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56 M Plant City, FL

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Last Online
Apr 3, 2011
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
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A little extra
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from high school
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Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Updated Saturday, October 23, 2010.

10/3/07 fortune cookie, that I STILL have with me to this very day ( the ''fortune''.. NOT the cookie - I ate it! : ) said it all . . . "You need to live authentically, & you can't ignore that!".

Am the MOST PASSIONATE about... with much being "influenced" by.. the CREATIVE ARTIST in me: Songwriting (SINGER / SONGWRITER / melodist-composer / arranger); POET; professionally trained MASSAGE THERAPIST); CHEF in the kitchen, incl CANNING - love giving] little gifts - example: Collected-in-the-wild fruit jams (I pick wild guavas & wild elderberries + other); EXERCISE daily; I absolutely LOVE GARDENING.... have a VERY "GREEN THUMB" : ) .... even occasionally "rescuing" someone else's plant(s) and "advising" and/or "nursing" it myself to make it healthy again!; READING BOOKS and articles of interest; BEING "HEALTHY" in ALL manners of the word - NATURAL HEALTHY LIFESTYLE - including natural medicine; I AM ALLERGIC TO CIGARETTE SMOKE!!!; HELPING OTHERS by VOLUNTEERING, with the most recent "officially" being on a American Cancer Society Relay For Life Committee; WORKING WITH YOUNG CHILDREN as a teacher / facilitator / camp counselor; NATURE (LOTS of stories there.. FL-bobcat/otters/fox; deer; etc. / AL-beaver); HORSES and HORSEBACK RIDING (had and took care of horses growing up); CAMPING; HISTORY buff; BICYCLING. Have ''SOUTHERN INSTILLED'' VALUES; In NOT only loving to communicate verbally, I easily am able to espress WHAT it is I am feeling . . AND . . in complete sentences!!! : ) . . I am a GREAT LISTENER; Love going to CLASSIC & ANTIQUE CAR SHOWS . . . FLEA MARKETS . . . and "doing" YARD SALES occasionally to find "hidden treasure''. TRAVEL (LOVE the SMOKY MOUNTAINS . . . Have been to Europe twice, Canada, South America, Mexico, Caribbean, and many-many places throughout America!).

I am a Florida native... born in Tampa... grew up in Brandon and Valrico, in what now seems "another time". It's all like a city now. The place I lived in my teen years (small farm) has been a subdivision since the early 90's.

I have two sons, both married & on their own... living in the surrounding area.

VERY HONEST and STRAIGHTFORWARD, I have a VERBALIZED EXPECTATION of MUTUAL RESPECT in ALL MY RELATIONSHIPS; I am VERY MUCH a GIVER... from "THE HEART"... sincerely, with NO STRINGS ATTACHED. I am NON-JUDGMENTAL . . and I LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY. I have NO "ISSUES" in the giving AND receiving of love. TOUCH is MY HIGHEST (#1) of the 5 LOVE LANGUAGES! (I am VERY AFFECTIONATE) . . . and QUALITY TIME is MY 2nd HIGHEST (#2) LOVE LANGUAGE! I am NOT afraid of COMMITMENT. CREATING TRUST, LOVING PASSION, and ROMANCE continuously within a love relationship is VERY important to me - I work to keep a relationship fresh and alive; I am OPEN-MINDED to new and different ways to do things; Enjoy constant learning to expand my knowledge and awareness to better myself and grow; VERY easily able to communicate (and KINDLY so!) my innermost thoughts, feelings, and needs; Prefer that "EXPECTATIONS" be "VERBALIZED"; Appreciate . . AND "practice" . . PEACEFUL CONFLICT RESOLUTION SKILLS, and I am NOT.. INTO DRAMA . . unless it's a great movie!!!; Very ENERGETIC and YOUNG-AT-HEART; LOVE TO LAUGH and feel I have a good SENSE OF HUMOR. Very OUTGOING; *** I A-L-W-A-Y-S put the toilet seat lid back down : ) !!! *** There is MUCH MORE "about me" as to *H*O*W* I am in a love relationship -- go down in this profile (further below) to my "I AM this guy..." (in the 2nd section to follow this one).

