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43 • Riverview, FL • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 32–46
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 7:59am
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Mostly anything
- Other, but not too serious about it
- Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from Ph.D program
- Science / Engineering
- Rather not say
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- Likes dogs and has cats
I've been a gypsy of sorts, due to the various paths my life and careers have taken. Florida makes the eighth state I have lived in. I'm a former academic that has re-joined the corporate world, I was previously at a private research institute after leaving the corporate world, but due to grant funding issues I am now to the corporate world, thankfully this time at a much better company.
I'm a geek, a gamer, a sci-fi enthusiast, a foodie, and in general, a character. I'm also a pagan (though non-practicing lately), am poly / polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous, there is a lot going on to say the least.
I'm married. We are polyamorous, this is not me looking to cheat or lie, my presence here on OKC is known, in fact encouraged, my wife is SamhainBorne. I am here looking for someone interested in getting together, friendship, dating, basically to see what happens, I don't have a specific goal or definition that I am after, I prefer to let things evolve and happen, rather than be constrained to specific categories or limitations.
I am geeky, mischievous, multifaceted, and over-educated.
My corporate career has been very educational after being an academic so long. I taught for 6 years previously and that was after college and grad school, (I was institutionalized I think *grin*).
I have gotten to do a lot of travel (domestic and international) in my current and previous jobs which has been great, I enjoy being able to do some travel but not living out of a suitcase. And I greatly enjoy the chance to eat lots of local foods and when I have a chance to see new places other than conferences/tradeshows and customer sites.
These days I am starting to explore our area of Florida and the South, seeing what it has to offer, and trying to make it our new home. We were seriously spoiled by Madison, WI (where we lived before), so it will take time and some serious work to make things click, but I am up to the challenge. And of course it would be great to have people to help me find those unique things that will make this area my new home. I really enjoyed Madison, it was the perfect blend of what I like, not too crazy a city and not too rural. As a foodie there was so much food there to enjoy! And as a gamer it was an ideal place, as I had developed some great groups, and they have led to some great friendships.
I keep trying to build a good, regular gym routine. I get close, but then fun social opportunities arise or lots of work travel happens and then my schedule gets messed up. But I keep trying, maybe some day I can establish a good routine, and get some discipline.
I am a hardcore gamer. Lots of D&D (I've played all versions), GURPS, World of Darkness, GURPS, Call of Cthulhu, dabbled a little in Pathfinder, Shadowrun,. Serenity, and plenty more. I've been dabbling in Steampunk and run a GURPS campaign. Lately I have been adding to my Munchkin collection. And I need to add more to the Settlers of Catan sets so there are more options. Want to get me started? Just ask about my dice, and you'll see how crazy a gamer I can be. Though I do like to get into a serious game of Scrabble now and then, and use my crazy vocabulary, these days I play too much Words With Friends. A good game of Monty Python Fluxx works too. I had a great stretch where I was able to experience a wide range of conventions, from local cons (in WI) (OddCon and RockCon) to finally making it to GenCon in 2011, I hope to return again soon, more for seeing friends, the dealer room, and people watching. Plus we've managed to get to TeslaCon 2 and 3 - an amazing Steampunk con held in Madison.
I'm a good cook, all the years in the chemistry lab mean I have plenty of good techniques, I'm just adapting them to the kitchen. And I can follow a recipe as well. I like to start with a recipe and then start adjusting and adding in my little changes and tweaks. I would like to do more grilling, I am still getting my skills where I want them when it comes to the grill.
I'm very good at being nocturnal, though I play a morning person when at work (though it is a stretch some/most days), thankfully work has lots of good free coffee and espresso.
And I am very good at being a cat person, so if you are allergic to cats it may be a challenge. Through my wife I got involved in a cat rescue group while we were in Wisconsin. I helped with adoption fairs, socializing feral rescues, and eventually fostering cats. We only have two cats now, our furkids, as we are not planning on any other kind of kids.
Even though I can be very outgoing I am an introvert so some days I just need space and quiet. And I do tend to look at profiles a few times while I get up the nerve to send a message. I always worry that my first message to someone sounds completely lame and boring, if I have messaged you and this is the case please give me a chance, soon you'll see my friendly (and chatty) personality shine through the initial shyness.
I've been told I have nice blue eyes.
There is a mischievous gleam in my eyes now and then, and usually a grin that can go with it. Though I can keep a straight face when I am up to something.
Movies: Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Iron Man, Batman, Serenity, Indiana Jones, Monty Python, Buckaroo Banzai, James Bond, Spiderman, Star Trek, The Princess Bride, Real Genius, The Thin Man series, The Court Jester, The Wicker Man (the first one), Die Hard, Ghostbusters, Superman, Men in Black, Casablanca, X-Men, Highlander, Escape from New York, and many more. And new to the list: The Avengers, Thor, Captain America. Obviously I like sci-fi and adventure movies.
Shows: Doctor Who, Torchwood, M*A*S*H, The Twilight Zone, Star Trek, Star Trek: The Next Generation, Babylon 5, Life After People, lots of Food Network - Alton Brown is my favorite, Coupling, Top Gear, Graham Norton, Dexter, Father Ted, CSI, NCIS, Bones, Firefly, Dresden Files, Oddities, Travel Channel.
Music: My music tastes tend to rock, hard rock, metal, classic also Celtic, comedy, and other eclectic things at times. Bands such as: Led Zeppelin, Black Sabbath, The Beatles, Jimi Hendrix, AC/DC, Metallica, Megadeth, Type-O Negative, Jethro Tull, Dr. Demento, The Wet Spots, Halestorm, In This Moment, The Chieftans, Clannad, Colcannon, Bad Company, King Crimson, Twisted Sister, Mediaeval Babes, Libana, Mudvayne, Queen, Rob Zombie, Weird Al Yankovic, plus lots of others.
Food: Italian, Indian, Thai, Mexican, Tex-Mex, Southwestern, Chinese, Japanese, and so much more! I recently fallen deeply in foodie love with Vietnamese pho, due to a great small place near where I work. I love good spicy foods, new experiences. And I have a major sweet tooth, so I am always up for dessert. I got to travel in India and enjoyed all the amazing food I got to try. I can eat breakfast for any meal (but must eat breakfast foods for breakfast no matter what time I day am eating breakfast), and think going out to brunch is a wonderful thing. I love diner food all the way up to crazy, exotic foods. So I can be a foodie, or just a food lover.
Internet connected device(s)
My cats - two of them these days
Sleeping in & Good Coffee - a definite combo (even better if it is Dunkin' Donuts coffee and donuts)
All my gaming stuff (gotta have lots & lots of dice!)
Sex - I'm a sensualist
And tattoos - they may be covered for work, but I like my ink and always need more work.
Of course at work I tend to be thinking of things involving marketing, science, and the mix of the two.
I'm not a loud or smoky bar type. I very much prefer to be able to have a good conversation. I definitely prefer smaller more intimate gatherings versus large crowded areas. Nor am I much of a sports person, I would rather be doing something than sitting around watching other people do things.
And if you want to know more I am slowly building up my FetLife profile, look me up under DrAlchemy.
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