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AmateurSunset

31 Turners Falls, MA Man, Genderfluid

Man, Genderfluid

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 3
Orientation
Pansexual, Heteroflexible
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Pisces
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Status
Open relationship
Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Inquisitive. Lover of nature. Hoping to die in a more just community than the one I was born into.

Preference for dating people with an active interest in dismantling white supremacy and struggling against other forms of oppression.

Cis-male. Intersectional Feminist. Anti-racist. Intentional. Mindful. Non-monogamous. Kinky. Pansexual. Nerd.

Interested in friendly and sincere connections. If they are hot, that's great too.

Every intimate relationship, for me, is a unique set of circumstances, shared passions, and agreements. Right now I am in a committed non-monogamous relationship with a person I met on here. We both date other people and she might be interested in meeting people I date more than once or twice.

I enjoy adventure and quiet equally. Too much of one or the other leaves me feeling seriously off-balance. I am a neutrovert! Learning new things is always exciting for me, whether it is out in the world or in the privacy of an intimate connection.

I am passionate about working with other open-hearted people to make the world a safer, healthier, more just and nourishing place. Particularly interested in direct action and building alternative community structures that struggle to undo oppression and other harms.

I meditate, journal, and work on my own healing and growth in a regular way. I believe cultivating kindest and clarity.

Grew up playing in marvelous wetland ravine near my house, which taught me to know and feel the land. Love being outdoors and finding magical out of the way places to sit or wander about.

Other people who truly passionate make me happy. If you are genuinely thrilled about anything I'd like to sit down and have tea with you. If you are also passionate about justice, art, and transformation, then it's likely I will want to be your friend!

I am a weird one, noticeably outside the neurotypical range. I have odd sensitivities and habits, and am currently living with a lot of fatigue and chronic pain. This means I live with a few invisible disabilities. I am persistently a privileged outsider and have spent much of my adult life exploring alternative activist, cooperative, and spiritual circles.

I feel most at home when I'm held by a group of excellent leaders. I like to know that I'm serving others and be seen doing it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spend time in community with people going through extreme states, difficult life crises, and practicing wellness as a member of the Western Mass Recovery Learning Community.

My other main projects include supporting anti-oppression organizing and workshops, particularly around racism, emotional wellness, childhood, trauma, mindfulness, healing, psychiatry, and the mass incarceration. I occassionally travel to conferences, institutions, and retreats to attend or facilitate things.

Gradually making an effort to rehab a chronic hip injury through Pilates, yoga, dance and running. Regular movement is very important to me.

I enjoy photography, music, and dancing. I once learned to play the fiddle - presently on hiatus with that. I write poems on occasion, but mostly prose, and get outdoors often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping down hills.

Observing sunsets.

Fixing things and solving puzzles.

Teaching a group of people about something.

Being tired and watching tv.

Connecting with people.

Touch.

Rejoicing in strength and noticing where people get stuck.

Responding with openness and courage when things make me uncomfortable.

I adequately perform web development and other computer-y tasks.

Integrated approaches to health, and emotional wellness including bodywork and self-inquiry techniques.

I love hanging out with children of all ages.

I seem to be good at making people laugh unintentionally. When I'm comfortable, most everything is a comedy, and sometimes things I say with relative earnestness come out hilariously.

Cooking!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know about FIRST things. Sometimes I worry about that. But the feedback I most often get is: Tall, gentle, easy to be around, relaxing voice, younger than I look.

Different.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I used to read books on religion and spirituality, and personal development. Now I binge on activism, cultural, and economic stuff. Lately it's been almost all anti-racist material by black women.

Feel free to recommend me a good novel especially with liberation and justice themes. I need more imagination boosters.

Enjoy dramas in any media. At any given time I watch two or three dramas and sci-fi TV shows that are playing on TV. My favorite show of all time is Avatar: The Last Airbender. It's a cartoon.

Love cinema. Don't know where to start listing favorites because I'm a fan of such a range. Definitely a sucker for fantasy/myths/comic-book film but also love well-made realistic drama, mind-tripping epics, and smart comedies. The deeper my feminist analysis grows, the harder it has become to watch films, but I still often enjoy the art form even when I feel frustrated at the content.

I'm open to all kinds of music but tend to especially revolve around folk, rock, blues, and electronic music. Recently adding revolutionary hip-hop to this list.

Love live music especially smaller, intimate shows.

I enjoy a wide range of food, though I'm on a somewhat restricted diet and am learning to love simplicity after being a passionate cook for many years.

Media nerd, mostly TV and niche video games but also sometimes film, scifi, anime, comic books, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Community
Nourishing Food
Sanctuary
Vibrant Sunny Green Places
Living Bodies of Water
Justice

Flexible structures
Hugs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The intersections of health, justice, community, and spirituality. I love exploring the ways people make meaning of their lives. I think a lot about how to communicate more clearly and be as helpful as possible, which usually seems to involve relaxing, owning my own experience, and being honest.

I do a lot of fantasizing about articles I'd like to write and classes I'd like to teach.

For work I end up thinking a ton about mental health, wellness, psychiatric oppression, and how to communicate with great kindness about topics that elicit tough emotions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My schedule is very fluid. I mostly pursue my own projects at my own pace. This makes my weekly schedule pretty random.

Fridays and Saturdays are what work for other people as far as going out so you'll often find me exploring then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I feel a lot more than most people notice. Fall in and out of love quickly with people, situations, moments in time... I sometimes become busy paying attention to odd details or distracted by my voices and miss what people say.

I am very tactile and love all sorts of touch and intimacy with people I trust: Dancing, massage, wrestling, tantra, kink. I used to practice healing work and gain energy from exploring the unique ways each person inhabits their body.

I spend a substanial amount of time playing video games.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to defy gendered programming that makes me the aggressor/initiator and you the choosy respondent.

You're creative, grounded, passionate, and trusting in life. You like my profile and consider me a potential friend, peer, collaborator, play-partner, or lover.

You identify as some combination of poly, feminist, nerdy, active, outdoorsy, comfortable in your body, eager to dance, active in social justice work, and committed to personal growth. Missing a couple of these could still make for a wonderful connection in my experience, but if you only relate with one or two then I think it is likely we won't be an intimate match, whatever our match percentage might be.

You understand that our ingrained patriarchal customs are oppressive and harmful toward women (and limiting for men). I will not expect to have your attention or have sex with you at any point, but I might let you know if I find you sexy, after getting to know you in person. If we find each other attractive, then we can talk about that. I am happy just being with people either way.

You are interested in honest communication from the outset. I do best with explicit language and have limited capacity to be in situations where I sense that either party is holding back our true feelings. I'd much rather have a straightforward disconnection than a partially insincere connection.

I love to learn new ways of being. Everyone is so uniquely interesting. I've met several friends and allies on here, so feel free to be in touch even if you don't think I'm the sexy kind of match.

In terms of ongoing partnership I'm pretty full up, but might be interested in someone whose life would be served by once- or twice-a-week liasons. I am most open to people with a strong sense of personal path and support structure who are interested in mutually nourishing meetups and sharing in each other's journey.