A Little Rant...
I'm all for fun, and attention, but I'm also an old school kind of guy with a modern twist.
I remember a time before social media when people had to be creative in order to get the attention of someone special. Remember the age of writing a letter for that one person? We wrote notes; often a flirtatious letter, with a simple message:
"Do you like me?
Yes [ ] No [ ]."
That was the era of deliberate intentions where we stated, "I noticed you, do
you notice me too?"
Romantic efforts were made to begin the process of courtship.
Today we take selfies with our camera phones with the intention of posting them on Facebook not for one person, for the whole world. People do it because we know we're going to get 30 Likes, and a handful of gratifying comments from people we can't even see; most of whom are trying to "holla at me."
That instant gratification became an addictive drug for the masses and became too hard of a habit for most people to even attempt to kick. Rather than procuring 15 hand written letters of admiration in a week (if you were super popular), we got used to that infamous red notification blip totaling at 30, just two hours after a single post.
Most people chose to ignore the fact that they are embracing the attention from the world of cybernetics simply because they are morphing into virtual sluts. We laugh at the notion of being called a "camera whore," because it's the comical label. Sad thing is, it's true. Now, people NEED to announce to the world every little thing they do. It seems as though, at least on a subconscious level, that people feel they have to be the center of attention. That's why people are constantly checking in at a restaurant; a gym; a library, the friggin bathroom at The Fat Black Pussycat bar in the Village. Nobody wants to be alone, and seek the virtual acknowledgement from people who refuse to look up from their phones.
Why do you need the approval from a handful of people who are nowhere near you? Why do you need to make a post for every little thing you do? Are people so self conscious today that we need admiration from EVERYONE?
What happened to finding that one person who loves you for who you are, and not the facade you're building?
Dating in today's society is like shopping on Amazon. There are a ton of insanely awesome items that you would love to buy, but you know it's not economically feasible have everything you see. That's the world of dating today. There's a very large menu of seemingly perfect people who are VERY easy on the eyes. Unless you are psychotically into polygamy, you can't have every gorgeous person that you see. The love of your life, your soul mate, the person who could make you happy and whom you could grow old with could very well be right in front of you, but most people can't see them clearly because they're are too distracted by the sea of gold.
I am traditional in the sense that I focus and pursue one woman. That's how I've always been, and that's how I will always be. I've been betrayed more than once, overlooked, and missed out on love because of cultural differences (none of which were issues for me). I know who I am, and I know I don't need the approval of the masses. The general public could kiss my ass if they don't like who I am. Despite this rant, which will no doubt find its way onto social media, I don't seek the approval from the masses so I could feel good about myself. It's always nice to be heard, but it would be nice to have the ear of that "one person" who could make the significance of the appealing masses vanish. That's the person I want to care about.