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42 M Bronx, NY

My Details

Last Online
Apr 17
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I am not a terribly consistent person. I try, but I bounce around a lot with things. I usually have 20 projects on various burners at once, with 2-3 really distracting me at any given time.

I'm a nerd, and I know everyone is a nerd now, but I still remember when it was a very bad thing, so I'm a little old-school that way.

I don't believe in fake geek girls. (That is to day, I don't believe they're a real phenomenon, women who aren't geeks just desperately pretending in order to impress some nerd boys.) I dislike misogyny. Most of my friends are in the burlesque community -- strong, independently minded creative women, and the men (and women, and betweens, and neithers) who love them. I like art and artsy people without really being artsy myself. (I do art, but it's not artsy if you're drinking Corona while doing it.)

I live in the Bronx, so I see the disparities of race all the time; if you harumph the idea of privilege, don't write to me. At the same time, I'm not really an activist. I don't have the attention span for that. I speak out when confronted by idiocy, and generally concentrate on my own behavior (i.e, not being an asshole), and it seems to work 90% of the time.
What I’m doing with my life
Surrounding myself with as many creative/artsy freaks as possible in the hopes it will rub off. Lately it seems it has; I've had a few people approach me about illustration work lately, some of whom have actually paid me. I've produced two burlesque shows, one of which I hosted (the show went well, the hosting was awful. Ah, well). Took a workshop on storytelling, will take more.
I’m really good at
I'm told that I'm really good with my hands.

I write stuff. I'm not "really good" at it, but I churn stuff out. Some of it is here. ("Beast" is a favorite, read that.)

I also draw stuff. Some of it here has gotten some good feedback.

I'm pretty good at reading stories aloud, and making up new ones.
The first things people usually notice about me
I like affectations.

I'm told I have a nice voice.

If you run into me online, the first things you notice (so I'm told) is wry little comments. Seriously, I've had strangers facebook me on the basis of my comments on their friends' posts. Like a lot. Which is a nice, if unprofitable, talent to have.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Watership Down, The Time Traveler's Wife, The Neverending Story (NOT the movie!), The Black Company, Neil Gaiman, Terry Pratchett, Haruki Murukami. Poets: Blake, Seuss, Nash, Silverstein, Neruda, Williams, Whitman, Vonnegut and Vittoria repetto. Nonfictions: Jane Liedloff, Jane Jacobs, Christopher Alexander. The Importance of Being Earnest is my favorite play, and my second favorite thing to read aloud after Anansi Boys. I kind of want to be James Baldwin when I grow up.

Movies: Star Wars (originals), Amelie, The Muppet Movie, Gladiator, Killer Condom, Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter, Shortbus, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Ink, Lilo and Stitch. I think Kevin Smith is a douche but I laugh at every goddamn movie he's ever made, possibly because I suspect my life is one of them. Tired of zombies.

TV: For a long time this was blank, but lately I've been watching Supernatural, and have gotten my girls watching Buffy and Angel. I live The IT Crowd, so I don't know if that counts.

Music: Too much to mention. Create a matrix of "Building a Mystery" and Alice Cooper's "Poison" and you have a blueprint of my romantic sensibilities. Especially with a sampling of La Valse d'Amelie.

Food: Like music, tastes are too wide to list. Ethnic is good, spicy ethnic is better. I've discovered that I can throw together an awesome mole from scratch just by grabbing stuff from my kitchen shelves. I don't eat cephalopods because I suspect they will one day rule the world.
The six things I could never do without
(Note: This is not literal.)

Science, food, love, my family, prettiness, the Internet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How anyone could possibly be a 97+% match with me while being monogamous.

The countless hidden manifestations of privilege. Gender. The nature of identity and kinship among differing subcultures.

Art; specifically, illustration, animation. Poetry. How I can achieve animation in still illustrations. Burlesque. Women. Women in burlesque. Art projects featuring women in burlesque. And stuff like this:

Freedom vs. Responsibility. Sustainability, particularly as regards urban centers. Liquid fluoride thorium. How many victims of injustice would so victimize others if they had the opportunity. Why it's more important to people to continue to be wrong and pretend they're not, than just become right. Whether art or sleep will win tonight.
On a typical Friday night I am
At some sort of tiny live entertainment on the Lower East Side -- burlesque, storytelling, music, something. Mostly as an audience, but I've recently taken a step into producing them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was an asshole once, for a long time. Full of bitterness and self-pity. I don't like remembering it and I live in terror of ever turning into something like that again. Which, they tell me, is a good sign I won't. But I'd rather not get complacent.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if're a smart, extroverted, freaky-artsy woman with some social awareness, unconventional sensibilities, a "fuck that" attitude, little use for gender roles, and a macabre streak (this can be quite a big streak, really) who is not looking for monogamy or to have children -- at least, not mine, unless you want my existing children, in which case I'll pay postage. (Haha, that was a joke, CPS.) Tats, piercings, other mods, and/or unnaturally-colored hair are all good indicators, but none are necessary.

Especially if you're Amanda Palmer. I hear you and Neil are open. I celebrate that every day.

Oh, and if you're looking for "Straight Guys Only", I'll be suspicious of you. I'm basically a straight guy myself, but I wonder why you'd exclude my queer bros. 'Zup with that?