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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Today – 1:40pm
6' 9" (2.06m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and it’s important
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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"You are awesome. Discuss."

I am really open, really intense, really emotional, and really deep. I have a brain that I insist on using, and you should feel the same way about your own.

I am - in all probability, unlike you - not using this site as a dating site. I am relatively new to London, and looking for lasting friendships. I am disinterested in finding someone to simply spend time with. I am looking for an actual friend. Let me be clear: I am not looking to skim the surface of your soul, but to dive in deep. The hills are *that* way, start running!

I am ISFJ. ("The Protector", according to OkCupid.) Although I am not looking for love, nothing pleases me more than having someone to turn to and to care for.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a code-savvy software tester. As well as testing, myself, I write software to do testing for me. My role is essentially tracking down the different ways in which developers have screwed up. (You can therefore be assured that they will do the same with my test tools!) In reporting software defects, I increase the amount of work developers have to do, because then these defects need to be fixed. The environment is combatative, requiring me to be quite assertive - but with the understanding that both sides have a common goal.

Out of work, I am developing a web framework and recipe website, aimed at people with food intolerances and allergies.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am an excellent listener, and can sense a lot of people's motivations, needs and wants. I say what I think, without fear of consequence - and this has got me into a lot of trouble.

I am a good writer. This is partly owed to my perfectionism and also to my intolerance of poor written English. To my dismay, I make mistakes, even with written English. I believe, however, that in every failure, there is the opportunity to grow.

I am highly analytical, ambitious, and aim for the highest quality in my professional life. I am a keen creator of software tools, with an understanding of the perspective of non-technical people.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall. Get over it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I do not watch television in the traditional way. I get my post-broadcast TV shows from the internet. I watch what I want, when I want - anything else is discarded. No adverts, no talent shows, no reality shows, no soaps. Only things that I consider to be worth watching. I have observed that a lot of people sit in front of the television 'to wind down'. Apparently filling your brain with the equivalent of toxic waste is relaxing? That's not for me.

I have recently discovered that I am intolerant to milk, eggs, wheat, gluten, yeast, coconut, cola nut, peanut, hazelnut, garlic and chilli peppers. I am in the early stages of dealing with this, and the massive changes that it is causing in my life. Thank all things wonderful for sushi!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...My children. Am I as good a parent as I would like to be? One of my two boys is deaf - am I doing enough to help them through a hearing world?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm not a club person, nor am I a loud pub person. If I can't hear what you're saying, what exactly is the point of it all?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am more dominant than submissive, more sadist than masochist. Actually, I consider dominant/submissive as a scale - just as much as homo/hetero.

Some people generalise with the "everyone is bisexual" blanket statement; I perceive sexuality as a scale, where being at either extreme is quite rare. Likewise with D/s: I don't consider "vanilla" to be outside the scale, just some people fail/refuse to recognise that they are on it.

I consider myself as part of the fetish community. I have a number of male friends that like to dress up in clothes which the most people would consider as female-only. I don't have a problem with this. I don't even have a problem with people that role-play as dogs or wolves. (Yes, I've met some of these people.) Whatever gives them pleasure - sexual or otherwise - is perfectly fine, as long as it is consensual and they are mentally & emotionally capable of giving such consent. I do not consider any of this to be either wrong or unnatural. If anything is wrong or unnatural, it is denying yourself due to societal pressures. For example, take a look at the suicide rate of people that consider their physical and mental/emotional genders to be different.

Also, I get very frustrated with short people that think they're tall. My concept of "tall" begins at a female height of six feet.
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