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37 F Oakland, CA

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Last Online
Today – 7:20am
Pacific Islander, White
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Graduated from high school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I'm a single old school butch dyke that lives in Oakland with my two dogs, cockatiel, and box turtle (oh la la! so gay!). I'm a paramedic and have been working on an ambulance for 9 years and I love it. I identify as female and I'm proud to be the "dying butch breed" but some female pronouns make me feel weird. My dogs are my kids. For serious. Like the boi? Then please, like the dogs. We are a group package (I said "package"). A recent date referred to me as Brewster's mom. That felt funny. I'm his dad, damn it. I love vintage motorcycles (I have two), beer (go Anchor Steam), photography, cemeteries, dogs (boi's best friends), all animals in general, classic rock, vintage vinyl, rolled up Levi's, white tee shirts, Pendletons, plaid (I know, I know), and spending time with my friends and family (I seriously have the best of both). I go the distance for my friends and further for my lover. I have a wicked, if not at times inappropriate, sense of humor and am easy going and laid back. My hair is finally long enough to pomp, and this makes me happy. Its a little high maintence though, and I am not fond of that. One of us may have to go (it's not me, its you. sigh.). I have a weakness for hot femmes with tattoos. That doesn't mean high femme only. But definitely more femme than me (not hard to accomplish if you see what I look like). I have an old school vintage look and try to look cool but I'll usually ruin it within 10 minutes of meeting you by lots of inappropriate laughter, bad jokes, a spilled drink, and/or lots of "that's what she said comments." A dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste.
What I’m doing with my life
Full time paramedic, part time EMS educator, finding amazing new motorcycle rides/trips, road trips with the pups, searching for a gal who's as sweet as she is hot. I'm a lover, not a fighter.
I’m really good at
Knowing the name of every classic rock song that comes on the radio within a second of the first guitar chord, puns, making sick people and/or injured people all better, riding motorcycles, and making people laugh even if they are rolling their eyes when they do it. Oh, and knowing when to be serious.
The first things people usually notice about me
My name is "different". The fact that I probably tripped when I walked into the room (accident prone like, whoa). I get referred to as "sir" or "young man" a lot. I am often told that I am "well put together". I think this is a compliment but I haven't quite figured out what this means. I often have two small dogs wearing hoodies with me. I'm polite and have good manners. I laugh a lot. I'm nice. My eyebrows. Oh, and I hear I smell pretty good.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Anything by Oscar Wilde or Raymond Carver and The Little Prince. Medical books. Lots and lots of them. I have a brain. Movies: Grease and Xanadu (I kinda have a thing for Olivia Newton John). Shows: American Horror Story, The Walking Dead. I don't generally watch much TV. Music: Def Leppard, Queen, Jeff Buckley, Journey, Van Halen, Led Zeppelin...this list would be way too long. Essentially 70's and 80's rock. I was a musician for years so my tastes vary and I can appreciate just about all of it. Food: SPICY! Thai and Indian are my favorites. I'm a vegetarian but not one of "those" vegetarians. I'm not bothered by what other people eat.
The six things I could never do without
Kenickie (dog kid number one and points if you know where the name came from).
Brewster (dog kid number two).
My friends.
My family.
My motorcycles.
My record player.

7. (I'm a rebel, Dottie) Emergency medicine. I love my job and it is part of my identity.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to fill out these forms without sounding boring or lame because I've never done the OkCupid thing before. I promise to think of something more charming and intriguing later.
On a typical Friday night I am
Having drinks with my friends at our favorite dive bars and taking really horrible pictures to post on Facebook at 2 am to horrify each other in the morning. Sometimes working. Sometimes visiting family. Often heading out of town to take the dogs somewhere new and fabulous. Also watching live music, and/or hopefully on a hot date.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can be a little aloof to try to hide behind a tough guy exterior but I'm a big softy at heart (softy? softie? ugh. whatevs).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 25–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You like old school butches and you know what that means. You dig the butch-femme dynamic. You like chivalry. You like a bad boi with a big heart. You'd like to have a light hearted, fun, sweet date and laugh your ass off. You identify as femme, tattoos are a plus, and nice but with an added streak of naughty (got kink?). You are down to earth and not easily offended. You are not jealous or controlling (pretty please?). You like motorcycles. Classic rock is your jam. You're into the type of girl who sends straight women and children running and screaming out of public restrooms. I'm often mistaken for male. The way I like to put it is that if there was a gay rainbow (duh) and the left was high femme and the right FTM, I would by WAY up over the top. I said "top". Yep.