Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Inquisitive. Lover of nature. Hoping to die in a more just
community than the one I was born into.
Preference for dating people with an active interest in dismantling
the capitalist imperalist ableist white supremacist
Cis-ish questioning male-socialized person. Intentional. Mindful.
Playful. Non-monogamous. Kinky. Pansexual. Nerd.
Interested in friendly and sincere connections. If they are hot,
that can be very fun. Interested in people who share similar
values, vision and style to hang and go on adventures.
Each relationship, for me, intimate or otherwise, is a unique set
of circumstances, shared passions, and agreements. I value
mutuality, transparency, honesty, and consent in all of them.
I enjoy adventure and quiet equally. Too much of one or the other
leaves me feeling seriously off-balance. I am a neutrovert!
Learning new things is always exciting for me, whether it is out in
the world or in the privacy of an intimate connection.
I am passionate about working with open-hearted people to make the
world a safer, healthier, more just and nourishing place.
Particularly interested in direct action and building alternative
community structures that struggle to oppose systemic
I meditate, journal, and work on my own healing and growth in a
regular way. I believe cultivating kindest and clarity and wish I
were better at both.
Grew up playing in a wetland ravine near my house, which taught me
to know and feel the land. Love being outdoors and finding magical
out of the way places to sit or wander about.
Other people who truly passionate make me happy. If you are
genuinely thrilled about anything and are excited about justice
then I would like to have tea or a walk with you.
I think I am a weird one, noticeably outside the neurotypical range
and self-identified as autistic. I have odd sensitivities and
habits, and am currently living with reoccuring fatigue, digestion
issues, and chronic pain as well as a history of trauma. These
invisible disabilities are a significant part of my life and my
I feel most at home when I'm mutually held by a group of excellent
leaders. I like to know that I'm serving and connecting with
others, and to be seen/acknowledged doing it.
What I’m doing with my life
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I spend time in community with people going through extreme states,
difficult life crises, and practicing wellness as a member of the
Recovery Learning Community.
My other main projects include supporting anti-oppression
organizing and workshops, particularly around racism, emotional
wellness, childhood, trauma, mindfulness, healing, psychiatry, and
the mass incarceration. I occassionally travel to conferences,
institutions, and retreats to attend or facilitate things.
Gradually making an effort to rehab a chronic hip injury and other
body issues through. Regular movement is very important to me and
I'd love to find more partners for yoga, hiking, etc.
I enjoy photography, music, and dancing. I once learned to play the
fiddle - presently on hiatus with that. I write poems on occasion,
but mostly prose, and get outdoors often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping down hills.
Fixing things and solving puzzles.
Teaching a group of people about something.
Being tired and watching tv.
Connecting with people.
Rejoicing in strength and connecting with challenges.
Strategizing through uncomfortable situations.
Web development and other computer-y tasks.
Grounded, alternative approaches to health, and emotional wellness
including bodywork and self-inquiry techniques.
Turning children upside-down.
I seem to be good at making people laugh unintentionally. When I'm
comfortable, most everything is a comedy, and sometimes things I
say with relative earnestness come out hilariously.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know about FIRST things. Sometimes I worry about that. But
the feedback I most often get is: Tall, gentle, easy to be around,
relaxing voice, younger than I look.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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For books, I like stuff related to activism, culture, identity, and
healing. A large portion of what I read is anti-racist material by
black women and other women of color. Currently I'm exploring
gender and other identity struggles and reading "Nobody Passes:
Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity"
Feel free to recommend me a good novel especially with liberation
and justice themes. I need more imagination boosters. Exploring
Octavia Butler right now.
Enjoy dramas in any media. At any given time I watch two or three
dramas and sci-fi TV shows that are playing on TV. My favorite show
of all time is Avatar: The Last Airbender and I am currently in
love with Steven Universe.
Fond of cinema. Sucker for fantasy/myths/comic-book film but also
love well-made realistic drama, mind-tripping epics, and smart
comedies. I watch a lot of marvel movies and kids films. The more
nuanced my intersectional feminist analysis grows, the harder it
has become to watch many films, but I still often enjoy the art
form even when I feel frustrated at the content.
I'm open to all kinds of music but tend to especially revolve
around folk, rock, blues, electronic music, and political
I enjoy a wide range of food, though I'm on a somewhat restricted
diet and am learning to love simplicity after being a passionate
cook for many years. I enjoy experimenting in the kitchen.
Generally just a big mythology/fantasy/sci-fi and justice
I'll also put here that I play some online games including
Hearthstone and League of Legends when I feel like I have the time
or need a break from life. I also dabble with what's new in the
world of indie, artsy, and creative single-player games, and
sometimes RPGs, though I usually don't have the time or attention
to complete them anymore.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Vibrant Sunny Green Places
Living Bodies of Water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The intersections of health, justice, community, and spirituality.
I love exploring the ways people make meaning of their lives and
trying on the appealing views and practices I see in others. I
think a lot about how to communicate more clearly and be as helpful
as possible, which usually seems to involve relaxing, owning my own
experience, listening carefully to others, and being honest.
I do a lot of fantasizing about articles I'd like to write and
classes I'd like to teach.
For work I end up thinking a ton about mental health, wellness,
psychiatric oppression, and how to communicate with kindness about
power and meaning and identity.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My schedule is somewhat fluid. I often pursue my own projects at my
own pace. This makes my weekly schedule pretty random.
Fridays and Saturdays are what work for other people as far as
going out so you'll often find me exploring then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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How about two?
I feel a lot more than most people notice. Fall in and out of love
quickly with people, situations, moments in time... I sometimes
become busy paying attention to odd details or distracted by my
voices and miss what people say.
I am very tactile and love all sorts of touch and intimacy with
people I trust: Dancing, massage, wrestling, tantra, kink. I used
to practice bodywork and gain energy from exploring embodiment with
You should message me if
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You want to disrupt the capitalist imperalist ableist white
supremacist cisheteropatriarchy with me.
You're creative, grounded, passionate, and trusting in life. You
like my profile and consider me a potential friend, peer,
collaborator, play-partner, or lover.
You want someone to walk in the woods or meditate or play games
You identify as some combination of polya, feminist, nerdy, active,
outdoorsy, comfortable in your body, eager to dance, active in
social justice work, and committed to personal growth. Not
resonating with a couple of these could still make for a wonderful
connection in my experience, but if you only relate with one or two
then I think it is likely we won't be a close match, whatever our
percentage here may be.
I love to connect, especially one-on-one. Meeting anyone is
uniquely interesting to me, even many people who I wouldn't want to
see regularly. I've met several friends and allies on here. Feel
free to be in touch even if you don't think I might be the sexy
kind of match for you.
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