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32 Philadelphia, PA Genderqueer, Non-binary

Genderqueer, Non-binary

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  • Ages 20–40
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Last online
Today – 3:15pm
Pansexual, Queer
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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My Marxist Feminist dialectic brings all the enlightened folx to the yard, and they're like "It's more egalitarian than yours", damn right it's more egalitarian than yours; I could educate you but I'd have to first establish a non-capitalist skill-swapping economy through which to arrange a reasonable trade for my time and efforts.

If we're under a 70% match your message is getting filtered, I'm tired of dealing with cis gay dudes who think I'm gonna want to fuck someone who thinks contraceptives are morally wrong or that evolution isn't real. I really don't even get why the fuck you would message someone you have that little in common with. I'm also probably not going to reply or contact you if your profile lists you as strictly monogamous unless you express an interest in just friendship. I've never seen dating between a polyamorous and a monogamous person work out well and I have no interest in dealing with that mess.

Busy, Busy, Busy...

Hey, I figure it's time for some updates as I've been living in Philly for a while now. I came here in a desperate flight from Florida, packed all my possessions in my car, drove here prepared to sleep in my car until I was able to find a place, but then met many wonderful people who have become close friends, many of whom offered me places to crash while I got on my feet here. I've found a real sense of community here that I've lacked other places and while I'll probably always be socially awkward I feel like I fit in here better than I have anywhere else I've lived.

First thing you should know is that I'm rather queer. I'm pansexual, I have a complicated relationship with my gender and identify as genderqueer (please use they/them pronouns for me) and lean far more to the feminine than my conventionally masculine outward appearance would lead one to assume. I'm also strictly polyamorous, I cherish the committed relationships that I have had and and those that I currently have but I consider monogamy to be an archaic construct rooted in misogynistic and patriarchal ideals. More specifically I am a relationship anarchist as I prefer not to rank my relationships (be they friendship or romantic) in terms or priority, instead letting each relationship be what it is for however long it is, along with this comes an understanding of relationships as a fluid concept which in my experience makes things far more amicable when one party feels the need to transition away from a romantic relationship. It's a lot easier to stay friends when you value your relationship with someone on far more points than the romance.

I've been working as a CNC Machinist for over a decade now I've been lucky enough to be in a field with high demand and reasonable pay, and I've gotten to contribute from things like keeping the SEPTA trains running to making parts involved with the Mars Rover. At times it can be a boring, put in a part, push a button, take out a part, kind of job, but other times it can be very engaging and challenging as I troubleshoot obscure problems or determine the best way to program a machine to do what I want it to.

I've been in both successful polyamorous and monogamous relationships, but as I no longer consider monogamy to be a path for me, ultimately it just feels too possessive to me. I currently have a long distance relationship with someone I met while living in Florida whom i love very much, however I am not currently dating anyone locally. I believe that the human heart is capable of holding more than one person in it at a time and that the current focus on monogamy comes from the patriarchal concept of women as property and securing heirs in a society focused on property ownership, so my views on sociology, misogyny, and capitalism in addition to an understanding of biology and anthropology all inform my views on polyamory. I think that open and honest communication is one of the most important things to maintaining a close relationship of any type. In my experience with poly relationships I've both been part of a primary relationship where we could both see other people as well as being the boyfriend of someone in a primary relationship, and most recently the relationship anarchism described above.

I'm a radical in many ways, I'm an activist, a feminist, an anarchist (although I see socialism as our best bet for the immediate future currently I see anarchism as a realistic ideal to strive for), an environmentalist, a queer rights activist, a trans rights activist, a labor rights enthusiast, I am anti-capitalist, anti-fascist, anti-Zionist (cool with Jewish people and very opposed to anti-semitism, issues with the state of Israel and the war-crimes they commit), etc. etc. I have a lot of strongly held views about which I strive to remain well informed.

I'm attracted to intellect and personality and my sexuality could more or less be summed up as "not cis men", not that cis men aren't attractive, but experience has led me to set the bar high regarding them. Ultimately, when I'm interested in someone and we have a lot in common what their gender is or what their genitals are don't really have any impact on whether or not I'm attracted to them.

I consider myself both an epistemological and methodological naturalist, I think that the natural world is what there is and that's it. I'm ultimately agnostic and open to the possibility that I'm wrong, but functionally I'm neither religious nor especially spiritual. I'm fine with dating religious people, my long distance partner is a Messianic Jew, I'm far more concerned with the political and social views of potential partners than their views on the existence of deities. As long as you're cool with the fact that I came to reject the concept of gods after serious consideration and study and it's not a view that's likely to change without significant evidence. If you think you can change me or "save" me please, just stahp.

I have four tattoo's and plan on getting more. On my left shoulder blade I have the words Cogito Ergo Sum which is Latin for 'I think therefore I am' and on my left forearm I have a radial version of the evolutionary tree of life showing off my status as a Biology nerd lol. I have a symbol for Anarcha-Feminism tattooed on my right forearm and I have an anarchy-heart tattooed on my butt. I also have my ears stretched to 3/4" plugs, my tongue pierced, and a 4ga Prince Albert.

I'm an apostate (aka former) christian and atheist and have been active in local groups previously for both atheism and skepticism. Ultimately they were more social groups than anything else and they gave me the opportunity to form many good friendships. Over time as I came to see how misogynistic and racist aspects of organized skepticism and atheism were I have distanced myself from these groups.

