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31 Turners Falls, MA Non-binary, Cis Man

Non-binary, Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
White, Other
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Strictly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
My self-summary
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Inquisitive. Lover of nature. Hoping to die in a more just community than the one I was born into.

Preference for dating people with an active interest in dismantling the capitalist imperalist ableist white supremacist cisheteropatriarchy.

Cis-ish questioning male-socialized person. Intentional. Mindful. Playful. Non-monogamous. Kinky. Pansexual. Nerd.

Interested in friendly and sincere connections. If they are hot, that can be very fun. Interested in people who share similar values, vision and style to hang and go on adventures.

Each relationship, for me, intimate or otherwise, is a unique set of circumstances, shared passions, and agreements. I value mutuality, transparency, honesty, and consent in all of them.

I enjoy adventure and quiet equally. Too much of one or the other leaves me feeling seriously off-balance. I am a neutrovert! Learning new things is always exciting for me, whether it is out in the world or in the privacy of an intimate connection.

I am passionate about working with open-hearted people to make the world a safer, healthier, more just and nourishing place. Particularly interested in direct action and building alternative community structures that struggle to oppose systemic oppression.

I meditate, journal, and work on my own healing and growth in a regular way. I believe cultivating kindest and clarity and wish I were better at both.

Grew up playing in a wetland ravine near my house, which taught me to know and feel the land. Love being outdoors and finding magical out of the way places to sit or wander about.

Other people who truly passionate make me happy. If you are genuinely thrilled about anything and are excited about justice then I would like to have tea or a walk with you.

I think I am a weird one, noticeably outside the neurotypical range and self-identified as autistic. I have odd sensitivities and habits, and am currently living with reoccuring fatigue, digestion issues, and chronic pain as well as a history of trauma. These invisible disabilities are a significant part of my life and my identity.

I feel most at home when I'm mutually held by a group of excellent leaders. I like to know that I'm serving and connecting with others, and to be seen/acknowledged doing it.
What I’m doing with my life
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I spend time in community with people going through extreme states, difficult life crises, and practicing wellness as a member of the Western Mass Recovery Learning Community.

My other main projects include supporting anti-oppression organizing and workshops, particularly around racism, emotional wellness, childhood, trauma, mindfulness, healing, psychiatry, and the mass incarceration. I occassionally travel to conferences, institutions, and retreats to attend or facilitate things.

Gradually making an effort to rehab a chronic hip injury and other body issues through. Regular movement is very important to me and I'd love to find more partners for yoga, hiking, etc.

I enjoy photography, music, and dancing. I once learned to play the fiddle - presently on hiatus with that. I write poems on occasion, but mostly prose, and get outdoors often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping down hills.

Observing sunsets.

Fixing things and solving puzzles.

Teaching a group of people about something.

Being tired and watching tv.

Connecting with people.


Rejoicing in strength and connecting with challenges.

Strategizing through uncomfortable situations.

Web development and other computer-y tasks.

Grounded, alternative approaches to health, and emotional wellness including bodywork and self-inquiry techniques.

Turning children upside-down.

I seem to be good at making people laugh unintentionally. When I'm comfortable, most everything is a comedy, and sometimes things I say with relative earnestness come out hilariously.

The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know about FIRST things. Sometimes I worry about that. But the feedback I most often get is: Tall, gentle, easy to be around, relaxing voice, younger than I look.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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For books, I like stuff related to activism, culture, identity, and healing. A large portion of what I read is anti-racist material by black women and other women of color. Currently I'm exploring gender and other identity struggles and reading "Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity"

Feel free to recommend me a good novel especially with liberation and justice themes. I need more imagination boosters. Exploring Octavia Butler right now.

Enjoy dramas in any media. At any given time I watch two or three dramas and sci-fi TV shows that are playing on TV. My favorite show of all time is Avatar: The Last Airbender and I am currently in love with Steven Universe.

Fond of cinema. Sucker for fantasy/myths/comic-book film but also love well-made realistic drama, mind-tripping epics, and smart comedies. I watch a lot of marvel movies and kids films. The more nuanced my intersectional feminist analysis grows, the harder it has become to watch many films, but I still often enjoy the art form even when I feel frustrated at the content.

I'm open to all kinds of music but tend to especially revolve around folk, rock, blues, electronic music, and political hip-hop.

I enjoy a wide range of food, though I'm on a somewhat restricted diet and am learning to love simplicity after being a passionate cook for many years. I enjoy experimenting in the kitchen.

Generally just a big mythology/fantasy/sci-fi and justice nerd.

I'll also put here that I play some online games including Hearthstone and League of Legends when I feel like I have the time or need a break from life. I also dabble with what's new in the world of indie, artsy, and creative single-player games, and sometimes RPGs, though I usually don't have the time or attention to complete them anymore.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Nourishing Food
Vibrant Sunny Green Places
Living Bodies of Water

Flexible structures
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

The intersections of health, justice, community, and spirituality. I love exploring the ways people make meaning of their lives and trying on the appealing views and practices I see in others. I think a lot about how to communicate more clearly and be as helpful as possible, which usually seems to involve relaxing, owning my own experience, listening carefully to others, and being honest.

I do a lot of fantasizing about articles I'd like to write and classes I'd like to teach.

For work I end up thinking a ton about mental health, wellness, psychiatric oppression, and how to communicate with kindness about power and meaning and identity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My schedule is somewhat fluid. I often pursue my own projects at my own pace. This makes my weekly schedule pretty random.

Fridays and Saturdays are what work for other people as far as going out so you'll often find me exploring then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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How about two?

I feel a lot more than most people notice. Fall in and out of love quickly with people, situations, moments in time... I sometimes become busy paying attention to odd details or distracted by my voices and miss what people say.

I am very tactile and love all sorts of touch and intimacy with people I trust: Dancing, massage, wrestling, tantra, kink. I used to practice bodywork and gain energy from exploring embodiment with other people.
You should message me if
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You want to disrupt the capitalist imperalist ableist white supremacist cisheteropatriarchy with me.

You're creative, grounded, passionate, and trusting in life. You like my profile and consider me a potential friend, peer, collaborator, play-partner, or lover.

You want someone to walk in the woods or meditate or play games with.

You identify as some combination of polya, feminist, nerdy, active, outdoorsy, comfortable in your body, eager to dance, active in social justice work, and committed to personal growth. Not resonating with a couple of these could still make for a wonderful connection in my experience, but if you only relate with one or two then I think it is likely we won't be a close match, whatever our percentage here may be.

I love to connect, especially one-on-one. Meeting anyone is uniquely interesting to me, even many people who I wouldn't want to see regularly. I've met several friends and allies on here. Feel free to be in touch even if you don't think I might be the sexy kind of match for you.