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31 Turners Falls, MA Non-binary, Genderqueer, Man

Non-binary, Genderqueer, Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–40
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:07pm
White, Other
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
6' 3" (1.91m)
Body Type
Other and it’s important
Might want kids
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Passionate. Inquisitive. Hoping to die in more just communities than the ones I was raised in.

Gender-questioning male-socialized human. Anti-oppression organizer/support-person. Intentional. Mindful. Playful. Non-monogamous. Kinky. Polysexual. Nerd.

I value mutuality, transparency, honesty.

I am a neutrovert/ambivert. I need to get out and I need a lot of space to myself.

I think I am a weird one. I am neurodivergent and self-identify as autistic. I am living with reoccuring fatigue, digestion issues, and chronic pain, as well as a history of trauma. These invisible disabilities are a significant part of my life, and at the same time only one part of who I am.

I meditate, journal, and work on my own healing and growth in a regular way. I try to cultivate kindest and clarity and becoming a better support to my communities.

Grew up playing in a wetland ravine near my house, which taught me to know and feel the land. Love being outdoors and finding magical out of the way places to sit or wander about.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Supporting a racial-justice happenings.

Hanging out and holding space with the Western Mass Recovery Learning Community.

Fixing, carrying or banging on things.

Writing, dancing, and playing music. Maybe.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping down hills.

Observing sunsets.

Fixing things and solving puzzles.

Teaching a group of people about something.

Being tired and watching tv.


Turning children upside-down.

The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Tall? White? Either gentle and friendly or socially awkward depending on whether I just ran out of spoons?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Generally just a big mythology/fantasy/sci-fi and justice nerd.

I read stuff about racism and healing mostly by POC and gender-noncomforming folks.

Octavia Bulter

Lots and lots of things. Dramas, superheroes, cartoons, anime, sci-fi... Favs are Avatar: The Last Airbender and Steven Universe.

creative folk, pop rock, dancable-but-not-too-repetative electronic music, and political hip-hop.

Restricted diet and am learning to love simplicity after being a creative cook for many years.

Hearthstone, League of Legends, various RPGs, rougelikes, puzzlers, and indie thingies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Nourishing Food
Vibrant Green Places
Moving Water

Flexible structures
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

How people make meaning around health, justice, community, and spirituality.

How to communicate kindly and clearly, which usually seems to involve relaxing, owning my own experience.

I do a lot of fantasizing about articles I'd like to write and classes I'd like to teach.

For work I end up thinking a ton about mental health, wellness, psychiatric oppression, and how to communicate with various people about power and meaning and identity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Lately I'm overachieving and Friday is when my CSA comes in so I'm probably finishing up a full day and enjoying looking at veggies I can't cook because I don't actually have a stove yet in my new place.
You should message me if
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You want to disrupt the capitalist imperalist ableist white supremacist cisheteropatriarchy with me.

You want someone to walk in the woods or meditate or play games with.

You identify as some combination of polya, feminist, nerdy, active, outdoorsy, comfortable in your body, eager to dance, active in social justice work, and committed to personal growth. Not resonating with a couple of these could still make for a wonderful connection in my experience.

I love to connect, especially one-on-one. My social schedule is usually not as full as I'd like because maintaining it isn't one of my strengths.

I've met several friends and allies on here. Feel free to be in touch even if you don't think I might be the sexy kind of match for you.