My social views are rather radical; I think queer rights and womens rights are incredibly important because ultimately they're human rights and the fact that our society punishes people simply for being who they are is a great injustice. I'm also fairly active on labor issues and issues of social justice and environmentalism. I consider myself to be a post-third wave feminist and have issues with the way that much of mainstream feminism, particularly second wave and early third wave along with many RadFems, delegitimizes the concerns of transwomen and People Of Color. I also find it troubling that so much focus is on gay marriage right now even though it's predominately a concern of gay white cis men while trans women and genderqueer folks have to worry about getting attacked for going to the bathroom and most states still allow for them to be legally discriminated against in terms of employment, housing, etc. That said, if you're opposed to queer equality, think Ayn Rand is one of the greatest authors of the past century, believe Ron Paul is the best hope for our country, or happen to be fond of Fox News (Faux "News"), we probably won't get along very well.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, activism, ranting at bigots on the internet, and raging against the injustice that is so prevalent in the world.
I’m really good at
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I am an excellent cuddler.

Caring about and being empathetic towards those whose experiences are different than my own.

I also like to think I'm pretty good at listening and adjusting my behavior and views when being informed that I'm fucking up on something, regardless of what tone I am approached with. I strive to be a decent person and accept that it's something that takes constant effort and self-education.

I'm not a bad singer, but I shouldn't be on a stage... lol. I do really enjoy singing though and do so regularly in my apartment/car/shower.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My amazing reddish beard. Seriously, I get random compliments on it all the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (divided by author)
There are more I need to add when I get a chance, I also read a fair amount of sci-fi, fantasy, and philosophy.
Anything and everything by Kurt Vonnegut.
Bertrand Russell: The Conquest of Happiness | Why I Am Not a Christian | Religion and Science
Jerry Coyne: Why Evolution is True
Paul Joannides: The Guide To Getting It On (6th edition) (fyi, the most interesting and exhaustive book on sexuality I've ever heard of...)
Stephen Lawhead: The Song of Albion trilogy
Philip Pullman: His Dark Materials trilogy
George Orwell: 1984 | Keep the Aspidistra Flying
J.K. Rowling: The entire Harry Potter series... Yes, I'm one of them...
Kim Stanley Robinson: The Years of Rice and Salt | The Mars Trilogy
J.R.R. Tolkien: The Hobbit | The Lord of the Rings
C.S. Lewis: The Space Trilogy
Howard Zinn
Noam Choamsky
Suzanne Collins- The Hunger Games series
Robert Jordan- The Wheel of Time series
Julia Serano: Whipping Girl
Numerous anarchist and communist writers, including but not limited to Emma Goldman, Karl Marx, Mikhail Bakunin, Murray Bookchin, etc.

Music: The Ataris, Andrew Jackson Jihad, Bassnectar, Brand New, Death Cab for Cutie, The Decemberists, Dubstep in general, E-40, Foo Fighters, The Fray, Harvey Danger, Jimmy Eat World, Kaki King, Ludo, Marilyn Manson, Maximo Park, Missy Elliot, Muse, My Chemical Romance, Panic! at the Disco, A Perfect Circle, Poets of the Fall, The Prodigy, Rage Against the Machine, Rammstein, Regina Spektor, Rob Thomas, Snow Patrol, Static-X, Straylight Run, System of A Down, Taking Back Sunday, Tegan and Sara, TV On The Radio, Vendetta Red, Yellowcard, The National, Pendulum, Pearl and the Beard, Of Monsters and Men

Internets: xkcd, Pharyngula, Ill Will Press

I need to update this more, but for now, Snowpiercer is amazing and disturbing and you should watch it.
Also, Dear White People is one of the best movies I've seen.
Movies: Akira, Clerks, Clerks 2, Chasing Amy, Mallrats, Dogma, Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back, Harry Potter, Sweeny Todd, Juno, Mirrormask, Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Run Fatboy Run, Serenity, Stranger Than Fiction, Sunshine, Taken, 28 Days Later, Blood and Chocolate, Martyr, The Boondock Saints, Children of Men, Dan in Real Life, Donnie Darko, Fanboys, Fearless, Hero, The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, Kung Fu Hustle, The Machinist, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Monty Python's Life of Brian, Office Space, The Order, A Knights Tale, The Princess Bride, Shaun of the Dead, Shoot 'Em Up, Spaceballs, Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Steamboy, Swing Kids, Wall-E, Up, What Dreams May Come, Mystery Men, Waterworld

TV: Firefly, House, True Blood even though I think it really fell off the last couple seasons, Heroes, Dexter, Stargate, Bleach, Trigun, Fullmetal Alchemist, Bones, Castle, The Colbert Report, The Daily Show, Dollhouse, Eureka, Sanctuary, Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog, Coupling, Doctor Who, Torchwood, Supernatural, Game of Thrones, No Heroics, Being Human, Shameless, In The Flesh, Continuum
The six things I could never do without
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1. Affection
2. Internet
3. Friends
4. Music
5. Philosophy & Science
6. Good Conversation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to get the most out of life. Ways that I can help improve the world we live in. What I'd do if I had superpowers. My mind never really stops working lol.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends / reading / online / really it varies...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Honestly, I'm pretty open about myself so anything you want to know is fair to ask.

I dunno, I'm queer and kinky and really fucking hate injustice.

I got a vasectomy a couple years ago, I guess that's one of those "private" things right? I dunno, I have no intention of having kids and if I ever change my mine my DNA is not so special that it needs to be propagated, I'd rather adopt a kid who needs a home.
You should message me if
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You actually read through this and didn't ragequit, you think I'm someone you'd enjoy talking to, and/or you think I'm cute.

Of if you just want to make out and hate capitalism together.