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43 Bronx, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids
Likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I bounce around a lot with things. I usually have 20 projects on various burners at once, with 2-3 really distracting me at any given time.

I'm a nerd, and I know everyone is a nerd now, but I still remember when it was a very bad thing, so I'm a little old-school that way. That said, I'm not really focused enough to be a geek about anything.

I want to thank the Gamer Gate folks for giving me a handy label for my beliefs on privilege, misogyny, etc.: I am a Social Justice Warrior. (I live in the Bronx, so I see the disparities of race and income all the time; if you harumph the idea of privilege, don't write to me.)
What I’m doing with my life
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Fall 2014, having explored careers in journalism, illustration, computer science and data analysis, I have finally given in to the prediction of my old high school aptitude test results, and begun to pursue certification as an elementary school science teacher. On the downside, they just recently upped the standards for teachers in NY state by a fuckton (metric). On the upside, I'm going to fucking rock; seriously, I'm going to be the kind of crazy, awesome science teacher you see in Disney movies PBS cartoons; Ms. Frizzle meets...

Okay, I can't really think of another one, but I'm sure there are some out there.

Bonus: I get to take biology courses again!

Otherwise: Surrounding myself with as many creative/artsy freaks as possible in the hopes it will rub off. Lately it seems it has; I've had a few people approach me about illustration work lately, some of whom have actually paid me. I've produced two burlesque shows, one of which I hosted (the show went well, my hosting was awful. Ah, well). Took a workshop on storytelling, will take more.
I’m really good at
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I'm told that I'm really good with my hands.

Making a certain subset of people laugh quite a lot. Not everyone gets this, though.

I write stuff. I'm not "really good" at it, but I churn stuff out. Some of it is here. ("Beast" is a favorite, read that.)

Reading stories aloud, and making up new ones.

I also draw stuff. Some of it here has gotten some good feedback.

Cooking, especially dinners.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm told I have a nice voice. Also, I'm told it's noticeable that I fully occupy the space that I am in, whatever that means.

If you run into me online, the first things you notice (so I'm told) is wry little comments. Seriously, I've had strangers facebook me on the basis of my comments on their friends' posts. A lot. Which is a nice, if unprofitable, talent to have.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Watership Down, The Neverending Story (NOT the movie!), The Black Company, Neil Gaiman (RIP), Terry Pratchett, Haruki Murukami. Poets: Blake, Seuss, Nash, Silverstein, Neruda, Williams, Whitman, Vonnegut and Vittoria repetto. Nonfictions: Jane Liedloff, Jane Jacobs, Christopher Alexander. The Importance of Being Earnest is my favorite play, and my second favorite thing to read aloud after Anansi Boys. I kind of want to be James Baldwin when I grow up.

Movies: Star Wars (originals), Amelie, The Muppet Movie, Gladiator, Killer Condom, Jesus Christ Vampire Hunter, Shortbus, Hedwig and the Angry Inch, Ink, Lilo and Stitch. I think Kevin Smith is a douche but I laugh at everything he's made, possibly because I suspect my life is one of his movies. Tired of zombies, sad there are so few good dinosaur or werewolf movies (a good dinosaur AND werewolf movie would make me so happy).

TV: For a long time this was blank, but lately I've been watching Supernatural, and have gotten my girls watching Buffy and Angel. I lived The IT Crowd (that's not a typo), so I don't know if that counts.

Music: Too much to mention. I listen to "Black Messiah" on loop right now, but I still throw in "Fight the Power". Create a matrix of "Building a Mystery" and Alice Cooper's "Poison" and you have a blueprint of my romantic sensibilities. Especially with a sampling of La Valse d'Amelie.

Food: Like music, tastes are too wide to list. Ethnic is good, spicy ethnic is better. I've discovered that I can throw together an awesome mole from scratch just by grabbing stuff from my kitchen shelves. I don't eat cephalopods because I suspect they will one day rule the world.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(Note: This is not literal.)

Science, food, love, family, prettiness, the Internet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The countless hidden manifestations of privilege. Everything to do with Ferguson, and how everything to do with Ferguson is not all about Ferguson, but everywhere. Also gender. The nature of identity and kinship among differing subcultures.

Whatever happened to making out? Sex is great and all, but since I was maybe in my mid 20s, any sexually charged contact that doesn't end in orgasm seems generally to be regarded as a failure. Something that "didn't go anywhere"; making out is sure as hell somewhere, dammit. Did everyone else just become completely desensitized to frantic touching through fabric, the victorious moment when a hand finally works its way through a shirt?

Art; specifically, illustration, animation. Poetry. How I can achieve animation in still illustrations. And stuff like this:

How best to permit children to grow into their educated, well-rounded, well-adjusted selves instead of molding them into what the people in charge want them to be. How to teach them to think without teaching them WHAT to think. How to work within a paradigm of schools and school days when I detest schools and all they do to children and imply for society.

Why the culture is so obsessed with the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon all of a sudden; it's all I ever hear about lately.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Right Now: Studying, writing assignments, or illustrating.

Until recently, and hopefully once more some day: At some sort of tiny live entertainment on the Lower East Side -- burlesque, storytelling, music, something. Mostly as an audience, but I'd recently taken a step into producing them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I once created a dish of roasted celery root and yucca, solely so I could make a joke about it mixing Greek and Latin roots. Yeah. I'm that guy.

Fortunately, it was pretty good. The food.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re a smart, extroverted, freaky-artsy woman with some social awareness, unconventional sensibilities, a "fuck that" attitude, little use for gender roles, and a macabre streak (this can be quite a big streak, really) who is not looking for monogamy or to have children -- at least, not mine, unless you want my existing children, in which case I'll pay postage. (Haha, that was a joke, CPS.) You don't have to be queer, but it seems to help. Tats, piercings, other mods, and/or unnaturally-colored hair are all good indicators, but none are necessary.

Especially if you're Amanda Palmer. I hear you and Neil are open. I celebrate that every day.

Oh, and if you're looking for "Straight Guys Only", I'll be suspicious of you. I'm basically a straight guy myself, but I wonder why you'd exclude the queer dudes. What up with that?