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32 M Philadelphia, PA

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Last Online
Oct 13
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Busy, Busy, Busy...

My Marxist Feminist dialectic brings all the enlightened young women to the yard, and they're like "It's more egalitarian than yours", damn right it's more egalitarian than yours; I could educate you but I'd have to first establish a non-capitalist skill-swapping economy through which to arrange a reasonable trade for my time and efforts.

"If I told you your eyes are more beautiful than Emma Goldman's writing, would you smash patriarchal notions of human sexuality with me?"

So I just moved to Philly from Tampa, as in yesterday (6/28). As of now I'm kinda living in my car, I'm hoping to track down someone willing to let me couch surf for a little while because between a Saturn coup not being the most comfortable of beds and the cop that wanted to know what I was doing in the random parking lot I found I only got about an hour of sleep last night. I have a lead on an apartment I can afford but it won't be available until the first of August so I'm basically playing things by ear until then. As I'm new to the area and only know two people here I'm looking to meet new friends as well as people who may be interested in something more intimate.

I'm currently looking for work but I've been working as a CNC Machinist for a decade now and since it's a field that's in high demand I should be able to find good work fairly quickly, until then I'm lucky enough that my bosses decided to fire me when I gave them notice that I was going to leave so now I get unemployment while I look.

I've been in both successful polyamorous and monogamous relationships, so for the right person I'd be comfortable with whichever type they preferred. I do believe that the human heart is capable of holding more than one person in it at a time and that the current focus on monogamy comes from the patriarchal concept of women as property and securing heirs in a society focused on property ownership, so my views on sociology, misogyny, and capitalism in addition to an understanding of biology and anthropology all inform my views on polyamory. I think that open and honest communication is one of the most important things to maintaining a close relationship or any type. In my experience with poly relationships I've both been part of a primary relationship where we could both see other people as well as being the boyfriend of someone in a primary relationship. As I am now without a partner I'm looking for a pretty wide range of interactions, I'm always up for meeting cool new friends, physical and romantic partners, and I'm also open to finding a primary emotional partner, someone I can spend my time with and build something long term and meaningful with (not to imply that short term things can't be meaningful).

I'm a radical in many ways, I'm an activist, a feminist, an anarchist (although I see socialism as our best bet for the immediate future currently I see anarchism as a realistic ideal to strive for), an environmentalist, a queer rights activist, a trans rights activist, a labor rights enthusiast, I am anti-capitalist, anti-fascist, anti-Zionist (cool with Jews, issues with the state of Israel and the war-crimes they commit), etc. etc. I have a lot of strongly held views about which I strive to remain well informed.

I fall under the queer umbrella, being both pansexual and agender, I'm attracted to intellect and personality as well as feminine and androgynous physical traits and if I'm interested in someone based on those grounds what's between their legs or what their gender identity is doesn't really play into my interest. As far as dating and relationships go, I'm most interested in cis and trans women, feminine and androgynous genderqueers and others who identify within the non-binary spectrum, and feminine or androgynous cis or trans guys. I'll be honest though, my interest in cis guys is fairly limited.

I consider myself both an epistemological and methodological naturalist, I think that the natural world is what there is and that's it. I'm ultimately agnostic and open to the possibility that I'm wrong, but functionally I'm neither religious or especially spiritual. I'm fine with dating religious people, my last partner was a Messianic Jew, I'm far more concerned with the political and social views of potential partners than their views on the existence of deities. As long as you're cool with the fact that I came to reject the concept of gods after serious consideration and study and it's not a view that's likely to change without significant evidence. If you think you can change me or "save" me please, just stahp.

I have four tattoo's and plan on getting more. On my left shoulder blade I have the words Cogito Ergo Sum which is Latin for 'I think therefore I am' and on my left forearm I have a radial version of the evolutionary tree of life showing off my status as a Biology nerd lol. I have a symbol for Anarcha-Feminism tattooed on my right forearm and I have an anarchy-heart tattooed on my butt. I also have my ears stretched to 5/8" plugs and working my way up to 3/4", 3 cartilage piercings, my tongue pierced, and a 4ga Prince Albert.

I'm an apostate (aka former) christian and atheist and have been active in local groups previously for both atheism and skepticism. Ultimately they were more social groups than anything else and they gave me the opportunity to form many good friendships.

My social views are rather radical; I think queer rights and womens rights are incredibly important because ultimately they're human rights and the fact that our society punishes people simply for being who they are is a great injustice. I'm also fairly active on labor issues and issues of social justice and environmentalism. I consider myself to be a post-third wave feminist and have issues with the way that much of mainstream feminism, particularly second wave and early third wave along with many RadFems, deligitimzes the concerns of transwomen and People Of Color. I also find it troubling that so much focus is on gay marriage right now even though it's predominately a concern of gay white men while trans women and genderqueers have to worry about getting attacked for going to the bathroom and most states still allow for them to be legally discriminated against in terms of employment, housing, etc. That said, if you're opposed to queer equality, think Ayn Rand is one of the greatest authors of the past century, believe Ron Paul is the best hope for our country, or happen to be fond of Fox News (Faux "News"), we probably won't get along very well.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, activism, ranting at bigots on the internet, and raging against the injustice that is so prevalent in the world.
I’m really good at
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I'm pretty good at debating, especially religion, evolution, feminism, queer rights, the evils of capitalism, anti-libertarianism, etc. and I think this largely comes from the way I tend to argue my points with myself. Not in a voices in my head kind of way, rather because I have long felt that a view you can't defend isn't one you deserve to hold.

