Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Inquisitive. Lover of nature. Hoping to die in a more just
community than the one I was born into.
Preference for dating people with an active interest in racial
justice and struggling against other forms of oppression.
Cis-male. Trans-friendly Feminist. Anti-racist. Intentional.
Mindful. Non-monogamous. Kinky. Pansexual. Anti-oppression
Interested in friendly and sincere connections. If they are hot,
that's great too.
Every intimate relationship, for me, is a unique set of
circumstances, shared passions, and agreements. Right now I am in
an open intimate relationship with one person I met on here. We
both date other people and she might be interested in meeting
people I date more than once or twice.
I enjoy adventure and quiet equally. Too much of one or the other
leaves me feeling seriously off-balance. I am a neutrovert!
Learning new things is always exciting for me, whether it is out in
the world or in the privacy of an intimate connection.
I am passionate about working with other open-hearted people to
make the world a safer, healthier, more just and nourishing place.
Particularly interested in direct action and building alternative
community structures that struggle to undo oppression and other
I meditate, journal, and work on my own healing and growth in a
regular way. I believe cultivating kindest and clarity. I am
curious about what tools for personal and social development are
most helpful when, and for whom.
Grew up playing in marvelous wetland ravine near my house, which
taught me to know and feel the land. Love being outdoors and
finding magical out of the way places to sit or wander about.
Other people who truly passionate make me happy. If you are
genuinely thrilled about anything I'd like to sit down and have tea
with you. If you are also passionate about justice, art, and
transformation, then it's likely I will want to be your
I am a weird one, noticeably outside the neurotypical range. I have
odd sensitivities and habits, and am currently living with a lot of
fatigue and chronic pain. This means I live with a few invisible
disabilities. I am persistently a privileged outsider and have
spent much of my adult life exploring alternative activist,
cooperative, and spiritual circles.
I feel most at home when I'm held by a group of excellent leaders.
I like to know that I'm serving others and be seen doing it.
What I’m doing with my life
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I spend time in community with people going through extreme states,
difficult life crises, and practicing wellness as a member of the
Recovery Learning Community.
My other main projects include anti-oppression organizing and
workshops, particularly around racism, emotional wellness,
childhood, trauma, mindfulness, healing, psychiatry, and the mass
incarceration. I sometimes travel to conference, institutions, and
retreats to attend or facilitate things.
Gradually making an effort to rehab a chronic hip injury through
Pilates, yoga, dance and running. Regular movement is very
important to me.
I enjoy photography, movement, and dancing. I once learned to play
the fiddle - presently on hiatus with that. I write poems on
occasion, but mostly prose, and get outdoors often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping down hills.
Fixing things and solving puzzles.
Teaching a group of people about something.
Being tired and watching tv.
Connecting with people.
Rejoicing in strength and noticing where people get stuck.
Responding with openness and courage when things make me
I adequately perform web development and other computer-y
Integrated approaches to health, and emotional wellness including
bodywork and self-inquiry techniques.
I love hanging out with children of all ages.
I seem to be good at making people laugh unintentionally. When I'm
comfortable, most everything is a comedy, and sometimes things I
say with relative earnestness come out hilariously.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Tall, gentle, easy to be around, relaxing voice, younger than I
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I used to read books on religion and spirituality, and personal
development. Now I binge on activism, cultural, and economic stuff.
Lately it's been almost all anti-racist material by black
Feel free to recommend me a good novel, I need more imagination
Enjoy dramas in any media. At any given time I watch two or three
dramas and sci-fi TV shows that are playing on TV, although my
favorite show of all time is Avatar: The Last Airbender. It's a
Love cinema. Don't know where to start listing favorites because
I'm a fan of such a range. Definitely a sucker for
fantasy/myths/comic-book film but also love well-made realistic
drama, mind-tripping epics, and smart comedies. The deeper my
feminist analysis grows, the harder it has become to watch films,
but I still often enjoy the art form even when I feel frustrated at
I'm open to all kinds of music but tend to especially revolve
around folk, rock, blues, and electronic music. Recently adding
revolutionary hip-hop to this list.
Love live music especially smaller, intimate shows.
I enjoy a wide range of food, though I'm on a somewhat restricted
diet and am learning to love simplicity after being a passionate
cook for many years.
Media nerd, mostly TV and niche video games but also sometimes
film, scifi, anime, comic books, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Vibrant Sunny Green Places
Living Bodies of Water
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The intersections of health, justice, community, and spirituality.
I love exploring the ways people make meaning of their lives. I
think a lot about how to communicate more clearly and be as helpful
as possible, which usually seems to involve relaxing, owning my own
experience, and being honest.
I do a lot of fantasizing about articles I'd like to write and
classes I'd like to teach.
For work I end up thinking a ton about mental health, wellness,
psychiatric oppression, and how to communicate with great kindness
about topics that elicit tough emotions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My schedule is very fluid. I mostly pursue my own projects at my
own pace. This makes my weekly schedule pretty random.
Fridays and Saturdays are what work for other people as far as
going out so you'll often find me exploring then.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I feel a lot more than most people notice. Fall in and out of love
quickly with people, situations, moments in time... I sometimes
become busy paying attention to odd details or distracted by my
voices and miss what people say.
I am very tactile and love all sorts of touch and intimacy with
people I trust: Dancing, massage, wrestling, tantra, kink. I used
to practice healing work and gain energy from exploring the unique
ways each person inhabits their body.
I spend a substanial amount of time playing video games.
You should message me if
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You want to defy gendered programming that makes me the
aggressor/initiator and you the choosy respondent.
You're creative, grounded, passionate, and trusting in life. You
like my profile and consider me a potential friend, peer,
collaborator, play-partner, or lover.
You identify as some combination of kinky, poly, feminist, nerdy,
active, outdoorsy, comfortable in your body, eager to dance, active
in social justice work, and committed to personal growth. Missing a
couple of these could still make for a wonderful connection in my
experience, but if you only relate with one or two then I think it
is likely we won't be an intimate match, whatever our match
percentage might be.
You understand that our ingrained patriarchal customs are
oppressive and harmful toward women (and limiting for men). I will
not expect to have your attention or have sex with you at any
point, but I might let you know if I find you sexy, after getting
to know you in person. If we find each other attractive, then we
can talk about that. I am happy just being with people either
You are interested in honest communication from the outset. I do
best with explicit language and have limited capacity to be in
situations where I sense that either party is holding back our true
feelings. I'd much rather have a straightforward disconnection than
a partially insincere connection.
I love to learn new ways of being. Everyone is so uniquely
interesting. I've met several friends and allies on here, so feel
free to be in touch even if you don't think I'm the sexy kind of
In terms of ongoing partnership I'm pretty full up, but might be
interested in someone whose life would be served by once- or
twice-a-week liasons. I am most open to people with a strong sense
of personal path and support structure who is interested in
mutually nourishing meetups and sharing in each other's journey. I
want people to face the excitement and pain of life with, shoulder
to shoulder, more than clinging to each other face-to-face for
solace (although that can be nice too). Happy to explain any of
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