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CalibanSong

50 M Berkeley, CA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Cancer
Education
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$60,000–$70,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
***UPDATE! If you live in SF you should come out and see The San Francisco Mime Troupe's new show "Ripple Effect", opening in Dolores Park July 4. The Tony-award winning SFMT is NOT silent pantomime but rather outspoken political theater -- and for this year's show I've been commissioned to write the songs. This will be a rousing good time! I'm including our schedule as one of my pics (until some anal nimrod flags and removes it…) ***

All photos are within the last year of so.

OK. Try this. Next time you're in a crowded room, or riding on BART, take a look at all the people surrounding you and pretend they're dogs. Concentrate as their faces transform into assorted Pugs and Afghans, Labs and Chihuahuas. You'll be amazed at how adorable everyone suddenly becomes. Not to get too New Agey, but I'd like to think that's how we all appear to whatever higher power(s) there may be.

Before we go any further, we have to address that one nagging question: If all these guys you're checking out are really so cute and smart and funny and sexy, so caring and self-aware, then WHY ON EARTH ARE THEY STILL AVAILABLE? Shouldn't they all have been claimed by deserving women years ago? As you stare into the dreamy eyes of each photo, you start to wonder: Does he live with his mother? Is he pathologically cheap? A terminal Peter Pan? Halitosis? Scabies? Hung like an elf?

Sadly, these issues plague almost all the other men on OKCupid.

And as for me? The short version: I was married for four years to a delightful woman. We were too different. We're still on good terms. I'm over it.

And who are you, my new love? While I'm trying not to be too attached to any one vision, this is how I seem to picture it:

You've chosen your own unconventional path. You spend most of your time doing things you're genuinely excited about.

You have a playful mind. You're a little kooky. People who see the world exactly as it is, regardless of how bright or capable they may be, tend to bore you.

You're sensual and affectionate.

You love language. You're articulate and communicative and you need your partner to be.

Despite your moderate kookiness, you're reasonably sane and balanced, though it may have taken some time to get there. Maybe you didn't have the greatest childhood. And maybe your imagination has saved your life, both then and now. You're looking for support from your partner and you're strong enough to offer it in return. Creative people have a reputation for being self-involved, but you know how much more fulfilling it is to share in something bigger.

There are cracks in your armor. As Leonard Cohen said, "That's how the light gets in."

You love animals. And kids. You may want a life with both.

You laugh easily and find joy in tiny things, every day.

You're cute.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After my marriage ended, I converted a University Ave. storefront into a performance space and recording studio--with the mission of supporting new musical and theatrical work. We serve as a welcoming nest for a community of talented musicians, actors, magicians, comedians, storytellers and more. A few weeks ago we were featured in the cover story in the East Bay Express.
Check it out: www.themonkeyhouse.org

I'm a professional musician and writer. I teach a fun drop-in writing class, work as a song doctor, and also teach songwriting for Bluebear is SF. I have a little company producing award-winning music for kids, and this past October I a successful run of my spooky musical "Mortimus Greely's Haunting School". These days I'm performing mostly for adults and have had several nice write-ups in the Chronicle.

I'm not broke! I'm good with money. I do pretty well, and each year do better and better.

I've gone beefcake. Yep, joined 24-Hr. fitness last October and I'm actually enjoying it. Gyms aren't my favorite places--kind of like porn movies without the sex, what with all the blank expressions and mechanical pumping going on. And I still don't understand why someone would rather walk in place in front of a TV than just... walk.

Anyway, I'm also passionate about politics and social justice, which is part of why I'm glad to be writing for the Mime Troupe this year--it gives me the chance to do more than just blather on Facebook. I'm left-leaning but also pragmatic. I like to have respectful and interesting conversations with the conservatives I know. We all need to listen a lot more, no?

Love animals and nature and am determined to do a lot more outdoors this year. Can't wait to take you camping in my badass tent. Love sex and affectionate sensuality but will not be sending you bodypart pics at this stage of our relationship.

And I'm dying to start traveling again. How fast can you pack?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...knowing when to save things for a later conversation.

But if you're a writer, I will give you some of the best notes you'll ever get from anyone.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
(Why is this dumbass question still here????)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Much more fun to discuss over coffee or a drink.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
All deadly sins except Sloth.
All dwarves except Doc.

Oops, that's twelve.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ways not to think. A couple months ago I started meditating two or three times a day and it's made a real difference.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hosting or performing at The Monkey House. Usually both.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My ______ is _______.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you have a good feeling after reading this. But needless to say, there's only so much you can tell. Pixels are not people, note are essays. I once saw a woman in a cafe whose witty profile I'd saved on OKC. She was every bit as attractive in person and yet I sensed almost instantly we'd never be a match. Meanwhile, I see women all the time who have something very appealing about them, an energy or charisma that a snapshot won't always capture.

So be bold and write back, okay? Or be even more bold and write first. Otherwise, this is all just some sad peep-show.

Best of luck to you!