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57 Newark, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–66
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 11:51am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
English, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an OKC returnee after a one year sabbatical from dating. A cleansing fast of sorts. What has changed, if anything? I would say a greater comfort of who I am as a person, and that's a good thing. I am an unrepentant mensch, who is in touch with his occasional darker, more fun side, too.

I have renewed energy for online dating, but I don't see me rushing into things. (*It's been 6 months and four first dates since I penned my profile's opening line) In fact, I am quite content at the moment just to date casually as I reacquaint myself to this clumsy and very imperfect way to meet women, but still open to finding a true partner. My biggest fear is that I may find someone (you?) who is absolutely wonderful, and I am not in a place where I truly can plunge into a relationship. Well, we will cross that bridge when...

It may be too off-putting but a first order need at the moment is physical intimacy. I never cared much for the expression "friendship with benefits" but the notion of pure casual sex does not capture what I am looking for, either. However, I would settle for "non-invasive" cuddling with you. Heck, I would settle even for sharing massages. You can tell that essentially I am aching for touch. The "fast" has gone on too long. And I recognize our need for intimacy goes well beyond the physical dimension.

Newark is not a terribly exciting place to live, but there are indeed terribly exciting people who live here, and we are midway between Oakland/Berkeley and Silicon Valley, striking distance to the Tri-Valley, across the bridge from Palo Alto/Menlo Park and Redwood City.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
...the very best I can each day. Definitely will stick with "day" as my measure of progress. I haven't quite mastered this "living in the moment" thing, but at least I am mindful of it..once in a while.

I have just started lap swimming and I love it. I am very slow, but I find it very centering.

I have also begun meditating at a Zen center once a week in San Jose.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
losing my keys, forgetting people's names, knowing all the 2-letter words, and waking up minutes before my alarm. I am also really good at, at this very moment, staying on my diet.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I would say my smile (slightly impish) emerging from my reddish/silverish goatee, and a certain gentlemanly reserve, cultivated from growing up in Montreal and Toronto.

By the way, the first is not the last.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

Stanford Theater
Paramount Theater
SJ Rep
Berkeley Rep
Shark Tank

Life is Beautiful
Shall we Dance? (prefer Japanese version)
When Harry met Sally
Breakfast at Tiffany's
LOTR Trilogy
Anything by the Coen Bros, Tarantino, and Chaplin (will play endlessly on YouTube Michael Jackson's rendition of Chaplin's "Smile")

Hulu and Netflix (have no TV)
Six Feet Under (I worked in a mortuary for a year)
Downton Abbey
House of Cards

Bill Bryson and David Sedaris
John Irving
Malcolm Gladwell
Lately, I've been reserving online through my library, books you recommend in your profiles. I've read five so far, some quite quirky, but all great.

Loreena McKennitt, Enya, Deva Premal, Slavic choral music
Bob Dylan, Leonard Cohen, Don McClean, Gordon Lightfoot, Alison Krauss, Johnny Cash
Doors, Cream
John Coltrane, love Jazz in small venues
Pink Martini, Diana Krall, Jane Monheit
Chopin, Mozart, Sharon Isbin

Omnivore (no dilemma). I eat simply, mostly at home, but natural food evangelist author Michael Pollan and my nutritionist have helped me make better food choices (have lost more than 50 lbs since March 2013). I am not a foodie, not a frequenter of interesting, trendy restaurants, more a creature of habit, who has his favorite local haunts. Honestly, though, I am open to trying anything, anywhere. Well...there is a caveat there, just can't think of it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
You can pick the six you like the most:
Touch (anything skin to skin)
My children
My parents (and eventually my memory of them)
Watching ice hockey live or listening to it on the radio
My iPhone
Strong coffee
Eye contact
Long walks
Pouring rain, storms (perhaps a casualty of climate change)
Silence, meditation
Loreena McKennitt's voice and melodies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
why many women on this site shy away from confessing anything interesting on the profile question "The most private thing I'm willing to admit" but are not inhibited about revealing the most intimate details of their lives on their OKC questions. Well, thank you, just the same.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I was abducted by aliens when I was 12, returned in a few months, enough time to prepare for my Bar Mitzvah.

Alright, I sorta made that up...I was only abducted for a few days
You should message me if
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- you are light-hearted, compassionate, intuitive, spiritual and have nice legs, curves
- if you possess only some or none of these qualities, but are interested in exploring an intimate sensual relationship, with the possibility of much more.


Bonus points if you are of Slavic descent. A Slavic accent makes me purr for some reason.