I'm reasonably intelligent and averagely fit, tolerant and open-minded. I am utterly silly and hilariously cynical. I like to cook, I enjoy traveling and being outside, I love listening to and playing jazz (I play trumpet, sax, and bass), but I also enjoy blues, classic rock, Celtic, funk, Flamenco...the list (and the music) goes on. I have a lot of fun playing at being a photographer - even if I'm not a "pro", whatever that means, it has at least taught me to pay more attention to all the beauty in the world. I have a hard time avoiding too many parenthetical statements when I write. I prefer cats to dogs, though I don't hate dogs. I see no reason why one is required to believe in some sort of Supreme Being or Omnipotent Father-Figure in order to maintain a sense of honesty and integrity and be kind and considerate to everyone.
I've been single for longer than I care to admit, but with the help of my friends and an active social life I've learned to be reasonably comfortable with that circumstance. Even so I'd like to find a true partner, friend, and mate to share the small and large moments of my life with, to stay home with and travel with, someone to come home to and the one she looks forward to coming home to, someone to share silly jokes and good food with, someone to comfort and be comforted by as we cope with the inevitable "tough" parts of Life together. That hasn't happened yet, but I remain hopeful (otherwise I wouldn't be here, right?).
I think this sort of self-summarizing is practically impossible to do well, and if you haven't clicked the Back button yet I'd prefer to get to know each other over a beverage or snack.
Oh - and that "Personality" bar graph? It's talkin' some serious baloney.
What I’m doing with my life
Stripping away the BS, bit by bit, day by day, year by year...
I’m really good at
Playing Well With Others. Also biting sarcasm toward people and
situations that need it, "punching up" not down.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm bald, bearded, have permanent laugh lines, and I've got a good
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like books, movies, music, and food. There, I've admitted it! I know that's a controversial attitude, but I stand by my words.
I know that's pretty vague. But my tastes are so eclectic - i.e. "all over the map" - that it's tough to delineate them in a meaningful, nutshell way. I like fiction, non-fiction, and humor; foreign films and Hollywood movies and comedies; all sorts of music (though jazz remains my favorite); and Portland's many amazing restaurants offering just about every kind of cuisine ... does that help?
The six things I could never do without
Maslow's Hierarchy? No? OK then, how about: basic necessities,
humor, the never-ending quest for knowledge, music, and my camera.
I know that's less than six things, but screw you man, I'm a
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...keeping whimsy and silliness in my life. What is it about society - or Life in general - or something, that too often squeezes all the juice and verve out of so many of us in the over-40 crowd? Do we get caught up in the necessities of creating a career and raising kids, and in the process forget how to be goofy and enthusiastic and child-like? Do we get so disappointed about not keeping the bodies and energy of our youth that we just give up? Does the burden of the awareness of encroaching mortality suck out whatever liveliness is still left in us? Is it the death of childhood dreams? Can we not reassess, create new goals, and continue to reach beyond our grasp? Is there some reason that many of us stop learning and being surprised and constantly delighted by new knowledge? Is Social Convention really so inexorable an encumbrance? And...what about Naomi??
Also, y'know, World Hunger and Climate Change and War and Equality and stuff.
On a typical Friday night I am
"Living for the weekend"? Searching for a Life with Authenticity and Meaning? Managing my work/life balance? Re-watching Monty Python videos? Looking for the exact proper word in my beloved thesaurus? On a typical Friday night I am...being atypical. Moving on....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm definitely not a bright-eyed, bushy-tailed "morning person".
Spoiler alert: I have no creepy nor dashingly romantic secrets.
You should message me if
- you're smart and smart-assed, wise and goofy, and you know a thing or two about a thing or two; you're appropriately grown-up for your years yet you're still willing to let your inner child come out and play
- you're committed to honesty and communication
- you have a high tolerance for puns; also you don't have to love the Three Stooges but you're okay with the fact that they WILL make me giggle inanely sometimes.
- you live in the Portland area
- you enjoy being read to
- you like cold weather (or at least don't hate it too much)