I have a gentle, caring, and nurturing spirit; "Thoughtful" intentions are "my guide" in ALL my relationships in life.... both in WHAT I DO... and in WHAT I SAY... perceived that way or not. I have a witty, fun-loving sense of humor; VERY "DOMESTICATED".. but still.. very much(!)... a "man's-man"; Very much a "romantic at heart" (hopeless...) and "reflected" GREATLY in my songwriting and occasional poem; - - - - - - - > > > > > > > MOST MEN in the United States (84%!!!) are romantic in JUST "THE THRILL OF THE CHASE"... I am VERY DIFFERENT than that... ALWAYS feeling a "sense of romance" in my heart from day to day (watching a sunrise or sunset.. gazing at the night sky and the position of the planets and our moon, etc., etc... & wanting to SHARE that "sense of romance" with someone for the rest of my life). Even so, being "A TRUE ROMANTIC" and a SENSITIVE MAN... IN TOUCH WITH and FULLY ABLE to (including.. doing so in a "KINDLY" manner!!!) EXPRESS ANYTHING I am feeling... I am still VERY MUCH "a man".. being "self-confident" (NOT haughty) and NOT afraid to REVEAL MY "SOFT SIDE" to those I trust... ESPECIALLY someone MOST special in my life. I said "kindly" just above because I personally feel that loving someone doesn't give one the right to "verbally slice" that loved one . . . when disappointed.. upset.. or angry.. over something . . . . KINDNESS, LIKE LOVE... IS A CHOICE!!! - - - - - - - > > > > > > > I am also VERY DIFFERENT THAN MOST OTHER GUYS in that [ "intentional" ] "distancing" (a game.. yuck!) does NOT make my heart grow fonder.. but loving closeness & expression (in words AND deeds) does!!!

I am steadily cheerful, sincere, and a true romantic.
What I’m doing with my life
Much like I ALWAYS have done (but NOT in a "stuck-in-a-rut" sort of way):

Being adventurous. Out in the world . . and in ever-searching (and continuously learning!) for ways to grow and improve from within (from reading.. once-in-a-while seminars ... and then putting those things into ''practice'' : )

BEING a friend, helping/assisting others in need.

Smiling from my heart.. with a smile on my face, down the path through this life... still holding onto my dreams.

Work out daily, keeping those stress hormones "at bay"... releasing all those "feel good" ones (endorphins, etc.), & helping me to get a wonderfully-restful sleep each night.

Staying in touch AND doing things with friends.
I’m really good at
In everything I do, I strive for excellence. I know that perfection is NOT possibe (I don't expect it... and wish NOT to be "held" to it...), but I really do give anything I do my best... especially a love relationship.

I am told by many around me that I am a "writer".. which (obviously?) seems to reflect in my songwriting & occasional poems. Creating in the kitchen is something I absolutely love... it's a wonderful distraction, & I thank God he has given me the culinary intuititivity I possess. I was told I was very good at massage BEFORE I went to school, becoming professionally trained in 1996.

Creativity as an artist-at-heart is something that I bring to everything . . . EVERYTHING... I do . . . & you can let your imagination run wild with that one (wink-wink!!!) if you so choose...

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A "little something" I've written . . . last revision on Saturday, October 23, 2010:


