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39 Oakland, CA Woman, Transmasculine, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer

Woman, Transmasculine, Gender Nonconforming, Genderqueer

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  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Today – 7:36pm
Pacific Islander, White
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
High school
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I'm a single old school butch dyke that lives in Oakland with my two dogs, cockatiel, and box turtle (oh la la! so gay!). I'm a paramedic and have been working on an ambulance for 12 years and I love it. I identify as female and I'm proud to be the "dying butch breed" but some female pronouns make me feel weird. For example, a recent date referred to me as "Brewster's mom." I'm his dad, damn it. My dogs are my kids. For serious. Recent quote from an ex regarding my dogs and I: "My dogs are fucking magic. Anyone who does not love them, vanishes." We are a group package (I said "package"). I love vintage motorcycles (I have two), beer (go Anchor Steam), photography, cemeteries, dogs, all animals in general (former veterinary assistant of 13 years), classic rock, vintage vinyl, rolled up Levi's, white tee shirts, Pendletons, plaid (I know, I know), and spending time with my friends and family (I seriously have the best of both). I go the distance for my friends and even further for my lover. I have a wicked, if not at times inappropriate and/or morbid sense of humor and am easy going and laid back. I am known for really bad puns. I have a weakness for hot femmes with tattoos, but am open to all types of queers. I have an old school vintage look and try to look cool but I'll usually ruin it within 10 minutes of meeting you by lots of inappropriate laughter, bad jokes, a spilled drink, and/or lots of "that's what she said comments." A dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste. Also, I like nice people. Nice, sweet people. One of my friends recently referred to a date as "too nice". Please be that type of person/date. I can't stand mean or rude people. You can be sweet and still be dirty. Know the difference.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work full time in a busy 911 system and started to teach about a year ago. I teach all sorts of medical related classes and recently became the lead instructor for an EMT program at a local university. It's a rad gig and so much fun. I volunteer my time whenever I can for miscellaneous organizations that need medical aid including two local roller derby leagues. I take a lot of trips with my dogs and love to find new pup friendly places. I foster shelter and rescue pups whenever I can. I'm always taking off on long motorcycle rides and I love to get lost doing so. I also take a lot of trips with friends and family. I'm considering doing the teaching gig full time but I think I would really miss being out there running 911 calls. I'm kinda at a crossroads in my life right now, but in a good way.
I’m really good at
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Knowing the name of every classic rock song that comes on the radio within a second of the first guitar chord, puns, educating, bad jokes, making sick people and/or injured people all better, riding motorcycles, and making people laugh even if they are rolling their eyes when they do it. I'm also super good at showing up for those I care about, listening and truly "hearing" people when they speak, and respecting boundaries. I expect the same in return, of course. I'm am not a U-Haul dyke. I believe in good old fashioned courtship and dating. I've never understood the dyke phenomenon of the instant relationship. I like to take my time getting to know people. If you are looking for a instant relationship and insta-boifriend I am probably not your guy. My longest relationship was 10 years and it was great, but I don't jump right into things. This is a dating site. I am probably going on other dates and so are you. I'm cool with it. You be cool with it, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My name is "different". The fact that I probably tripped when I walked into the room (accident prone like, whoa). I get referred to as "sir" or "young man" a lot. I am often told that I am "well put together". I think this is a compliment but I haven't quite figured out what this means. I often have two small dogs wearing hoodies with me. I'm polite and have good manners. I laugh a lot. I'm nice. My eyebrows. Oh, and I hear I smell pretty good.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Little Prince is my all time favorite and it speaks to me on many levels. Mary Roach. Raymond Carver. Oscar Wilde. Hella medical books ALL the time. I'm a major medical nerd.

Movies: Grease and Xanadu (I kinda have a thing for Olivia Newton John), The Outsiders, Weird Science, Pretty In Pink, The Breakfast Club, Big Fish, But I'm A Cheerleader, All Over Me, anything starring Clark Griswold, horror flicks in general. Shows: American Horror Story, The Walking Dead. I don't generally watch much TV and if I do it's Netflix, FTW. I don't even have cable.

Music: Def Leppard, Fleetwood Mac, Queen, Jeff Buckley, Journey, Van Halen, Led Zeppelin, The Eagles, The Beatles, ELO, Boston, Billy Squier..this list would be way too long. My favorite type of music is 70's and 80's rock and I know every band from that genre well. I always, always win the game of "guess the song on the radio."

Food: SPICY! Thai and Indian are my favorites. I'm a vegetarian but not one of "those" vegetarians. I'm not bothered by what other people eat.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My sweet pups, Kenickie and Brewster (if you know where Kenickie's name came from, you rule).
My friends.
My family.
My motorcycles.
My record player.
Sex (lez be honest).

7. (I'm a rebel, Dottie) Emergency medicine. I love my job and it is part of my identity.

8. Roller derby. *swoooooon*
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Staying gold, like Pony Boy. The meaning of life. Death. Love. Gender identity. If my dogs really love me because I'm me, or because I'm a supply of endless food and heat. Roller derby. The pathophysiology of illnesses and disease. How to leave the world a better place than I found it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Checking out a burlesque show. Having drinks with my friends at our favorite dive bars or going out/staying in for dinner with friends. Sometimes working the night shift. Sometimes visiting family. Sometimes having friends over for movies. Sometimes lounging on the couch with the kids listening to vinyl. Often times heading out of town to take the dogs somewhere we haven't been or somewhere we love (ie Big Sur, Guerneville gayaway).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can be a little aloof to try to hide behind a tough guy exterior but I'm a big softy at heart (softy? softie? ugh. whatevs). But don't tell anyone. "I got a rep to protect."
You should message me if
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You like old school butches and you know what that means. You like chivalry. You like a bad boi with a big heart. You are kind. You love dogs and animals. You would like to have a light hearted, fun, sweet date and laugh your ass off. You are down to earth and not easily offended. You are not jealous or controlling (pretty please?). You like motorcycles. Classic rock is your jam. You're into the type of "girl" who sends straight women and children running and screaming out of public restrooms. I'm often mistaken for male. The way I like to put it is that if there was a gay rainbow (duh) and the left was high femme and the right FTM, I would be hanging over the top towards the right.