I'm not a bad singer, but I shouldn't be on a stage... lol. I do really enjoy singing though and do so regularly in my apartment/car/shower.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My amazing reddish beard. Seriously, I get random compliments on it all the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (divided by author)
There are more I need to add when I get a chance, I also read a fair amount of sci-fi, fantasy, and philosophy.
Anything and everything by Kurt Vonnegut.
Dan Barker: Losing Faith in Faith
Bertrand Russell: The Conquest of Happiness | Why I Am Not a Christian | Religion and Science
Jerry Coyne: Why Evolution is True
Paul Joannides: The Guide To Getting It On (6th edition) (fyi, the most interesting and exhaustive book on sexuality I've ever heard of...)
Stephen Lawhead: The Song of Albion trilogy
Philip Pullman: His Dark Materials trilogy
George Orwell: 1984 | Keep the Aspidistra Flying
J.K. Rowling: The entire Harry Potter series... Yes, I'm one of them...
Kim Stanley Robinson: The Years of Rice and Salt | The Mars Trilogy
J.R.R. Tolkien: The Hobbit | The Lord of the Rings
C.S. Lewis: The Space Trilogy
Howard Zinn
Noam Choamsky
Suzanne Collins- The Hunger Games series
Robert Jordan- The Wheel of Time series
Julia Serano: Whipping Girl
Numerous anarchist and communist writers, including but not limited to Emma Goldman, Karl Marx, Mikhail Bakunin, Murray Bookchin, etc.

Music: The Ataris, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Bassnectar, Brand New, Death Cab for Cutie, The Decemberists, Nick Drake, Dubstep in general, E-40, Foo Fighters, The Fray, Harvey Danger, Jimmy Eat World, Kaki King, Ludo, Marilyn Manson, Matchbook Romance, Matchbox Twenty, Maximo Park, Missy Elliot, Muse, My Chemical Romance, Panic! at the Disco, A Perfect Circle, Poets of the Fall, The Prodigy, Rage Against the Machine, Rammstein, Regina Spektor, Rob Thomas, Snow Patrol, Static-X, Straylight Run, System of A Down, Taking Back Sunday, Tegan and Sara, TV On The Radio, Vendetta Red, Yellowcard, The National, Pendulum, Pearl and the Beard, Of Monsters and Men

Internets: xkcd, Pharyngula, Ill Will Press

Movies: Akira, Clerks, Clerks 2, Chasing Amy, Mallrats, Dogma, Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back, Doubt, Harry Potter, Sweeny Todd, Juno, Mirrormask, Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Run Fatboy Run, Serenity, Stranger Than Fiction, Sunshine, Taken, Superbad, Zack and Miri Make a Porno, 28 Days Later, The 40 Year Old Virgin, Blood and Chocolate, Martyr, The Boondock Saints, Children of Men, Dan in Real Life, Donnie Darko, Fanboys, Fearless, Hero, The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, Kung Fu Hustle, The Machinist, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Monty Python's Life of Brian, Office Space, The Order, A Knights Tale, The Princess Bride, Shaun of the Dead, Shoot 'Em Up, Spaceballs, Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Steamboy, Swing Kids, Wall-E, Up, What Dreams May Come, Mystery Men, Waterworld

TV: Firefly, House, True Blood, Monk, Heroes, Dexter, Stargate, Bleach, Trigun, Fullmetal Alchemist, Bones, Castle, The Colbert Report, The Daily Show, Dollhouse, Eureka, FlashForward, Sanctuary, Southland, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Californication, Chuck, Coupling, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Supernatural, Game of Thrones, No Heroics, Being Human, Shameless, In The Flesh, Continuum
The six things I could never do without
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1. Affection
2. Internet
3. Friends
4. Music
5. Philosophy & Science
6. Good Conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to get the most out of life. Ways that I can help improve the world we live in. What I'd do if I had superpowers. My mind never really stops working lol.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends / reading / online / really it varies...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Honestly, I'm pretty open about myself so anything you want to know is fair to ask.

As far as something specific to put here... I have my Prince Albert piercing in addition to my ears. If you're not familiar with it it's a piercing that goes up through the skin on the underside of the penis (right behind the head) and out through the urethra. I'm also very open minded to trying new things, I enjoy using sex toys with my partners and light bondage is something I've always enjoyed (I have amazing fur lined leather wrist and ankle restraints that my friends are always wanting to borrow lol), to me bondage is all about trust and I really enjoy that aspect of it whether I'm the one with the key or the one in the handcuffs. As a side note, you don't have to be incredibly experienced for me to be interested. I prefer someone open minded to new experiences but to me sex is always a learning and growing experience.

I also think about sex... a lot... Not in the whole 'looking for sex constantly' kind of way, but I listen to the podcasts and read the books of sex therapists and I'm fascinated by the biology and sociology of it all.
You should message me if
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You actually read through this and didn't ragequit, you think I'm someone you'd enjoy talking to, and/or you think I'm cute.

Of if you just want to make out and hate capitalism together.