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44 Portland, OR Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 39–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Mar 2
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats

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My self-summary
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~ ~ ~ ABOUT ME ~ ~ ~
I'm a non-smoker,
(pretty much a) non-drinker, (I drink very rarely)
and vegetarian.
I would Prefer to have these things in common with someone I date. For sure no tobacco use, preferably not much alcohol. If you drink occasionally, and Truly don't have a problem... that can probably work.
I would eventually like to live with, or very near/ in community with my partner/ family... so, similar life-style choices are really nice to share.

~ ~ ~ WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR ~ ~ ~
I'd like to be in a passionate relationship with a partner who has the time and interest to explore and develop same. I realize that that's the goal, not where we start. :)
I'm open to talking on the phone a bit before deciding to meet, but I am not interested in an electronic relationship. So, if that's your thing, please click along to the next page. :)

I'm using this site to find people to meet, in 3-dimensional reality. After this electronic mode of connection, I'd like to have somewhat of an "old-fashioned" dating experience; including a willingness to communicate regularly, make plans, and see if a relationship grows from there. I'm not seeking a pen-pal.

~ ~ ~ MORE ABOUT ME ~ ~ ~
I'm very compassionate, caring, and sweet...
independent, honest & real,...
intelligent, sane, passionate...
and to most of my friends, Hilarious! :)

Politically, I'm progressive; Way left of center.
Socially/Culturally, I'm an environmentalist. I'm part of the queer community, and many of my friends are gay.

Style-wise (if that's important to you :), I'm a no make-up, no high heels, hippie-esque female. I like to look nice, and I do feel sexy, in my comfortable, casual clothes.

I live with cats. So, if you're allergic, I think that may be a deal breaker. Although, there may be work-arounds, depending on how serious your allergy is.

Some of my hobbies and interests:
Socializing with friends;
going out to dinner, parties, good conversation.
Movies, Live Comedy, Theater.
Kayaking (on lakes and rivers).
Camping (I like to bring some of the comforts of home when I camp).
I'm very health conscious and work out regularly;
aqua, yoga and cardio.

The Oregon Country Fair is always a highlight of my Summer. I work and camp there for about a week (in early July). It's a Huge, cosmic, musical, 24 hour-a-day party/circus-like event in the woods near Veneta, OR.

~ ~ ~ RELIGION ~ ~ ~
I'm an eclectic Pagan. My religious practice includes:
Yoga, Meditation, Higher Brain Living,
Kabalarian Numerology, Astrology,
Tarot, Feng Shui,
Intuition/ Divination,
Journeying (psychedelic and otherwise),
Animal Communication (and Care),
NVC (Nonviolent Communication),
Vegetarianism (Ovo-Lacto; yes dairy and eggs),
Making the world a better place.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm an Intuitive Practitioner. I help people, cats, and other creatures improve their quality of life. I utilize a wide variety of alternative modalities with my clients (see list above, under "Religion").
I love my work.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...Caring for the environment, and the creatures in it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My really long hair... if it's down.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love COMEDY:
Suzanne Westenhoefer,
Paula Poundstone,
Louis CK,
Michael McDonald,
Jim Gaffigan,
John Oliver,
and basically all of the other comedians on The Daily Show.

Jon Stewart/The Daily Show, and (until recently)
The Colbert Report were my sources for news; I just can't handle the info any other way, except through their humorous filter!

I like anything funky, with positive lyrics.
Grateful Dead*,
Michael Franti* & Spearhead,
Rolling Stones*,
The Beatles,
David Byrne*,
Talking Heads,
Smash Mouth,
Tom Petty*,
Black Keys,
Marvin Gaye,
Sugar Ray,
Stevie Wonder,
Violent Femmes*
Sir Elton John*…
* I've seen them Live!

Thai, Indian, (ideally Gormet) Pizza, Omelets, Burritos, Pasta... I'll try anything once (if it's vegetarian).

I prefer MOVIES based on real life stories;
and those that make you think:
Django Unchained,
127 Hours,
The Social Network,
Cloud Atlas,
The Invention of Lying,
The Truman Show,
Being John Malkovich,
Best In Show,
The Pursuit of Happyness,
Groundhog Day,
Not Without My Daughter,
Brokeback Mountain,
Rain Man,
The People vs Larry Flint...

Breaking Bad,
Nurse Jackie,
United States of Tara,
Six Feet Under,
Flipping Out,
Interior Therapy,
The Office,
Shark Tank,
Breaking Amish,
Sister Wives...
It's ok if you "don't own a tv", as long as it's ok with you that I do. :) I find that I watch very little TV when I'm in a relationship.

Jitterbug Perfume,
Mists of Avalon,
The Woman's Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets,
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life,
Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,
Go Dog Go,
Are You My Mother?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Gotta love this question...
~ Air
~ Water
~ Food
~ Shelter
~ Clothing
~ Companionship/Community
and, likely in that order.

What I think this question means to ask...

List six things that you are really attached to:
And, make it a list that will amuse the reader.
What six things "define" who you are??
~ Intelligence
~ Passion
~ Humor
~ Friends
~ Apple products, and
~ Tom-Tom; the fluffy, black, traveler kitty.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...Why so many guys post zero photos of themselves smiling. I suppose if you really don't ever smile, then don't just smile for the camera. But, really?... you don't ever smile? :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a little kinky, and open to a partner who is mild to medium kinky... but probably not super kinky. I'm a very private person, sexually... so, no play parties, no exhibitionism... if you don't even know what those terms mean, we still may be compatible.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Please do message me if you think we might be a match... especially if you're super smart... INTELLIGENCE is a huge "turn on" for me. ;)

I also highly value:
communication skills,
knowledge of basic punctuation, decent grammar, and the willingness to use both,

a quick, sharp wit, (Compatibility of HUMOR is essential :) .

If you happen to be tall, have long hair, and/or vegetarian tendencies… all the better, but not necessarily required :)

If you message me, I will reply.*
It disappoints me when people ignore messages. It's so unnecessary.
What?, it would kill you to say "Thanks for your message, but I don't think we're a match"?
Too much effort? Yeah, we're not a match. :P

*There are one or two exceptions (when I probably won't reply to your message):
If you are clearly a catfish (fake, internet persona), or have nothing in common with me (and clearly haven't read any of my profile); to those messages I likely will not reply.