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30 Darien, CT Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–39
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:35pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, and very serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has cats

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My self-summary
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[Note as of March 2015] I'm currently seeing someone and just keeping this profile up to help my friend who's exploring the wonderful world of OkCupid. Happy dating, everyone!
What I’m doing with my life
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I sell my original oil paintings and offer custom commissions. I also teach art and writing to kids. I enjoy kids because they can be so weird. As a teacher I dance along a zig-zag line: earnest about teaching my subject, yet relating to students with compassion and a disarming goofiness. Come to think of it, that’s pretty much how I approach life.

I’m pretty close with my family—mom, dad, brother. My dearest friends live out of town (in other states, in fact) so I’m keeping those friendships strong with texting, marathon phone calls, Google+ Hangout, etc. We visit when we can.
I’m really good at
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Getting super excited about stuff, caring about others, empathy, staying up late, sleeping in late, telling stories, being silly, typing “like a machine gun” (quickly, not loudly), mishearing song lyrics, cultivating real connections with people.

I’m a firm believer in the Oxford comma. My favorite kind of punctuation is the semicolon. I adore playing Mad Libs. Reading between the lines (har har) you can conclude I love language.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Long, dark, wavy hair
My big smile

When I'm nervous, I tend to talk extra fast and tell pointless stories.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Lord of the Rings, The Hobbit, Sir Gawain and the Green Knight, Beowulf (Seamus Heaney translation), Gone with the Wind, Wizard’s First Rule, the Song of Ice and Fire series, the Harry Potter series, Ender’s Game, Outliers, psychology books

Movies: Gladiator, Super Troopers, Role Models, Clueless, Death to Smoochy, Shakespeare in Love, Little Women (Winona Ryder version), Ratatouille, Castle in the Sky

TV shows: Modern Family, Game of Thrones, Downton Abbey, Louie, Girls, Clone High, America’s Next Top Model, Forensic Files

Music: Queens of the Stone Age, Them Crooked Vultures, Stone Temple Pilots, Velvet Revolver, early-to-mid Radiohead, Alice in Chains, Guster, Goo Goo Dolls, Fleetwood Mac.... I tend to like the scores to movies, some opera and classical, and musicals (1776, Les Miserables, Wicked, Phantom of the Opera), and I enjoy Disney music (except Mary Poppins; I hate that shit)

Food: Since I love breakfast foods and sleeping in, brunch is pretty much my favorite meal ever. My favorite ethnic foods are Thai, Indian, Italian, French, Japanese, tapas, and dim sum.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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It seems that I interpret this question differently than many people on this site. I take it to mean, "Tell us something here that's as private as you are willing to share"—which could mean you could share something not very private at all! Like "I'm tall" (not private in the least) or "I sometimes sing along to the radio in the car" (semi-private). In my opinion, if you answer this with "You'll just have to ask me," you might as well leave it blank. It tells us nothing about you.

I keep it pretty private at first, but eventually you’ll find out I curse like a sailor and have a dark sense of humor.

Speaking of humor, I'm a big fan of the stand-up comedy of Louis CK, Mitch Hedberg, and Jim Gaffigan.

Update 10-3-2014: I have a new favorite comedian to add to the bunch! John Mulaney, whom you can listen to here:

These videos also represent the kind of humor I love:

Wizard People, Dear Reader

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You should message me if
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You’re interested in having a serious relationship if you meet the right person.

You enjoy learning, growing, and trying new things.

You're looking for someone to build a life and a family with someday.

My ideal match is someone who is introspective, kind and understanding, enjoys being active and takes care of his health, is goal oriented, cares about family, is curious about the world, and is interested in connecting in a deeper way.

Bonus: You have dark hair, dark eyelashes, and strong eyebrows.