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AmateurSunset

30 Turners Falls, MA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:23pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White, Other
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Pisces
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Relaxed, gentle, inquisitive. Lover of nature, including human beings in all their variety.

Cis-male. Trans-friendly Feminist. Anti-racist. Intentional. Mindful. Non-monogamous. Kinky. Pansexual. Anti-oppression advocate.

Interested in friendly and sincere connections. If they are hot, that's great too.

I find a lot of guys attractive and tend to relate better-than-average with queer people, although I have only wanted to hook up with other men who I was already very close to.

Every intimate relationship, for me, is a unique set of circumstances, shared passions, and agreements. Right now I am in an ethical, and communicative non-monogamous relationship with somebody I met on here. We both date other people and she would be interested in meeting you.

I enjoy adventure and quiet equally. Too much of one or the other leaves me feeling seriously off-balance. I am a neutrovert! Learning new things is always exciting for me, whether it is out in the world or in the privacy of an intimate connection.

Gravitate toward deep personal dialogue. Also enjoy play and casualness. Especially when there's something to work on or DO together.

I am passionate about working with other open-hearted people to make the world a safer, healthier, and more nourishing place. Particularly interested in direct action and building alternative community structures.

I meditate, journal, and work on my own healing and growth in a regular way. I believe skillful embodiment of our best and kindest self is a disappearing art in our culture. I am curious about what tools for personal and social development are most helpful. How can we become our full selves, and learn to serve each other - and the greater ecology - more completely.

Grew up playing in marvelous ravine/wetland near my house, which taught me to know and feel the land. Love being outdoors and finding magical out of the way places to sit or wander about. Sometimes this is deep in the woods, other times its just an odd strip of brush off a major road where something special abides.

Other people who truly passionate make me happy. If you are genuinely thrilled about anything I'd like to sit down and have tea with you. If you are also passionate about justice and transformation, then it's likely I will want to be your friend!

I am a weird one, noticeably outside the neurotypical range. Grew up an outsider and have spent much of my adult life exploring alternative activist, cooperative, and spiritual circles. I feel most at home when I'm in a leadership role or held by a group of other excellent leaders. I like to know that I'm serving others and be seen doing it.
What I’m doing with my life
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I spend time in community with people going through extreme states, difficult life crises, and practicing wellness as a member of the Western Mass Recovery Learning Community.

My other main projects include anti-oppression organizing and workshops, particularly around racism, emotional wellness, childhood, trauma, mindfulness, healing, psychiatry, and the mass incarceration. I travel here and there to conferences and institutions doing these trainings.

I recently spent two years helping to run the website Mad In America.

Gradually making an effort to rehab a chronic hip injury through Pilates, yoga, dance and running. Regular movement is very important to me.

I enjoy photography and I'm learning to play the fiddle. I write poems on occasion, but mostly prose, and get outdoors often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping down hills.

Fixing things and solving puzzles.

Teaching a group of people about something.

Performing small tasks as though they are a big deal.

Performing significant tasks as though they were no big deal (okay I'm working on this one).

Connecting with people on the emotional and energetic levels.

Touch.

Rejoicing in strength and noticing where we get stuck. Responding with openness and courage when things make me uncomfortable.

I adequately perform web development and other computer-y tasks; practice integrated approaches to health, including trauma-infored somatic healing and cranio-sacral therapy.

I thrive off relationships of all forms, and tend to easily connect as deeply as the space will allow with whomever I relate to.

I love hanging out with children of all ages and miss having that be a part of my life.

I seem to be good at making people laugh unintentionally. When I'm comfortable, most everything is a comedy, and sometimes things I say with relative earnestness come out hilariously.

Cooking!
The first things people usually notice about me
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Tall, gentle, easy to be around, younger than I look.

Different.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I sometimes read books on religion and spirituality, and personal development. Other times I binge on activism, cultural, and economic stuff.

Feel free to recommend me a good novel, I need more imagination boosters.

Enjoy dramas in any media. I watch high-brow dramas and sci-fi TV shows that are playing. Last year I watched the entire new series of Doctor Who and thought it was mostly great. Stewart and Colbert fan most of the time. My favorite show of all time is Avatar: The Last Airbender. It's a cartoon.

Love cinema. Don't know where to start listing favorites because I'm a fan of such a range. Definitely a sucker for fantasy/myths/comic-book film but also love well-made realistic drama and smart comedies. The deeper my feminist analysis grows, the harder it has become to watch films, but I still often enjoy the art form even when I feel frustrated at the content.

I'm open to all kinds of music but tend to especially revolve around folk, rock, blues, and electronic music.

Love live music especially smaller, intimate shows.

I enjoy a wide range of food, though I'm mostly sugar and dairy free.

Longtime nerd: Scifi, video games, anime comic books, etc...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Community
Healthy Food
Sanctuary
Vibrant Green Places
Living Bodies of Water
Sunshine

7) Hugs
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The intersections of health, justice, community, and spirituality. I love exploring the ways people make meaning of their lives. I think a lot about how to communicate more clearly and be as helpful as possible, which usually seems to involve relaxing. Lately I do a lot of fantasizing about articles I'd like to write and classes I'd like to teach.

For work I end up thinking a ton about mental health, wellness, psychiatric oppression, and how to communicate with great kindness about topics that elicit tough emotions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My schedule is very fluid. I mostly pursue my own projects at my own pace. This makes my weekly schedule pretty random.

Fridays and Saturdays are what work for other people as far as going out so you'll often find me exploring then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I feel a lot more than most people notice. Fall in and out of love quickly with people, situations, moments in time... I sometimes become busy paying attention to odd details and miss what people say.

I have happy, feminist-informed kinky leanings that I have largely come to peace with after much study and turmoil. I understand consent to be situational/dynamic, and consider myself "role queer."

In addition to all the other things in this profile, I spend a substantial amount of time playing video games.
You should message me if
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You want to defy gendered programming that makes me the aggressor/initiator and you the choosy respondent.

You're creative, grounded, passionate, and trusting in life. You like my profile and consider me a potential friend, peer, play-partner, or lover.

You identify as some combination of kinky, poly, feminist, nerdy, active, outdoorsy, comfortable in your body, eager to dance, active in social justice work, and committed to personal growth. Missing a couple of these could still make for a wonderful connection in my experience, but if you only relate with one or two then I think it is likely we won't be an intimate match, whatever our match percentage might be.

You understand that the ingrained patriarchal custom where women are the gatekeepers of everybody's sexuality in hetero courting rituals is bullshit. I will not expect to have sex with you, but I might let you know if I find you sexy, after getting to know you in person. You do not have to conceal your own attraction, or lack thereof, from me out of fear of being pressured, coerced, assaulted, or ignored. If we find each other attractive, then we can talk about that. I'm happy just being with people either way. I no longer feel obliged to embody standardized and dis-empowering dating roles.

I love to learn new ways of being. Everyone is so uniquely interesting. I've met several friends and allies on here, so feel free to be in touch even if you don't think I'm the sexy kind of match.

In terms of ongoing partnership I want someone(s) with a strong sense of personal path and support structure who is interested in sharing in each other's journey. I want people to face the exciting fire of life with, shoulder to shoulder, more than clinging to each other face-to-face. Happy to explain this more.