Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"You are awesome. Discuss."
I am really open, really intense, really emotional, and really
deep. I have a brain that I insist on using, and you should feel
the same way about your own.
I am - in all probability, unlike you - not using this site as a
dating site. I am relatively new to London, and looking for lasting
friendships. I am disinterested in finding someone to simply spend
time with. I am looking for an actual friend. Let me be clear: I am
not looking to skim the surface of your soul, but to dive in deep.
The hills are *that* way, start running!
I am ISFJ. ("The Protector", according to OkCupid.) Although I am
not looking for love, nothing pleases me more than having someone
to turn to and to care for.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a code-savvy software tester. As well as testing, myself, I
write software to do testing for me. My role is essentially
tracking down the different ways in which developers have screwed
up. (You can therefore be assured that they will do the same with
my test tools!) In reporting software defects, I increase the
amount of work developers have to do, because then these defects
need to be fixed. The environment is combatative, requiring me to
be quite assertive - but with the understanding that both sides
have a common goal.
Out of work, I am developing a web framework and recipe website,
aimed at people with food intolerances and allergies.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am an excellent listener, and can sense a lot of people's
motivations, needs and wants. I say what I think, without fear of
consequence - and this has got me into a lot of trouble.
I am a good writer. This is partly owed to my perfectionism and
also to my intolerance of poor written English. To my dismay, I
make mistakes, even with written English. I believe, however, that
in every failure, there is the opportunity to grow.
I am highly analytical, ambitious, and aim for the highest quality
in my professional life. I am a keen creator of software tools,
with an understanding of the perspective of non-technical people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I do not watch television in the traditional way. I get my
post-broadcast TV shows from the internet. I watch what I want,
when I want - anything else is discarded. No adverts, no talent
shows, no reality shows, no soaps. Only things that I consider to
be worth watching. I have observed that a lot of people sit in
front of the television 'to wind down'. Apparently filling your
brain with the equivalent of toxic waste is relaxing? That's not
I have recently discovered that I am intolerant to milk, eggs,
wheat, gluten, yeast, coconut, cola nut, peanut, hazelnut, garlic
and chilli peppers. I am in the early stages of dealing with this,
and the massive changes that it is causing in my life. Thank all
things wonderful for sushi!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...My children. Am I as good a parent as I would like to be? One of
my two boys is deaf - am I doing enough to help them through a
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm not a club person, nor am I a loud pub person. If I can't hear
what you're saying, what exactly is the point of it all?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am more dominant than submissive, more sadist than masochist.
Actually, I consider dominant/submissive as a scale - just as much
Some people generalise with the "everyone is bisexual" blanket
statement; I perceive sexuality as a scale, where being at either
extreme is quite rare. Likewise with D/s: I don't consider
"vanilla" to be outside the scale, just some people fail/refuse to
recognise that they are on it.
I consider myself as part of the fetish community. I have a number
of male friends that like to dress up in clothes which the most
people would consider as female-only. I don't have a problem with
this. I don't even have a problem with people that role-play as
dogs or wolves. (Yes, I've met some of these people.) Whatever
gives them pleasure - sexual or otherwise - is perfectly fine, as
long as it is consensual and they are mentally & emotionally
capable of giving such consent. I do not consider any of this to be
either wrong or unnatural. If anything is wrong or unnatural, it is
denying yourself due to societal pressures. For example, take a
look at the suicide rate of people that consider their physical and
mental/emotional genders to be different.
Also, I get very frustrated with short people that think they're
tall. My concept of "tall" begins at a female height of six feet.
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