Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm currently not seeking any relationships. When that changes, I
will update my profile.
I'm a compassionate, friendly person who enjoys trying new things,
whether that be activities, food, or places. I do not drink though
a partner who drinks once in a while is fine. Recreational drug
users need not bother messaging me. I'm also not looking for one
night stands. There are other sites for that. I can laugh at myself
(and frequently do!) but I also take things seriously.
Speaking of deal-breakers... Here are mine (to avoid wasting
Smoking/drugs - Current users or Recovering users are not going to
be good matches. I respect and admire recovery but know myself well
enough to know that I personally do not do well with active or
recovering users. Occasionally drinking alcohol is fine.
Bad personal hygiene - coming home from work dirty is fine. Not
showering/bathing routinely as needed/daily is not fine.
Deodorant is necessary. I prefer not to use showering as foreplay
every single time out of necessity.
Pets - I'm allergic and will never own pets. If you must have them,
Children - I've raised mine and can not physically have more. If
you want more children than you already have, I'm not for you. If
you already have children, that's fine.
Sex - Yes. Frequently. Adventurous but not group sex or pain. I am
monogamous and have no interest in exploring polyamory.
Also, if you believe homosexuality is a sin, I'm not for you. This
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a writer. Some days I write more than other days. I'm
supportive of my friends and family members in whatever choices
they make even when those choices conflict with my own.
Having spent several months homeless a few years ago, my
perspective is vastly different now from when it was prior to that
experience. My life goal now is to make as minimal a physical
impact while contributing positively to others' experiences.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Helping others gain perspective about situations they are in. I'm
good at coming up with creative solutions to problems. My vacations
are planned in advance for the most part, though I am also okay
with throwing things in a bag and heading out for a quick weekend
jaunt. I'm flexible and deal with change well.
I also do very well in explaining things to people using
Kids ask me the hard questions (or their parents ask me) because
they know I will find a way to explain anything in a way they can
understand. I love kids and am looking forward to
I'm also extremely crafty. I like to repurpose things, garden, sew,
knit, crochet, and am going to start weaving soon. I can do some
woodworking but no longer have the tools. I was raised to do it
right rather than to just get it done.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I smile a lot. During conversations, I'm 'present' (as has been
described to me). I pay attention and answer thoughtfully rather
than rushing to say something or try to figure out what I'm going
to say halfway through my companion's sentence.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't deal with vampires/zombies/monsters in books or movies very
well. I don't understand slasher movies, either. I read a lot,
though recently I've turned to audio books.
Favorite books include: Pillars of the Earth, World Without End,
War and Peace, and then I also enjoy Carl Hiassen and Jennifer
Cruise for fluff. I read a wide variety of things!
As to favorite movies over the years? That's difficult to narrow
down. I liked Hunt For Red October, the John Hughes movies,
Shawshenk Redemption, Schindler's List, LOTR, and others. Sometimes
I want to be entertained and other times I want to be challenged to
I like live theater, stand up comedy, and orchestra performances.
My music tastes vary with my mood. I don't like techno or rap. I'd
rather attend a local high school band concert than go to the Erwin
Center to hear a popular artist.
Food preferences also vary. I don't do spicy hot, but I do like
tastily spiced. I like to cook and try to make new things often.
Sometimes they don't turn out so I usually have a back up plan for
those times. Italian, Mexican (true mexican, not tex-mex), and
German cuisines are my preferences. I like veggies though I eat
meat. Just don't ask me to grill a steak - I'm simply not good at
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Pen and Paper
internet access (I'd prefer to not go without it, but I suppose I
could if forced)
caffeine (working on this one!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about a lot of things. I've been told I "think too much"
which puzzles me... is that possible?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no "typical" Friday night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I like Lucky Charms. They're magically delicious.
You should message me if
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Please message me only if you are local. I'm not looking for a long
distance relationship at this time.
If you got through all of that and can deal with the fact that I
know what I do/don't want and am not ashamed to admit it, great!
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