I'm a balance of physical, intellectual, artist and sensualist. I am pagnostic with taoist leanings, and more philosophical than religious. I'm proud of my hippy upbringing and my values reflect that but my personal style does not. I believe kindness is the basis of all valid ethical behavior -- other positive traits, such as honesty and integrity, are just a good idea.
I have good social chops for someone who falls a little bit on the introvert side of the scale. I'm pretty confident most of the time, and love to perform. I just have limited endurance for these things.
Labels are sometimes useful
Poly: I've been in a committed open marriage since 1995. My wife and I both date other people individually, but not as a couple.
This blog post explains my feelings about love, sex, and dating better than I ever have. http://brighterthanabuoy.blogspot.com/2014/01/casual-love.html
Sex positive: As far as I'm concerned, sexual expression is as natural and appropriate as any other kind. I've had a lot of partners and always been open about my intentions.
Kink: I sometimes go dom for the right person. Otherwise meh.
These days I've come to really appreciate a quiet night in as often as not. But for a more active date, blues dancing or salsa, or doing something else with an athletic component tends to work well.
Meeting for tea or cocktails is fine for starting out.
Most of my relationships end up in a "friends with benefits" vibe, but an "antagonist with benefits" could be interesting. And an "enemy with benefits" might be really hot. (Now accepting applications.)
Availability: I work and have a full family life, but I'm open to anything from a one-time hook-up to an every other week relationship. I'm not much of a night owl these days unless I have a really good reason.
Space: My house in Renton is too full to bring dates home, but I can entertain at the apartment in Bellevue. I like to call it "The Kasbah". (Cue cheesy Moroccan-inspired disco music here.)
Kids: I have twin girls in high school. Not making any more.
I communicate best in person or by e-mail. Phone and text is for "Where are you? Okay. See you in 10".
I'm better one on one than in groups unless I'm performing/teaching/presenting.
I'm a physical guy regardless of my intentions, and I have a highly developed sense of touch. (Musician hands.)
I'm not a fan of cigarette smoke, so drink something before you kiss me. If you're drunk, give me a chance to catch up. And I have little patience for loud parties unless I'm performing or putting moves on someone.
Here's a compatibility test I wrote a long time ago. Includes some sexy stuff. It's about 90% accurate to what my tastes were in 2005.
You can hear samples of my music on http://www.wandering-hands.com (or you will be able to again once I renew the domain. In the meantime, you can search for wandering hands on CDBaby.)