I'm a balance of physical, intellectual, artist and sensualist. I am pagnostic with taoist leanings, and more philosophical than religious. I'm proud of my hippy upbringing and my values reflect that but my personal style does not. I believe kindness is the basis of all valid ethical behavior -- other positive traits, such as honesty and integrity, are just a good idea.
I have good social chops for someone who falls a little bit on the introvert side of the scale. I'm pretty confident most of the time, and love to perform. I just have limited endurance for these things.
Labels are sometimes useful
Poly: I've been in a committed open marriage since 1995. My wife and I both date other people individually, but not as a couple.
This blog post explains my feelings about love, sex, and dating better than I ever have. http://brighterthanabuoy.blogspot.com/2014/01/casual-love.html
Sex positive: As far as I'm concerned, sexual expression is as natural and appropriate as any other kind. I've had a lot of partners and always been open about my intentions.
Kink: I sometimes go dom for the right person. Otherwise meh.
These days I've come to really appreciate a quiet night in as often as not. But for a more active date, blues dancing or salsa, or doing something else with an athletic component tends to work well.
Meeting for tea or cocktails is fine for starting out.
Availability: I work and have a full family life, but I'm open to anything from a one-time hook-up to an every other week relationship. I'm not much of a night owl these days unless I have a really good reason.
Space: My house in Renton is too full to bring dates home, but I'll have an apartment in Bellevue available starting October 2014.
Kids: I have twin girls going into high school. Not making any more.
I communicate best in person or by e-mail. Phone and text is for "Where are you? Okay. See you in 10".
I'm better one on one than in groups unless I'm performing/teaching/presenting.
I'm a physical guy regardless of my intentions, and I have a highly developed sense of touch. (Musician hands.)
I'm not a fan of cigarette smoke, so drink something before you kiss me. If you're drunk, give me a chance to catch up. And I have little patience for loud parties unless I'm performing or putting moves on someone.
Here's a compatibility test I wrote a long time ago. Includes some sexy stuff. It's about 90% accurate to what my tastes were in 2005.
You can hear samples of my music on http://www.wandering-hands.com (or you will be able to again once I renew the domain. In the meantime, you can search for wandering hands on CDBaby.)