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37 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:10am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type

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My self-summary
I'm quite occupied right now and not really looking for new situations, but I'm always happy to provide advise for folks considering a poly lifestyle.

Ok, summarize 30+ years of experience in a box. Right...

Intellectually: In a good place with my life. Happy, explorative, inquisitive and I don't think I'm any more broken than the next person. I'm always seeking out new experiences, new perspectives and new things to learn. I've been told that I'm very generous, caring and loving. I'm also a fairly drama free person.

Spiritually: I'm not religious, but I believe in treating people the way I would hope to be treated. I respect the fact that some people are religious, I just don't need it and don't subscribe to any specific belief that is beyond knowing. But I do get annoyed when religious folks try to rub it in your face.

Physically: I'm not short at 5'10" and I'm in good shape. I love to run, bike, and hit the gym. Used to do yoga and boxing, but ran out of time for those. All of my features are in good working order and I'm checked for worms regularly. ;)
What I’m doing with my life
Experiencing polyamory. Oh shit! There it is! Well I can’t take it back now because my backspace key is broken. It’s probably better that this is upfront anyhow.

The question should be what am I not doing with my life. I work hard and play hard. I won’t bore you with the work stuff although you’ll probably pick up on my bad list making habit. The play stuff involves:
• Biking
• Snowboarding
• Brewing Beer
• Running (because of the beer)
• Trying to get back into making music again
• Raising 2 kids (that’s play sometimes…)
• Gardening (I maybe should have had the backspace for this one)
• Woodworking
• Travelling, but not as much as I would like (kids…)
I’m really good at
Um, yeah... Backspace key... Avoiding this one...
The first things people usually notice about me
I think that I project more machismo or toughness than I really intend to project as corny as that might sound. I'm actually think I'm a pretty nice and caring person, but every time I shave my head (even though I'm not balding at all), I get far more apologies and politeness from men and smiles from women. It's funny how much difference hair can make.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Far too many musical interests to list. Did I say that I once worked for a record label? Here’s a starter list in no particular order:
• Neutral Milk Hotel
• Of Montreal
• The Smiths
• Frightened Rabbit
• Tame Impala (the name Lame Impala would have been cooler though)
• NoFX
• Unknown Mortal Orchestra
• Olivia Tremor Control
• Radiohead
• Portishead
• Pink Floyd (early recordings)
• Dethklok
• The Pixies
• The Flaming Lips
• Grandaddy
• Ok Go (you do need to see the video for Needing/Getting if you haven’t)
• The Ramones
• The Beastie Boys
• Yo La Tengo
• Can
• Midlake
• Grizzly Bear (and Department of Eagles)
• Sebadoh
• Tom Waits
• Ratatat
• The Clash
• Dearhunter
• Manu Chau
• Elliot Smith
• Esquivel
• Tortoise
• The Velvet Underground
• Gorillaz
• The Sex Pistols
• M Ward
• My Bloody Valentine

As for books, I find myself reading more non-fiction since I get enough entertainment from everyday life. Some recent titles:
• Sway: The Irresistible Pull of Irrational Behavior
• Where Good Ideas Come From
• The Paradox of Choice
• Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas (although technically Fiction… …riiiiight)

And too many movies/shows to list:
• Brazil
• Dexter
• Wristcutters: A Love Story
• 12 Monkeys
• Taxi Driver
• Weeds
• Breaking Bad
• Killing Zoe
• Rome
• Kill Bill… (yes I’ll watch the new one too)
• Fight Club
• High Fidelity
• Six Feet Under
• 12oz Mouse
• Anything by Joss Whedon
• Dr Strangelove
• Battlestar Galactica
• Immortal Beloved
• The Professional (bonus points if you can cite where Gary Oldman adlibs a reference to Immortal Beloved)
• Moonrise Kingdom
• Being John Malkovich
• Inception
• A Fish Called Wanda
• Pi

Food: Chocolate, I actually just live on Chocolate. Wait, that's not true; I live on bacon too. Actually, there's a chocolate bacon candy bar from my old hometown but I've said too much now. Now the vegans and vegetarians won't date me. Damn that broken backspace key! It probably doesn't help that I was pretty much a vegetarian as I was living with one for years. But I ate her... Oh crap, I did it again!!! I need a new computer. Who even says "computer" anymore?!?!? Crap, the fact that I put "computer" in quotes will probably anger someone. Oh well, I can't please everyone. Or can I?
The six things I could never do without
Hmmm... How to answer this one. With the trite "air", "water", "farting"... Wait, what? Backspace...

I'm just not gonna play this game. I'm a "more is better" person, I can admit that about myself and realize that this list of six will be way longer. Unless of course there's a zombie apocalypse. There, now I'm as cool as everyone else on this site with a zombie apocalypse reference. Booyah!!! Did I just say booyah! Yes I did. F the backspace...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How much Burning Man is going to really suck this year. I mean really, it's just going to suck!!! You really shouldn't go. You've got the crowds and the noise and the blinky lights and the stuff that just can't be understood. Forget about it. Wait, what did you say? You've never been? Well shit then go before they run out of things to burn!!!!
On a typical Friday night I am
There's no such thing as a typical Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My backspace key really isn't broken.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Someone independent and open minded to the idea of polyamory. I have a very solid marriage that this will not supercede. I'm really looking for a somewhat consistent connection with someone that might want to go out weekly and have fun. And if you're really into polyamory, please don't be someone that is trying to make a political statement with it. I don't need to be super discreet, but I don't need extended family and coworkers in on the news yet. I haven't really gotten there yet and I'm not sure that I ever will. Only our good friends and select coworkers know.