Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm reasonably intelligent and averagely fit, tolerant and
open-minded. I am utterly silly and hilariously cynical. I like to
cook, I enjoy traveling and being outside, I love listening to and
playing jazz (I play trumpet, sax, and bass), but I also enjoy
blues, classic rock, Celtic, funk, Flamenco...the list (and the
music) goes on. I have a lot of fun playing at being a photographer
- even if I'm not a "pro", whatever that means, it has at least
taught me to pay more attention to all the beauty in the world. I
have a hard time avoiding too many parenthetical statements when I
write. I prefer cats to dogs, though dogs are cool too. I see no
reason why one is required to believe in some sort of Supreme Being
or Omnipotent Father-Figure in order to maintain a sense of honesty
and integrity and be kind and considerate to everyone.
I've been single for longer than I care to admit, but with the help
of my friends and an active social life I've learned to be
reasonably comfortable with that circumstance. Even so I'd like to
find a true partner, friend, and mate to share the small and large
moments of my life with, to stay home with and travel with, someone
to come home to (and I'd be who she looks forward to coming home
to), someone to share silly jokes and good food with, someone to
comfort and be comforted by as we cope with the inevitable "tough"
parts of Life together. That hasn't happened yet, but I remain
hopeful (otherwise I wouldn't be here, right?).
I think this sort of self-summarizing is practically impossible to
do well, and if you haven't clicked the Back button yet I'd prefer
to get to know each other over a beverage or snack.
Oh - and that "Personality" bar graph? It's talkin' some serious
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Stripping away the BS, bit by bit, day by day, year by year...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Playing Well With Others. Also biting sarcasm toward people and
situations that need it, "punching up" not down.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm bald, bearded, have permanent laugh lines, and I've got a good
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like books, movies, music, and food. There, I've admitted it! I
know that's a controversial attitude, but I stand by my
I know that's pretty vague. But my tastes are so eclectic - i.e.
"all over the map" - that it's tough to delineate them in a
meaningful, nutshell way. I like fiction, non-fiction, and humor,
foreign films and Hollywood movies and comedies, all sorts of music
(though jazz remains my favorite), and Portland's many amazing
restaurants offering just about every kind of cuisine ... does that
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Maslow's Hierarchy? No? OK then, how about: basic necessities,
humor, the never-ending quest for knowledge, music, and my camera.
I know that's less than six things, but screw you man, I'm a
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Keeping whimsy and silliness in my life. What is it about society -
or Life in general - or something, that too often squeezes all the
juice and verve out of so many of us in the over-40 crowd? Do we
get caught up in the necessities of creating a career and raising
kids, and in the process forget how to be goofy and enthusiastic
and child-like? Do we get so disappointed about not keeping the
bodies and energy of our youth that we just give up? Does the
burden of the awareness of encroaching mortality suck out whatever
liveliness is still left in us? Is it the death of childhood
dreams? Can we not reassess, create new goals, and continue to
reach beyond our grasp? Is there some reason that many of us stop
learning and being surprised and constantly delighted by new
knowledge? Is Social Convention really so inexorable an
encumbrance? And...what about Naomi??
Also, y'know, World Hunger and Climate Change and War and Equality
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
"Living for the weekend"? Searching for a Life with Authenticity
and Meaning? Re-watching Monty Python videos? Looking for the exact
proper word in my beloved thesaurus? On a typical Friday night I
am...being atypical. Moving on....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm definitely not a bright-eyed, bushy-tailed "morning
Spoiler alert: I have no creepy nor dashingly romantic secrets.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- you're smart and smart-assed, wise and goofy, and you know a
thing or two about a thing or two; you're appropriately grown-up
for your years yet you're still willing to let your inner child
come out and play
- you're committed to honesty and communication
- you have a high tolerance for puns; also you don't have to love
the Three Stooges but you're okay with the fact that they WILL make
me giggle inanely sometimes.
- you live in the Portland area
- you enjoy being read to
- you like cold weather (or at least don't hate it too much)
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