I'M THE GUY who loves to listen when you talk, sharing about your day, your hopes and dreams - and also loves to share in the conversation; I'M THE GUY who, when I'm out & about & sees a-little-something that reminds me of you (especially something that you collect), without hesitation will get it & surprise you in some way with it; I'M THE GUY who truly does NOT mind helping with the housework, & does not think in the traditional-roles-way of who does what... preferring to trade-out with one another for the things we each individually would rather not do : ); I'M THE GUY who likes to have and use endearing names for one another; I'M THE GUY who rarely fails (I'm NOT perfect...) to notice something you have done for me, who sincerely & appreciatively thanks you - no matter how long we have been together; I'M THE GUY who will call or text you in the morning (prior to marriage) to tell you Good morning, Sweetheart!... and at night to tell you, Sweet dreams, Darling!... and often will surprise you with same during the day (before, and after we are married) to tell you, I love you!... and that I was thinking of you (PREFER calls over texts -- but prefer BEING with you -- than texting OR calling you). I'M THE GUY who will hold you as long as you want.. if & when you cry.. gently & lovingly kissing & wiping away your tears, taking your yucky tissues & giving you fresh ones. I'M THE GUY who STILL thinks you are gorgeous with no makeup on, wearing sweats & a big t-shirt (hubba, hubba.. : ). I'M THE GUY who LOVES to open doors for you, not because I do not think you can... but because it is just another way of showing that I love and care about you. I'M THE GUY who will give you a massage, not only when you ask, but also anytime I notice that you need it. I'M THE GUY who will not pressure you to do things you do not want to do. I'M THE GUY who will show up at your place (before marriage) with a batch of my fresh-made-homemade chicken soup & a movie when you are not feeling well - and will still do the same for you after we are married. I'M THE GUY who is not afraid to kiss you, or say I love you(!) in front of my friends; IM THE GUY who occasionally hides little love notes here and there for you to discover later (and loves(!!!) when YOU do the same). I'M THE GUY who comes rushing to your side when your motor vehicle breaks down, or if you have had an accident. I'M THE GUY who is excited all day because I am looking forward to our date that night (..before.. and after marriage, too!); I'M THE GUY who will NEVER push you away when you want or need a hug, to be held or snuggle-cuddled --- or when you want to make love. I'M THE GUY, who, when I know you have had an especially stressful day (and sometimes, when not :), will (unsolicited) run you a hot bath.. with a glass of cold water AND a glass of wine waiting alongside... informing you, No need to be in a hurry! ( get out... because dinner is already prepared and being kept warm) - & attend (wink-wink) to you, if you would like. I'M THE GUY who loves you with ALL his heart & soul completely.. giveing OUR relationship every bit --- of 100%. I'M THE GUY guy who will randomly tickle you, just because I love to hear your laugh.. or giggle. I'M THE GUY who is content in just holding you.. and not having to have anything more at that time.; I'M THE GUY who CANNOT HELP but smile.. caused by YOU.. when you walk into the room; I'M THE GUY who does not mind saying I love you(!) often, or even first, because I am absolutely NOT afraid to say it; I'M THE GUY who is perfectly content with staying in, making homemade popcorn, and watching movies (maybe a good romantic-comedy - my favorite kind . . like The Princess Bride . . or Jerry Maguire!) and cuddling (I do enjoy other types, too); I'M THE GUY who does NOT like to fight . . who does NOT call you names in the heat of the battle . . . and would much rather calmly talk things out - EQUALLY listening to your side.. because I KNOW that ultimately, we are both on the same side; I'M THE GUY who will NOT lie to you about where I am going, where I have been, or who I have been with (unless I HAVE to . . in preparation of a nice surprise for you : ); I'M THE GUY who gets the warm fuzzies EVERY TIME I think of you . . hear your voice or name . . or see you; I'M THE GUY who LOVES to hold your hand, anywhere - & especially LOVES IT when you take mine first; I'M THE GUY who [sometimes spontaneous . . sometimes planned . .] will put on & play one of OUR favorite romantic love songs, hold you tenderly-close to me, in my arms . . & slow dance with you; I'M THE GUY who will walk beside you - & only in front of you when need be, to protect you. I'M THE GUY who does not mess with other women BECAUSE I have you; I'M THE GUY who does not secretly (or non-secretly) carry on emotional affairs on the internet, including those live-cam deals -- never have -- never will -- no interest. I'M THE GUY who does NOT drag in attachments to other women with me (unspoken or not) into my relationship with you.. to hurt you emotionally &/or sabotage what we have between us. I'M THE GUY who is YOUR one-woman man. I'M THE GUY who does not mind that you have nor judge you for your IMperfections, and caringly smiles - loving you even more for them; I'M THE GUY who JUST LOVES to hold you while we watch sunrises AND sunsets; I'M THE GUY . . . WHO REALLY WANTS TO HELP YOU BE . . THE - HAPPIEST - GIRL... IN THE WORLD. I AM THIS GUY.


