Before we go any further, let's address that one nagging question: If all these guys you're checking out are really so cute and smart and funny and sexy, so caring and self-aware, then WHY ON EARTH ARE THEY STILL AVAILABLE? Shouldn't they all have been snatched up by deserving women long ago? As you stare into the dreamy eyes of each photo, you start to wonder: Does he live with his mother? Is he pathologically cheap? A terminal Peter Pan? Halitosis? Scabies? Hung like an elf?
Sadly, these issues plague almost all the other men on OKCupid.
And as for me? The short version: I was married for four years to a delightful woman. We were too different. We're still on good terms. I'm over it.
And who are you, my new love?
You've chosen your own unconventional path. You spend most of your time doing things you're genuinely excited about, and you're happy with most of the choices you've made.
You have a playful mind. You can't resist taking whatever you find and toying with it, exploring possibilities. People who see the world exactly as it is, regardless of how bright or capable they may be, tend to bore you.
You're a little kooky.
You're sensual and affectionate.
You love language. You're articulate and communicative and you need your partner to be.
Despite your kookiness, you're (largely) sane and balanced, even if it took you a little while to get there. Maybe you didn't have the greatest childhood. And maybe your imagination has saved your life, both then and now. You're looking for support from your partner and you're strong enough to offer it in return. Creative people have a reputation for being self-involved, but you know how much more fulfilling it is to be a part of something bigger.
There are cracks in your armor. As Leonard Cohen said, "That's how the light gets in."
You may be from California, but just as likely from the Midwest, or back East, or Europe, or....?
You love animals. And kids. You may want a life with both.
You laugh easily and find joy in tiny things, every day.