When I was a kid, my grandfather would take me out fishing. I would
hold the rod in my hands and feel a slight pull and tell him that I
thought I had something. He'd come over, test the rod, readjust the
line, and say, "It's nothing. Just the bottom." After dancing this
jig a few times over several trips, he looked over at me and said,
"You don't have to keep asking. When you really have something,
you'll know." And I think he was right...although...
Looking back, I recall many trips out where we caught nothing, our
luck was bad, we'd feel tugs and battle and just bring up some
seaweed or sea robins or sand sharks-- nothing worth keeping-- and
somehow those days too were important and worthwhile and
What I’m doing with my life
Carl Rogers argues that the good life is a process. I seek fluidity: teaching, learning, working, biking, yogaing, running, playing, floating, swimming-- attempting to find some buoyancy, without becoming static. (Probably something similar to your own experience).
I’m really good at
Years ago I created two lists: things I did well and things I did
not do well. I carried those lists around for a few weeks, but I
guess I lost them. Too bad. They would have helped me out here.
The first things people usually notice about me
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Magic Mountain; The Castle; The Unbearable Lightness of Being; The Man Without Qualities; 2666; The End of the Affair; Growth of Soil; Invisible Man; Don Quixote; The Moviegoer
Music: Parliament Funkadelic; Bob Dylan; Sam Cooke; Tom Waits; Os Mutantes; Fela Kuti; Spiritualized; Johnny Cash; Nina Simone; Charles Mingus; Johnny Hartman; Screaming jay Hawkins; The Pogues; Lee Hazlewood; Biggie Smalls; Billie Holiday; Bomba Estereo
Movies: Pierrot le Fou; Coming to America; On the Waterfront; The 400 Blows; Raising Arizona; Back to School; Casablanca; A Separation: Blue Velvet; Annie Hall; The Celebration
The six things I could never do without
Life just wouldn't be the same without:
good company and humorous moments
visits to the sea
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Future food, future travel, future...past dreams, past people.
past...a return to my breath.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sometimes drinks; sometimes dancing; sometimes a meditation group; sometimes chill
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty open. Not sure I feel too much shame about any guilty
pleasures...but feel free to ask.
You should message me if
If you are confident: you feel pretty good about yourself (where
you are and where you're going) and you are looking for a partner
to explore and grow with you. In short, I am looking for a positive
woman, who is witty, compassionate, warm, and sharp.