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47 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:13am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids

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My self-summary
Strong, handsome, friendly, creative, curious, passionate.

Mild mannered creative professional on the surface, male equivalent of the sexy librarian lurking below…it's all about balance.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a lot to be grateful for at home, happily married, father of 3 boys, (and thus a herder of cats). Running a successful professional practice. Searching for variety in partners to have adventures with and enrich my life.
I’m really good at
doing things with my hands....really. Or, finding missing things. Finding something really difficult to master and then immersing myself in that self torture beyond a healthy point - winemaking, watercolor, guitar, golf
The first things people usually notice about me
are my brown eyes and warm nature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Lately, it's Blink-182, but two minutes later it will be Beethoven, the rawness of The White Stripes, the siren Norah Jones or Tom Waits' grit; the timbre of Eminem's voice, Flamenco, early punk rock and whatever's left in between. I love music with attitude...
The six things I could never do without
Love, sex, wine, art, music, family.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
the worldly, critical things, while I do the dishes…it's my meditation time.
What makes people tick. How connected everything is...
At all other moments of the day its that consuming thing all men...shit, here I go again, think about …
How to write that first message that will capture your attention
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My wife and I are non-monogamous and solid. We believe that attraction and chemistry with others is natural and that the freedom to explore other people, brings a great energy and dimension back to our relationship.

Guidebook description aside, it's fun, which is what life is all about. I'm looking for something simple and fun and physical to begin with and open to seeing where that goes.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–51
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You love to kiss, but are not afraid to bite
You love a long soft stroke, but get excited by an occasional pinch or slap
You appreciate a quite moment but can whisper an f-bomb kinky secret in my ear
You're looking for someone to scratch that itch...
You want a test drive in person...a written profile only goes so far and the real way to find someone you like is to sample that chemistry in person...