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33 Sacramento, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–40
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Jan 20
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm currently in an open polyamorous relationship with the wonderful BardicKitten, so the "Single" status at the top of the page isn't entirely accurate. It would be better to say I am "available". She and I are open and honest with each other, so there's no cheating or anything going on. We're just open to the prospect of seeing other people in addition to each other.

At the moment, I am primarily looking for a casual relationship - nothing serious. If it should evolve into something more serious over time, that's great, but right now I just want to start with having fun, and just letting things evolve naturally. If this sounds okay to you, please read on...


Me? Well, I'm an office worker by day, and to relax I like movies and videogames (but don't play them obsessively), and love to share good ones with someone I think will appreciate them.

Also, it bears mention, that I am a part of the local BDSM community as a Dom. If kinky stuff isn't really your thing, that's fine, though I would still hope you'd be interested in making sparks fly in the bedroom.

I try to treat any woman I'm with in a chivalrous manner - opening doors, offering a coat when she's cold, walking her out to her car, etc. I like to get her small gifts on occasion, I'm attentive to her desires, I encourage her independence and interests, I take an active interest in her likes and dislikes and build on those to create a memorable experience. I love taking her out on a grand outing - a night on the town at a nice restaurant and the movies, or exploring the riverside, or on our backs under the night sky as the Perseid meteor shower bathes us in light (all things I've done, by the way).
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now I'm an office technician working for the State (not an exciting job, but it pays the bills), and in evenings I'm socializing with friends and learning what I can about the local kink scene. I've been learning all sorts of fun things inside and outside the bedroom, and have generally been having fun.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I really go out of my way to make a girl happy. As long as you let me know what you like, I'm usually pretty good at it, too. I try to learn what I can about a girl so that gifts are meaningful, and so that she's hopefully enjoying my company as much as I'm enjoying hers.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My long red hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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For movies, I like almost anything as long as it's good. Everything from timeless films like The Princess Bride, Ghostbusters and To Kill a Mockingbird to more recent films like Inception and The Social Network.

I love recommending great movies to someone who's never seen them before - let me know what type of movies you like and we'll see if I can find something you haven't seen before that you'll love. Even better if we can watch it together!

As for books, there's no one specific genre that I read, although I do have quite a lot of fantasy novels (Terry Pratchett in particular). But I also enjoy the Sherlock Holmes novels, and probably my three favorite books of all time are To Kill a Mockingbird, Huckleberry Finn and Ender's Game.

When it comes to music, I tend to listen to a little of everything. I'm by no means any music expert though, so if you'd like to share your musical interests with me, I'd love to hear what you really dig.

I love pretty much any videogame that's good, though Rock Band is a favorite I often come back to (I suck at it, but who cares? It's fun!). Even if you don't play videogames, I'd still love you to grab a microphone and sing while I jam on the plastic axe. As for other games I've liked lately, the big ones that come to mind are Skyrim, Minecraft and Batman: Gotham City. I also enjoy board games, particularly Settlers of Catan.

As for food, my tastes are varied, though you can't go wrong with Italian food. As it happens, I know quite a few good restaurants around town, so I'd love to hear your favorite type of food. I also have a few good recipes that I think are pretty impressive, and even though I'm no professional cook, I'd love to cook for you sometime.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good movies, good videogames, good food, good conversation, good company, and... well, good sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm running a film-lovers group for the local kinky community. I just finished putting on an all-day Lord of the Rings marathon (complete with meals inspired by the films). I also spend a lot of time thinking about my girl, BardicKitten, as well as finding someone new to play with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing after long work week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a part of the local BDSM community (as a Dom). If that sorta' thing doesn't interest you that's fine, but if it does, I think you and I could have lots of fun together...
You should message me if
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You should message me if you're interested. :-)

In particular, I'd love to hear from a girl who's a sub, or who is interested in exploring her submissive side. However, this isn't a requirement.

Other traits I value in a girl include honesty, openness, an ability to communicate, emotional maturity, patience, attentiveness, and... well, frankly, an active sex drive. I want someone who is capable of surprising me every now and then, reminding me that she's not just following my lead, but someone who's always thinking of new and creative ways to show me she's just as interested in making me happy as I am in making her happy (and I am *very* interested in making any girl I'm with happy).