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34 • Sacramento, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 21–40
- Near me
- Who are single
- For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Apr 7
- 6′ 1″ (1.85m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
- Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
- Likes cats
- English (Fluently)
I'm currently in a long-term open relationship with the wonderful BardicKitten. She and I are open and honest with each other, and we care very deeply about one another.
In addition, I occasionally see another girl named Cyn. This relationship is not a sexual one, and fits more in the "it's complicated" realm of relationships. It's kinda' like "Friends With Benefits" without the benefits. Yeah, I know it's confusing. If you ask me for details I may be able to explain it a bit better.
If you're not scared off yet, what I'm looking for in a relationship is... something organic. I tend to start things off casual and easygoing and see where it evolves from there. I find it's not a good idea to try to lump relationships into categories, especially early on - you're still trying to figure out how well you work with each other.
Physical stuff definitely interests me, but I'm certainly open to a relationship evolving beyond that, if that's how things go. I'm not looking for a one-night stand, but I don't really have a "plan" for how any of this is supposed to go - I just try to find what works.
Also, it bears mention, that I am a part of the local BDSM community as a Dom. If kinky stuff isn't really your thing, that's fine, though I would still hope you'd be interested in making sparks fly in the bedroom.
As for me? Well, I'm an office worker by day, and to relax I like movies and videogames (but don't play them obsessively), and love to share good ones with someone I think will appreciate them.
I tend to be more of an "indoor" person, although I'm not opposed to the occasional outdoor adventure - I'm not a shut-in, just a homebody. ;-) I've actually planned quite a few really fantastic outdoor excursions, actually. In the last year alone, I've planned an outing to view the Perseid meteor shower (a yearly favorite of mine, although this last year it had to compete with the Supermoon), as well as a trip to Yosemite.
However, I'm even more proud of some of the parties I've planned with BardicKitten. Just off the top of my head, we had an Iron Man party with Martinis and schwarma, a Tron black light party, a fancy French seven-course meal for a group of close friends, and a Lord of the Rings marathon with three full meals throughout the day. Suffice it to say, the parties we've thrown have been some of the best parties I've ever been to.
As for politics, I'm politically liberal, and try to follow politics in general. I'm not thrilled with everything Obama has done during his term, but I think overall he's been a pretty good president, especially given the sort of opposition he's been facing.
I believe that progressive taxation, social programs and services, and a living wage are all important factors to give the lower class a shot at upward mobility. I believe that marijuana should be legalized but I've never smoked it and don't have an interest in doing so. I believe that the state shouldn't be involved in marriages, but as long as it's going to be, it should recognize gay marriage. And I believe that, while not *all* government regulation is good, regulation is absolutely necessary to protect average citizens from self-interested actions of wealthy corporations.
I believe that American military intervention in other countries should always be done with restraint and judgment (and it was clearly *neither* during the Bush administration), but that it *is* sometimes necessary.
I believe that abortion is a gray issue whose core question, "when does a person become a person?" is philosophical and personal and as such cannot be truly answered, but since restricting it unfairly limits a woman's capacity to choose what to do with her own body, I'm ultimately pro-choice.
And I believe in gender and racial equality, which we are still a long way from reaching in this country. However, that said, I take issue with self-proclaimed "feminists" who refuse to recognize issues that negatively affect men as well as those that affect women - equality does, after all, mean that *everyone* is treated equally. Likewise, I strongly oppose self-proclaimed "feminists" who cry foul at any sexualization of women as if sex were some sort of evil thing.
Religiously, I'm an agnostic, which I firmly feel is different than being atheist, and not just "indecisive" as a lot of people seem to think. I believe that, whatever forces are at work in the universe, that there may be some unknown and unknowable force behind it all, but as it is unknown and unknowable, it's pretty pointless to speculate on its existence. I don't think less of others who are religious (or agnostic, for that matter), and believe or disbelieve things they can't know for certain, but I do get perturbed when others try to push their beliefs onto me, or write them into our laws.
Also, as I mentioned earlier, I think I have a knack for throwing parties... :-)
I love recommending great movies to someone who's never seen them before - let me know what type of movies you like and we'll see if I can find something you haven't seen before that you'll love. Even better if we can watch it together!
As for books, there's no one specific genre that I read, although I do have quite a lot of fantasy novels (Terry Pratchett in particular). But I also enjoy the Sherlock Holmes novels and the Harry Potter books, and probably my three favorite books of all time are To Kill a Mockingbird, Huckleberry Finn and Ender's Game.
I should also note that I am a huge fan of a few web fictions - notably, Worm and Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality. For those not familiar, Worm is a story about a bullied girl who gets superpowers (and gradually becomes much, much more), and Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality is a fanfic that proves that not all fanfics are crap - this one asks the question "What if Harry Potter was raised as a firm believer in rational logic and the scientific method?".
When it comes to music, I tend to listen to a little of everything. I'm by no means any music expert though, so if you'd like to share your musical interests with me, I'd be interested in hearing what you really dig.
I love pretty much any videogame that's good, though Rock Band is a favorite I often come back to (I suck at it, but who cares? It's fun!). Even if you don't play videogames, I'd still love you to grab a microphone and sing while I jam on the plastic axe. As for other games I've liked lately, the big ones that come to mind are Skyrim, Minecraft, and Smash Bros.. I also enjoy card and board games, particularly Settlers of Catan and Dominion. I used to be big into Magic: The Gathering, but I haven't played in a long time.
As for food, my tastes are varied, though you can't go wrong with Italian food. As it happens, I know quite a few good restaurants around town, so I'd love to hear your favorite type of food. I also have a few good recipes that I think are pretty impressive, and even though I'm no professional cook, I'd love to cook for you sometime.
In particular, I'd love to hear from a girl who's a sub, or who is interested in exploring her submissive side. However, this isn't a requirement.
Other traits I value in a girl include honesty, openness, an ability to communicate, emotional maturity, patience, attentiveness, and... well, frankly, an active sex drive. I want someone who is capable of surprising me every now and then, reminding me that she's not just following my lead, but someone who's always thinking of new and creative ways to show me she's just as interested in making me happy as I am in making her happy (and I am *very* interested in making any girl I'm with happy).
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