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Cantab80

51 M Long Beach, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:20pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Law
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
I'm an educated man with a good job, a car, a sometimes inappropriate sense of humor, a thirst to learn and try new things, an eclectic style, a full head of thick hair, all my teeth, and most of my marbles, although the longer I'm on this site the sooner they'll be gone. I say what I mean and mean what I say, and I expect the same from a partner. I generally treat people how I want to be treated ... unless they start something with me first, in which case I am more than willing and able to respond in kind. I'm a positive person and believe the best is yet to come. I'm relatively handy with tools, can cook and bake, and used to know how to knit. I can still sew a button when necessary. I have two kids I love more than anything and have custody of them every other week. I was born in the Bay Area, but grew up in the Boston area, with a few stops in between. My life is great, but I want someone (a woman) to share it with. Ideally, I would meet an amazing woman in the real (I.e. offline) world, but with work, kids, and other commitments, that's not so easy, which explains why I'm here -- on this ridiculous site.

So, what am I looking for in a woman? She should be attractive, in reasonably good shape, educated, employed, with a gorgeous smile and a well-developed, sometimes naughty sense of humor. She should be positive, be open to new experiences, be kind, fun, and funny. She should agree with and live by the maxim that actions are so much more meaningful than words -- not that words aren't important, too. A love of classic movies, jazz, rock and alternative music wouldn't hurt. I'm not religious, but it's okay if she is, so long as she isn't a fanatic about it. Prudes, flakes, right wing conservatives, and fans of Fox News, Ann Coulter, etc. need not apply. Then again, Mary Matalin and James Carville appear to be happily married, so I guess anything is possible. She should also be serious about finding a partner. There are too many women on here who seem to be looking for an ego stroke or just want to play games. (I'm sure this applies to many of the men on here as well.) I don't have time for such foolishness.

Oh, and I'm a big believer in the importance of actions over words. Just sayin'.

If you see anything you like, I hope to meet you!
What I’m doing with my life
I work to live and look to fill my free time with as much fun as possible. Fun, for me, includes going out and staying in, depending on my mood. I'm always looking for ways to improve myself and that includes exercise, yoga, learning to play guitar, reading, writing and anything else that might interest me.
I’m really good at
Listening and making people laugh. I do have a dry, sarcastic sense of humor and can be a bit raunchy at times. I have a filter, though, and don't usually embarrass myself or people I'm with.

What I'm not good at is figuring out who you are from a picture of two or more women. A clue would be nice! :)
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not entirely sure. My blue eyes? I do get a lot of people telling me I look like various celebrities. I've been told I look like Dan Aykroyd, Tim Robbins, and Philip Seymour Hoffman (RIP). When I was a pre-teen, someone told me I looked like Glen Campbell! Go figure.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
So many -- for movies, I love the classics, such as "Casablanca," "The Maltese Falcon," "Sunset Boulevard," "Lawrence of Arabia," "North by Northwest," and many more. More recently, I love "The Shawshank Redemption," "Sideways," "Breaking Away," "Swingers" anything by the Coen brothers, and "Sneakers." (That's a lot of "S" movies, I just noticed.) The "Before Sunrise" and "Before Sunset" movies are the most romantic movies I've ever seen. Loved them, but haven't seen the last yet. There are so many more, but I can't think of them now. I love all the books written by Richard Ford, "For Whom the Bell Tolls," "A Prayer for Owen Meany," "The Count of Monte Cristo" and countless others. My favorite food is probably Mexican, but I love all kinds, except for seafood. I'll eat some fish, but it's not my favorite.

For TV, I'm obsessed with Breaking Bad right now (watched it on Netflix -- wish they'd hurry up and get the last season!). I love Ricky Gervais' "Derek," on Netflix. Hysterically funny and touching at the same time. I also love sports, especially college football.

Music is huge to me. It touches my soul like nothing else. I'm not religious, but if there's a God, I think I've heard Him in certain music. I love the guitar -- acoustic and electric -- and tend to love music that features amazing guitar playing. Current favorites include The Avett Brothers, Joe Bonamassa, Eric Clapton, Dire Straits, Allen Stone, Joe Walsh, Pink Floyd, Led Zeppelin, Pat Metheny, Tom Petty, Nils Lofgren (Black Boots is hauntingly beautiful) ... I could go on for days. I like all kinds of music, even some bluegrass and country.
The six things I could never do without
My cell phone; a guitar; pen/paper; Turner Classic Movies; my radio; and a nice sidecar (cocktail, not the motorcycle attachment).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
If the universe is expanding, as the scientists say it is, then what the hell is it expanding into? Sometimes I think about the fact that we're all on this giant ball, spinning in space. That's a little freaky, though, so best not to dwell on such things.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no such thing as "typical" for me.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 40–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You like or are intrigued by anything you read or see in my profile and honestly think you might be what I'm looking for. As much as I like texts and emails, I would like to chat and maybe meet to see if we might be a match. After all, isn't that the point of this site -- to get offline and actually meet someone?