Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are living in Minneapolis or nearby, but Northern Cali is
better ;), between the age of 35 and 42,
college-educated,intelligent, funny, kind and patient, generally
fit and healthy, adventurous and love travelling, a non-smoker(this
is non-negotiable), respectful of women and a progressive thinker,
loyal, believe in monogamy and a hopeless romantic. You should also
be emotionally healthy and have a healthy group of friends. At this
point of my life I am not looking for something casual, but
something long-term and with sustainability. I hope you are
I am generally physically attracted to tall guys (5'10" to 6'1")
with broad shoulders, green eyes, and dark hair. And since I
consider passion essential in a fulfilling life I enjoy intense
physical attraction between two people. Also consider myself a
Sapiosexual, so a brilliant and critically-thinking mind is very
sexy to me. But most of all I find empathy, kindness and a big
heart in a man irresistible!
I'm also a sucker for salt and pepper hair, esp with green
I will state that I am not going to date anyone who already has
children(another nonnegotiable area)...with my lifestyle and
long-term goals, it will not work for me.
If your message is respectful and I am interested I will respond,
but I am very selective about who I choose to meet...but if you can
make me laugh (with you, not at you) the odds will be in your
favor. This being said, if there is a mutual interest I would like
to meet up as soon as possible. I really am not into online games
or catfishing and when someone just wants to interact virtually, it
is a red flag for me that they are not who they claim to be online!
I will also not respond if you are looking for casual sex, because
if you are in your 30s and still looking to hook up, I will not be
interested in meeting you!
Hopefully you dont have a shirtless picture you took of yourself
with your cellphone(the dreaded selfies),esp in the bathroom
mirror, on your profile. Those pictures turn me off, and hence
might not get a response. I mean seriously...if you are so eager to
show off your awesome unclothed torso: please have a friend take a
picture of you at the beach(if you don't have a friend, work on
that first before you work on dating someone). And if that task is
too difficult, have your mom or aunt take one in your back yard or
something. Because if you are trying to impress
someone...anyone...you do not start off with a bathroom selfie with
your toilet peeking out in the corner!
My dealbreakers are : blind devotion to a doctrinated religion,
smoking, living with your parents, opposition to same-sex marriage.