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  • Ages 26–45
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My details

Last online
Jul 9
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Post grad
Might want kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Me? In a nutshell: curious, analytical, low-drama, detailed, very low-drama, and a dry sense of humor. I'm the quintessential Devil's advocate and will generally defend the less popular opinion just to explore it. I have a good eye for vintage design, chairs, tables, lamps, guitars, cars, etc. & can spot a repro at 10 feet. I’ll wander through a thrift shop, used book store, or estate sale on a whim and see what (if anything) the cosmos offers up. I dress casually, but clean up nice & can hold my own on a wide variety of topics. I treat children as though they are just scaled down adults. I'm passionate about what I do.

I’ve been in Seattle a total of about 6 years, with a 2 year break in the middle while I lived overseas (Japan). Seattle is a great place to be, but the winters are pretty brutal . . . I try to take off for a few weeks in the winter and go spend time in Texas seeing friends and family. My accent is minimal most of the time, but I retained my cadence.

I'm pretty well traveled, but I've never been to South America, Africa, or Oceania. I prefer to stay in smaller (but still nice) hostels over an 'official' hotel and I can live out of a backpack for weeks. I think it would be a blast to renovate an old bus and take it cross country, or take a sailboat through the mediterranean or something similar. I love exploring a city on foot and getting just the right amount of lost.

It feels cliched to talk about sustainability, permaculture, and the like (it sounds so Seattle-hipster), but it is something I believe in and work towards. Minimizing waste is something I try to integrate into my daily life - besides growing a lot of my own vegetables, I also keep chickens (they help reduce food + make fresh eggs!). I’m a good cook, and have been getting more into cheese-making lately (I found a cheap source of raw goat milk!)

The ‘questions’ section has more stuff in it if you want to dig deeper . . . oh, and I overuse ellipses . . . apologies :)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Did you ever see Office Space? I'm in an creative profession, and turning out work that you don't actually like can be soul-sucking. Living and working in Cube Land was not a very happy or fulfilling life, so I left it about 10 years ago and haven’t missed it even a little bit. Since then, the new goal has been 'get paid to do the kind of work that I would do for free'. For the most part, that works out pretty good and now I actually like my clients. I like my career again, which isn't something that most people can say.

Besides finding ways to live that doesn’t involve me working in a cube, I spend time learning new skills, gardening, playing board/card games, making dinner for friends, screening a film (Dystopian Tuesdays!) , planning a trip, making something artistic, reading, taking photos & living mindfully. I'm not the type to waste time in front of a TV - I'd rather have music on.

One of the huge benefits to Seattle is just the proximity to some of the best natural settings the US has to offer. I enjoy going on hikes when there is some sort of goal/objective, like a hot spring or foraging for mushrooms. Getting out on the water from time to time, driving through the islands or out on the peninsula, going to the coast, going to the mountains . . . it's all so damn close that it makes me feel guilty that I'm not out there more!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Doing things right, once. Turning ideas into reality and helping people realize their vision. Designing/building/fixing/creating things. Experimenting in the kitchen, and almost anything with my hands except juggling, for some reason. Haggling/negotiating. Keeping calm and never losing my patience or temper. Also driving in heavy traffic & talking my way out of moving violations. REALLY good at that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Apparently, I look & sound like a more svelte, long-haired, non-jewish Seth Rogen.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Foods : I fall under the 'foodie' category. I’ll try anything - I once drank some sort of hornet booze that had 6 inches of wasps floating at the bottom of the giant glass decanter. According to the proprietor, it was supposed to make me virile . . .

TV: Venture Brothers, Archer, Arrested Development, South Park. I appreciate animation more than live-action, but Breaking Bad was pretty awesome. I actually watch very little TV. Some British stuff like Peep Show, the IT Crowd, or Flight of the Conchords (Kiwi's, but close enough).

Film: When SIFF comes to town I typically buy a dozen tickets and catch what I can. I like film a lot, but not so much the ‘blockbusters’ featuring aliens, robots & mutants beating the hell out of each other while flying around the giant gaping plot holes.

Books: Neal Stephenson, Chuck Klosterman, Hunter Thompson, Haruki Murakami, biographies, architecture, fiction, non-fiction, whatever . . . but I honestly don't really appreciate the classics. I've tried.

Music: Very eclectic - Boards of Canada, Bonobo, Fingathing, RJD2 are normal work music, but I could listen to anything from Tejano to Neal Young to hip hop (or better yet, Neal Young rapping over Tejano - that would be worth listening to at least once!) I listen to music incessantly while I work, so I listen to a lot of music.

Shows: I’m generally happy to see almost anything with friends - headed down to the bay area to see a show with a friend in a couple of weeks, but there is NO WAY that I am admitting in a semi-public forum who we are going to go see.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Water - not the drinking type (though that too), but just living near the water. I don’t go out in it as much as I used to, but I still like to be near it. There are very few inland places I could live.

Introvert time - gotta recharge the social batteries from time to time. I’m an INTP on the Myers/Briggs, if that means anything. A lot of times that just means working in the garden for an hour or so.

Books - real ones.

An Interwebs Device - if one isn't within arms reach, I feel kinda naked :)

Film - I watch a lot of independent or forgotten films, but probably 95% of them are from 1970 and up.

Mexican Food. And of COURSE I live in Seattle . . . I generally just wind up making it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I try to spend time focused on what I'm doing in the present and how that will affect the future (and help create a future that I want, as opposed to one that just 'happens'). I think about how it would be nice to find a long-term companion on a shared path - the sum of the parts should be greater than the whole.

How about I list some things I'm NOT thinking about? Here are a few:

'Celebrities' and their lives,
Reality TV,
Sports (*except college football, and even then not regularly),
Things out of my control,
the past . . .
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I like going out on 'off' nights when everyone else is recuperating. Sometimes friends will come over and we’ll make dinner and/or play a game, or something else low-key. I went out a few weeks ago in Ballard on a Saturday, and it reminded me why I like the lower key nights better - less noise, more tables, no waits, easier parking, and better service, for starters.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
2 hours before writing this, I vivisected a sea urchin and ate it’s gonads with some lemon.
You should message me if
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. . . You describe yourself as ‘quirky’, ‘geeky’, ‘nerdy’ or the like.

. . . you're happy to travel the world with a backpack and want no part of seeing any place with a tour group.

. . . you make cool stuff/art. If I love your art, I am putty in your hands . . . but don't abuse that!

. . . you are creative, inquisitive, smart, and a logical problem-solver who gets it done, whatever it is.

. . . You've got a good eye for cool shit. The West Seattle garage sale sounds like a fun treasure hunt :)

. . . You don't mind that I said 'shit' in the previous sentence. I will say worse things (trust me) but not in front of your parents, boss, the Queen, etc.

. . . hitting a happy hour and sharing a couple of plates sounds like a good interlude on a pretty day.

. . . checking out a used bookstore on a weekend after a leisurely breakfast sound like fun, as does being curled up on a cold night watching a film, or making dinner and playing an interesting board or card game with friends (more like Settlers of Cataan type games, less like Monopoly type games).

. . . working towards the completion of projects is satisfying - whether it’s planting a garden, building/rebuilding a house, making something, canning/jarring, crafting, etc.

. . . doing things outside, gardening, looking through tidal pools for misc. sea critters, go explore something/somewhere, hiking & looking for mushrooms, soaking in a hot spring, or going on a road trip.

If you write something that looks like you actually read this profile, I promise to respond. Write a one-liner at your own risk.