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59 M Vancouver, British Columbia, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
English (Fluently), Italian (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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"It's senseless, at least in the absence of divine agency, to declare that any two people were made for each other, yet we say it all the time, to sustain our belief that's it's sensible for them to pair up. The conceit can turn the search for someone into a search for that someone which is fated to end in futility or compromise whether conducted on the Internet or in a ballroom. And yet people find each other, every which way, and often achieve something they call happiness." Nick Paumgarten, the New Yorker, July 4/2011
What I’m doing with my life
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I have been working on development issues outside Canada for some years (six months so far this year and nearly 20 countries in the last two years). I am tired of living out of suitcases (see Tom Traubert's Blues by Tom Waits).

I'm an innocent victim of a blinded alley
And I'm tired of all these soldiers here
No one speaks English, and everything's broken, and my Stacys are soaking wet

The experience has finally taught me that there is really no point in arguing; no one ever changed anyone else's mind.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Renovating houses, furniture, boats. Inhaling books.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Hair which has been white since age 30.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Just re-read Susan Sontag's the Volcano Lover, all Coen brothers' stuff, Jim Jarmusch films, Miles Davis, Chet Baker, Nina Simone, Marianne Faithful, Leonard Cohen, Sichuan Chinese, Italian, Vij's Indian. I know the last line in Ulysses.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, the New Yorker, NYRB, Harper's, old Mercedes Benz and BMW convertibles, vino rosso.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Like everyone over the age of 12, I worry about what I should have done differently.

On Sundays the bulls get so bored,
When they are asked to show off for us
There is the sun, the sand, and the arena
There are the bulls ready to bleed for us
The moment of triumph when grocery clerks become Nero
The moment of triumph when the girls scream and shout the name of their hero.

Jacques Brel
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking and engaging in entertaining and inconsequential conversation.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Self doubt is a killer.
You should message me if
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You are attracted to me, you think you are attractive and you have no effing interest in hockey.