Most of us fear love as much as we want it—sometimes less, sometimes more. We fear both the receiving and giving of full-on love. The en¬gaged focus of loving eyes can feel invasive. Those who want our love can seem to be asking too much of us. The vulnerability inherent in loving and being loved can be quite daunting. We want love to happen on our own terms. We want to show love only in the way that feels safe to us. We want full control of the love we parcel out: how much, how long, how deep.
To be loved requires vulnerability in three forms of willingness: to show we love someone before he shows he loves us, to be seen at our best and worst, and to show our needs.
(From How to Be an Adult in Love, page 36: http://bit.ly/XpD3mi)