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The first things people usually notice about me
Very often I am complimented on, especially by (but NOT only.. always by...) "little old ladies", that I have a nice smile.

Sometimes it's my (natural) very curly-wavy hair . . .

In all honesty, ladies closer to my age tell me I have a cute butt... :)... (probably.. because of being a CONTINUAL "runner" since age 20)! I have COMPLETED THREE GASPARILLA LONG DISTANCE CLASSIC - 5K's... and STILL work out DAILY! .
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

MAGNIFICIENT MIND AT ANY AGE - Dr. Daniel G. Amen, M.D.; THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES - Dr. Gary Chapman (heard him speak Jan. 2009.. read the book 1st time in 1998 (((DO YOU KNOW WHAT *YOUR* LOVE LANGUAGE(S) ARE???... HMMMM???))); FINDING THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE - Dr. Neil Clark Warren; THE PROPER CARE AND FEEDING OF HUSBANDS - Dr. Laura Schlessinger; HEALTHY, WEALTHY AND WISE (Inspired by Ben Franklin) - Andrea Rains Waggener; A great relationship "brush-up" book: THE COMPLETE IDIOT'S GUIDE TO A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP / Digest Version; THE WIT AND WISDOM OF ABRAHAM LINCOLN - Edited by: Anthony Gross ("Abe" himself... WAS The Author!!!); I don't have a problem with, & actually enjoy, reading "self-help" books whatever "area" it pertains to. Continual growth is something I am NOT afraid of!!!

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Romantic OR Romantic/Comedies are usually my most favorite. GHOST ("tissue-time"); PRINCESS BRIDE (sigh!); I'LL DO ANYTHING; PARENTHOOD; GONE WITH THE WIND; HERO (with Dustin Hoffman); THE GREEN MILE (box of tissues at the end, please!); EVER AFTER (awww..); YOUNG FRANKENSTEIN (he-he!); SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE; WHEN HARRY MET SALLY; MAXIE; . . . More To Be Shown!!!

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As a SINGER/SONGWRITER, I L-O-V-E- MANY genres.. it's THE ARTIST, GROUP, and/or LYRICS I am "called" to the attention of. Very influenced in my songwriting by Conway Twitty, Travis Tritt, others . . in WHAT I write about (usually - "matters of the heart" :); Met YANNI (and Linda Evans) when he first came on the scene (have THEIR autographs that "say", "LINDA EVANS LOVES YANNI". Saw BOB MARLEY ("Yo, mon.. reggae!" : ) in Tampa two years before he died - the two "saved" tickets(!) I have in my hand show "DEC 13 1979" (..also have two reels of movie film I took that evening!!!). My most-beloved jazz AND "romantic-instrumental" song: GATO BARBIERI's (met him, too) "EUROPA" ; THE BOOTH BROTHERS (Friends/Tampa Natives.. now in "The Big Time" in Southern Gospel as they "broke away" from the Gaithers a while back.); PINK FLOYD; COLLIN RAYE - "In This Life", "Love Remains", "Love, Me"; THREE DOG NIGHT; MICHAEL W. SMITH; JIMMY BUFFET (have written a Jimmy Buffet "styled" song :); TOM T. HALL ("The Storyteller"); THE BELLAMY BROTHERS; HEART; THE STEVE MILLER BAND (Abracadabra!!!); THE ROLLING STONES; GEORGE JONES; BO BICE; TRAVIS TRITT; ALAN JACKSON; Anything Southern Rock - LYNYRD SKYNYRD; MARSHALL TUCKER BAND; ALLMAN BROTHERS BAND; ATLANTA RHYTHM SECTION; PURE PRAIRIE LEAGUE; CHARLIE DANIELS BAND; CONFEDERATE RAILROAD(!?); Love Classic Rock n Roll; especially 50's; 60's; 70's; Do-Wop; Let's See - What Else Is There : ) . . . More To Be Shown!!!

