fantastic meal right at home, and even in the leanest of years I provide for myself and my own needs, so I'm not a burden on anyone.

To put is succinctly, I've matured enough to not care at all what other people think of what I do, what I think, or what I say. While I don't do what I do to offend or shock anyone, if anyone is offended or shocked, well, that's just too bad. I honestly just don't care. I wish you well.

That should filter out most of those for whom I'm a really bad fit... If you're still reading:

I like to be kind to everyone and generous to those who need it.
I am a very present, empathetic listener (and always working at getting better.)

I am an excellent communicator: I listen well, and I will tell you what I'm feeling and thinking whether I think you want to hear it or not. If I think you don't want to hear it, I will be as kind, but as clear, as possible. In other words, what you see or hear is what you get.
I do what I say I'm going to do.

I am passionate about life, about people that I'm in relationship with, and about growing spiritually and intellectually.

My favorite passions outside of relationships are sailing and dogs. I have a Border Collie who loves sailing, and I would be in heaven sailing off into the sunset with her.

I love to laugh and I love to see the humor in everyday life.

If you're still with me, we could be an interesting match. If you want to know more, you'll have to go through my questions and contact me... :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Keeping my head down and working.

Writing - a lot. I published a non-fiction book in my field last year, am working on another non-fiction book and my first novel.

Beginning the first steps of the next natural phase of my career.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Concise writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My Smile
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Anne Rice and Patrick O'Brien are my favorite novelists. I read business and leadership books quite a bit lately, and open-minded relationship books. Do I have favorites? Many...

I published a non-fiction book last year in my field, and am working on my first novel. I have to work in my spare time, which is pretty spare, but hope to have it done by 2016 sometime.

Movies: I confess I have a weakness for James Bond and Captain Jack Sparrow, but those celebrating relationships and growth get my attention too.

Music: Jimmy Buffett! Too fun!

Food: Asian, particularly Chinese and Japanese. Sushi rocks!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love and companionship
Good wine with dinner
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be the person I need to be to manifest a spectacular life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at home, but always open for fun times with good people.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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...I'll admit when I get to know you better.
You should message me if
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You think you'd like to spend time getting to know a nice guy who thinks alternatively.