Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I probably don't fit the molds you're going to place me in. I'm
simultaneously artist, jock, frat boy, insensitive, and
As for what I'm looking for; My aunt said something to me a while
ago that really stuck, she said she loves my uncle most because
he's her greatest cheerleader. I'm looking for someone who makes me
their cheerleader. This isn't easy task.
Oh, and this:
November 10, 1958
We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of
view and of course Elaine will from hers.
First — if you are in love — that’s a good thing — that’s about the
best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it
small or light to you.
Second — There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean,
grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance.
This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of
everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect
— not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect
which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The
first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can
release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom
you didn’t know you had.
You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply — of course
it isn’t puppy love.
But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better
than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do
about it — and that I can tell you.
Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for
The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up
If you love someone — there is no possible harm in saying so — only
you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the
saying must take that shyness into consideration.
Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they
usually like to hear it also.
It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one
reason or another — but that does not make your feeling less
valuable and good.
Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have
We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine
will make all such arrangements because that is her province and
she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she
can give you more help than I can.
And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens — The main
thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Work: I'm an architect. I design modern buildings for the
Non-Work: Cooking, Eating and Drinking.
These are my two true passions. I think we undervalue the impact
that both the built environment and food has on our happiness. Life
is too short for bad design and uninspired food.
Note: I will not date a vegetarian, or someone who won't try food
because it's unfamiliar.
Note II: PLEASE, do not write me asking if I really mean this about
dating vegetarians, or pescetarians, or flexitarian (yes, this
exists) or whatever you've deemed yourself. Food is culture, and I
want any family that I may or may not have to share one meal,
together. This is very important to me, so you asking me if I'll
make an exception belittles this. No vegetarians, no Arians,
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Looking like I'm not listening when I really am.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall, I'm loud. Hey, I can't help it, I'm from the East Coast!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This list is old, but It's still all relevant
Music: In order of the Best Concerts of 2012
David Byrne and St. Vincent (Best Show of my life? Still processing
Buke and Gase
Asteroids Galaxy Tour
Peter, Bjorn and John
etc. etc. etc.
Food & Drink:
Hitchcock on Bainbridge
Loretta's Northwesterner (Tavern Burgers)
Rancho Bravo (Tamales)
Maximillien (See-Food on a summer day)
Paseo, but for their scallop sandwich
Walrus & Carpenter
etc. etc. etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Lumocolors, A Sketch Book, My Kitchen Knife, My Bottle Opener,
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why so many people overuse the word wanderlust here on OKC, and why
half of them don't know it is a noun only.
We get it, you're an easy going person who loves music, food and
travel. Really though, we will meet and you won't really love food.
You'll likely be self prescribed allergic to something; not eat
meat off of a bone, or with a face, cause it's "yucky", and will
get grossed out when I order the sweetbreads because "we" only eat
the prime cuts and stay away from all things offal.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You should message me if:
-you aren't boring
-you will try anything more than once
-you are creative in some capacity
-you enjoy getting dressed up
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