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As mentioned previously, I LOVE to COOK and CREATE in the kitchen.. or anywhere else for that matter (i.e. over a camp stove OR camp fire while camping in the woods or at the beach).

Cook many different "cultural" foods, and will go in any "direction" there. Southern; Italian; Cajun; Midwestern; Jamaican; Mexican; Chinese; Spanish; Cuban; Middleastern are just some examples . . .

Some I just create without any "ties" specifically to any specific "culture".

I do occasionally enjoy cooking with and eating spicy or somewhat spicy food. Don't partake regularly . . but I can eat the hottest of peppers with "the best of them". "Scotch Bonnet, anyone?!?" (one of the top three hottest peppers in the world!!! :).
The six things I could never do without




Chocolate ( "Substitute" for sex? . . ONLY to a "small degree" ! :)

My Two Grown Sons

( What . . NO food or water?!?!?!? :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about

#1-SHE MUST BE A NON-SMOKER - I'M ALLERGIC TO CIGARETTE SMOKE; Important qualities to me, that I am WAITING for: She is a born-again Christian. She is INTERdependent, able to "lean toward me" and still be her unique self with her own thoughts and feelings. She has the desire, ability/skill, and practices THE CHOICE to EXPRESS HERSELF WELL in a KIND and RESPECTFUL way in ALL SITUATIONS, HER HONEST-DEEPEST THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS. She will give me reasonable listening time, in knowing that I have the NEED to SHARE / INTERACT.. to convey MY THOUGHTS and FEELINGS with her. FEAR OF INTIMACY, COMMUNICATION, CLOSENESS, AFFECTION and ROMANCE are NOT "issues". SHE LOVES TO KISS!!! PHYSICAL TOUCH - QUALITY TIME, and a DEEPLY INTIMATE - EMOTIONAL/SPIRITUAL CONNECTION are VERY IMPORTANT to her. She is HIGHLY COMPASSIONATE, and has the ability and desire to reasonably often - CREATIVELY - bring new ideas into the relationship to do her part in helping to keep it FRESH and PASSIONATE! She is OPEN-MINDED/ easily able to look at herself to see where SHE NEEDS to GROW and IMPROVE. FITNESS is IMPORTANT to her! She is NOT always serious - LOVES TO BE PLAYFUL and is sometimes silly, too. She absolutely LOVES to "SPOIL".. and BE "SPOILED", too. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Dinner and/or a movie with a friend;

Chilling . . preparing for a "big" weekend (maybe an all-day outdoor concert; a long bicycle ride on one of many state bicycle trails or "out-of-the-way" little-known places; etc.).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Gee . . I feel I have already told SO much, that some things (there is MORE!) you will just have to find out by getting to know me.

For instance . . .

What ESPECIALLY touches my heart (NOT limited to just one thing..); and,

What brings a tear to my eyes (and there are several!) . . . .
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
I checked "Long Term Dating".. with the initial desire of eventually wanting "more" than that . . to settle down AGAIN . . monogamously . . . as I WAS married for 17 years. No fear.. of commitment here. I am wanting to find that one special lady to spend the rest of OUR LIVES with... together.

Please understand ladies, I have NO ego hang-ups or whatever regarding BEING contacted by you. I am aware that a lot of men have a problem with this. If anything, your being assertive and/or NOT so shy.. by going ahead & contacting me & expressing interest, gives you "additional points".. if you will.

Before even meeting, there are many things I like to communicate, share & discuss, to put both of us at ease . . & at a "deeply as possible" level of comfortableness . . including the subject of sex. I desire the same from the lady I am communicating with . . in that she be able & open in expressing ANY subject matter. That is VERY important to me, & I feel . . the start of a strong foundation on which to build.

I am NOT here to find sexual encounters. I am here to discover (or be discovered by!) someone as described herein, with yes, an expectation of SOME DAY having sexual intimacy between us (definitely!:) . . but ONLY AFTER we have grown INTIMATELY CLOSE in ALL other important ways first . . including emotionally & spiritually. If you LOVE having sex.. I assure you... you will be smiling quite contently, if I am your man. If you don't LOVE sex.. please quietly pass on by, as we would be VERY MISmatched . . .