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49 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:54pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
English, German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Strong, handsome, friendly, funny, creative, curious, passionate.

Patient and a good listener.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have a lot to be grateful for at home - father of 3 boys, (and thus a herder of cats), embracing the challenge that marriage can be at times, but nurturing it and loving the results. Running a successful professional design practice.

Exploring relationships and redefining what they look like. Looking to meet someone new for fun, for play, to have adventures with and enrich my life.

I love people and the exchange of energy when meeting someone new.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
doing things with my hands....really. Or, finding missing things. Finding something really difficult to master and then immersing myself in that self torture beyond a healthy point - winemaking, watercolor, guitar, golf
The first things people usually notice about me
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are my brown eyes and warm nature....but I'm not in the habit of asking. :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lately, it's the Black Keys, but two minutes later it could be Beethoven, the rawness of The White Stripes, the siren Norah Jones or Tom Waits' grit; the timbre of Eminem's voice, Flamenco, early punk rock and whatever's left in between. I love music with attitude...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
How about the things I live for...?

My boys and the indescribable amazement they trigger in me.

Romantic Love

A lover's touch, and the opportunity to express myself back

Lifting and pulling and pushing heavy weights ... pushing through my limits.

The heady perfume of a great glass of wine

Texture in all the senses - tactile, visual, taste...

The weightlessness I feel when ice skating...with hockey skates.

A "personal day" taken from work and spent with my buddies on the golf course, or at a secluded beach along the coast.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
the worldly, critical things, while I do the dishes…it's my meditation time.

At other moments of the day it's that all-consuming thing all men...shit, here I go again, think about …

How the very secret to life is repeated in so many things - relationships, parenting, winemaking, cooking, the game of golf…seriously, this is some groundbreaking shit that somebody has to have thought of already.

How ridiculous I sound sometimes.

How to write that first message that will capture your attention
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My wife and I are non-monogamous and solid. We believe that attraction and chemistry with others is natural and exploring other people enriches our lives.
You should message me if
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You are in an open-relationship, or single, and OK with open-relationships.

You love to kiss, but are not afraid to bite

You appreciate a quite moment but welcome an f-bomb kinky secret whispered in your ear

You agree the real way to find someone you like is to test that chemistry in person...